Pillow princess’ and high femmes being described as selfish will always enrage me because to me they are the most giving partners I could have. As a stone butch I could only be seen properly by them. They do not make my boundaries feel like a rejection. They see me as I am just as I see them. Neither of us need to be changed or “fixed”. They understand that my own needs can be fulfilled through their pleasure. Hearing them called selfish is to say that they do not give. Yet all that they do is give.
















