Miss Banks

“Sleep tries to seduce me by promising a more reasonable tomorrow.”

"You're going to have a very rich summer. Those experiences you daydream about are going to happen this summer. You are absolutely going to thrive this summer. The positive memories you're going to make are unlike any summer. You're not ever going to forget this summer. You can feel the joyous momentum building up this summer. This will be your best summer."

If you want to heal, don’t focus on healing — focus on living fully because healing happens in the background when you're present, playful, nourished and real

Stop entertaining men that keep you in survival mode. You can’t sleep, you’re checking your phone constantly, you’re anxious, confused, you’re getting mixed signals. These are all clear signs you are entertaining a guy who will simply waste your time for as long as you allow. And the last part is key ‘as long as you allow’. The purpose of these type of men in your life is not that you can suffer, it’s to help you learn and understand the importance of having boundaries. Something many are not taught, especially those who have grown up in abusive households. You simply accept the suffering at the hands of those you love. But here’s the thing, you’re not a child anymore, and until you consciously stop playing out your childhood wounds you will continue to recreate scenarios that are there to help you break the cycle. So, no he is not your soul mate, that familiar feeling of connection is your soul recognising your next lesson. He is a lesson. And Not having the language for setting boundaries is usually the first challenge. But what you have to do is listen to your body. Yes you’re anxious, and this is a sign. Yes you can’t sleep because he didn’t text back, this is your sign, yes you under eat/ over eat because of the stress of dating him this is your sign. Your body is speaking to you. This is the first step in boundaries. To listen to the signals from your body and notice what’s making you react. Get clear on what your body is physically letting you know is not okay. Write it down. This is the inner work to begin healing and breaking your curse of non-existent boundaries.