Dream Wedding

I figured since I have been asked this more than once, and with the last question I just answered, that I would go into a little extra detail of how I determine my rates and why they are not the same for every guy.

So here’s how it works for me…

My day rate actually varies. I tend to run things a little differently than other girls who have a “take it or leave it” mentality.

I am more open to new ideas and different situations, and I will accommodate different men with different services and finances. Meaning, that once I’ve gotten enough information about them, I sit down and do my homework to figure out an arrangement that will make us both happy. Sometimes its impossible, and other times its just a matter of tweaking the fine print.

For example; lets assume I charge $1,500 for a day, and they don’t want to pay $3, 000 for 2 visits a month, but they are interested in $2,500 for 2 visits a month. I would hesitate to say no for a difference of $500? Especially, if everything checked out and I enjoyed my time with them. That’d almost be silly of me to say no, as I’d really be out a possible $2,500… not just the $500.

Or for another example let’s say they offer me $1,500 to see me once a month, and I’m so stuck on the fact that some one else pays $2,000 to see me once a month, that I say no to a good opportunity because I’m blinded by numbers and don’t see the possibilities.

The “work” involved will be different for the different situations that I encounter. And as no two arrangements/Clients are the same…I create options for us both to be happy. Keep in mind that I do have a bottom line, that I will not go under, but everything above it is a bonus!

There are many things to consider when I set my rate for someone. Such as:

* What is the amount of time that I will be spending with them?

* What are the activities planned, whether its for business functions or personal fun, and do they require certain “upkeep” factors, such as hair appointments, dress code etc?

* Is there is travelling involved? (such as with S) And do I enjoy the place I’m travelling to as if its a mini holiday from my everyday life?

* Are they “needy” with communication?

* What are their personal finances and career like? Can they afford more than my bottom line?

* Do I enjoy my time with them or does it feel long and like work?

* How long have I been seeing them?

* What is our sexual chemistry like, is it intense/electric or just blah? (Would I consider him good enough to be paid to do what I’m doing? Lol)

* Do I have free time during our dates together?

* Is he teaching me something that I would have to otherwise pay someone else to do… such as investing/business tips?

* How often does he travel to my city and how often he will want to see me?

* Plus there are other things to think of as well, like did he pass my screening and is squeaky clean, is he new to this lifestyle, will he be a repeat Client or is this a one-off? etc etc…

The point is, for me, it is not a cut and dry number. I take the whole arrangement into account, the person and the finances.

This is possibly why I have the great Clients that I do. Knock on wood!! In a way, they cater to me, and I cater to them. I like to look at the glass as half full, not half empty.

It’s all in how you negotiate for what you want and how they respond for what they need. By saying no to quickly, without hearing the possibilities, I could be missing out on a great thing.

For instance, R has a weekend rate that is the lowest of them all. And had I not given him a chance and gotten to know him, I would have missed some amazing opportunities…not to mention the extra $14,000 that he has gifted to me to put towards renovating my home, AND a credit card to use with no restrictions, for nothing in return….My SD hasn’t even done that.

I do try to make something work before assuming it won’t work. I take my time to process things before throwing out a number randomly. It’s a business to me, and I treat it as one.

Pepper Spray (for safety).

Small pocket knife (for safety).

Condoms (because men like to “forget”).

Fake Money Pen ( to check the money is real).

Lube (just always have lube).

Spare panties & tights (you’re going to need this).

Perfume & Body mist (smelling good is essential plus you’ll need a refresher once you’re done).

Body/Massage oil (I make my own mix with almond oil and strawberry scented essential oil men love it).

Hair brush & hair band.

Wipes.

Travel makeup bag (things get messy don’t they so you’ll need to refresh your makeup before you leave).

Flats (if I’ve worn heels that day).

Minty/Sweet Gum (to stay fresh baby).

Peanuts (for energy ho).

Bottle of water.

Wallet (always hidden in a small compartment in my bag).

Work & Personal Phone (personal phone stays hidden away and never in sight of client).

Small tip: in the first 5 minutes of meeting, exchange your pleasantries, compliment them and their home or hotel room and then say something along these lines… “Should we take care of business before pleasure?”. Say it sweetly rather than hurriedly so it sounds like you’re eager to get to the good stuff and aren’t being super transactional. Once the money has been handed to you, you can either excuse yourself to the bathroom to “freshen up”, or you can ask for a glass of water. Either way, count the money discreetly out of his sight before stashing it away. Also, don’t drink that water. Don’t take anything you haven’t seen being poured/opened in front of you.

When everything is done, you should aim to be up and out in less than 5 minutes. Typically after an orgasm it takes about 3 minutes for the euphoric feeling to dissipate and really you don’t want to be around when that happens. Some men start to feel guilty for paying for sex and for some it’s the opposite, they’ll want you to stay for longer. Excuse yourself to the bathroom and freshen up as quick as possible, you should have a routine that you do for your exists to make yourself quicker. Once all that is done, say something sweet about how amazing that was and how you had a fabulous time and you hope to see him again. Say it like you believe it even if you don’t. Give him a tight hug and a kiss and be on your way.

If you don’t drive, make sure you book your uber as soon as you get into the bathroom. Or if you have a trusted cab company, try and prebook for 10/15minutes after the time your booking ends.

I took pictures of myself, had strangers take photos of me, and even hired a freelance photographer to snap some shots of me, at various places such as the beach, restaurants, clubs, my hotel room and such. I posted those photos on my social media. It’s like SEO but on a smaller scale. 

I tagged my location in each photo and used relevant hashtags. Hashtags are your secret weapon because you can boost your engagement by using the right hashtags, but remember not to overdo it because it’s always quality over quantity. I put multiple relevant tags that were specific to the audience I was targeting. I researched the social media pages of “models” who had booking info that were either in The South of France, Dubai, or some place known for escorts, and I looked into the way they posted. I noticed a trend in the way they took their photos, the captions they used, the hashtags they used, the number of hashtags included in posts, and how often they posted. I implemented those trends into my posts and saw a good amount of traffic to my pages. 

I already had my booking info in my bio section and kept my DMs open. I directed people who contacted me through DM to contact me at the booking email posted in my bio. 

I don’t have any personal social media accounts. I post everything to my work accounts. 

To state things bluntly: Demand more, and start teaching men their place. It’s unfortunate, because I see the pattern with both girls who’ve gained experience and girls new to the industry that they place significant time, effort, and devotion into men who clearly have nothing significant to offer, and I imagine with the cold winter months coming and business beginning to slow down, a significant number of paid companions will be looking for arrangements or be susceptible to compromising their standards as well. Even women who have successfully entered an arrangement for a long-period of time or were spoiled girlfriends and kept women often seem to struggle with setting the standards for a new arrangement, and I would argue that in large part, this wasted effort comes from the conflicting messages that surround how exactly to get a man to spend money on you. Furthermore, just because a man gives you money - or if a man is willing to spend on you, does not mean that he is worth the time and energy. 

In large part, I would argue that this effort comes from the belief that you need to prove yourself, you need to exhibit yourself as high-class, or otherwise give up something in order to have a successful arrangement or session. Let me say this: You don’t have to do shit. I see all of this nonsense about wearing the right designer fit, crafting the perfect text message with a singular emoji, and supposedly applying manipulation and playing mind games to obtain what you want. You don’t have to do any of that, and perhaps the women who gave this advice used these tactics to obtain a result, but in reality, this has little to no effect on your rate of success. These are just individual things that they themselves do and feel comfortable with - and that’s great, because they then exhibit a sense of authenticity and expression of their personality, which perhaps lets them procure a successful arrangement, but it’s really not the end goal or point. Pick and choose what you like, what you feel comfortable with, and then be at the right place and at the right time, then to be frank, you shouldn’t have any problem. If you have difficulty with finding the right clientele, I might suggest that you’re looking in the wrong places.

Here is what will happen: he will spend, or he will not. He has the funds, or he does not. He is either generous, or he is not generous. Those are the literal only two things that will happen, and as much as we might like to think that we can manipulate someone into paying, more often than not, the expectation is set by the very first meeting and he already knows whether or not he will spend. Ultimately, everything else is irrelevant, given that we’re looking to be paid. All of the rambling about whether he wants to see you in person first, as he bumbles and blathers about the need for “chemistry”, requiring you to jump through unnecessary hoops is just a disguise for his absence of generosity, inability to understand the rules and standards of a paid companion, and his uselessness. Please stop entertaining unworthy time-wasters who clearly exhibit red flags. You will get nothing substantial out of it.

Some authentic and genuine men are looking to get to know a person and perhaps, would like to initiate conversation and meet you prior to starting an arrangement. That’s perfectly fine, and these are not the time-wasters that I am talking about. Real candidates will know exactly what you’re looking for. The minute that someone significantly younger and attractive matches with them, they should know exactly what you’re looking for, what is about to happen, and should act in accordance with that. That means that even when they initiate conversation, they do so in a respectful way. There’s the discussion of following your intuition, and to some degree that is true, but ultimately, I would argue that there are clear patterns and signs that men exhibit that indicate whether they are a worthwhile client or not. 

What I qualify as red flags: If a man attempts to neg you - to insult your appearance, the way that you dress, or otherwise tries to dismiss you in a disrespectful way, particularly on the first match, I report, block, and unmatch. He is trying to attempt to establish a power imbalance. Ignore. The instant a man tries to bring up something vaguely sexual, for instance, calling you ‘baby’, asking for a ‘home date’, or even mentioning a ‘cuddle’ without giving you money, you know this is the wrong man and he is evidently trying to get something for free. An actually genuine man interested in an arrangement will never ask, even if you all text back and forth. if he asks about your body or your measurements or for inappropriate photos, it’s the exact same scenario. Ignore or report. If he tries to make some sort of false justification about the need to know where his money is going, then he is trying to lie and manipulate. Men know the instant they see your pictures and photos whether they like you. Anything else is bullshit.

INVEST INTO YOUR APPEARANCE. I scroll through tumblr & IG looking at all of these sugar accounts and sometimes I cringe. Some girls take photos in mirrors and their backgrounds are filthy. Some girls just look really unkempt. I will never post an image of myself on the internet not looking my very fucking best. I’ve gained many clients simply from RT’s or they saw my photos or website, etc. I portray what I want. I’ve seriously invested into my appearance and lifestyle and it’s paying off big time. You want luxury, you have to think and be it. I’m saying this to say, you never know whose watching!

Never buy designer goods for yourself unless a man is buying it for you. Remember this, always save your money.

You attract what you put out. I’m not saying this to me be mean but you HAVE to pay attention to detail. You don’t have to spend tons of money to look great either, it’s all about the effort. Class goes a long way, TRUST ME.

I think we all know how sexwork is mostly based on psychological manipulation & when you wanna seduce a man, you must start with his brain. But if he’s already crazy over you, you can let another weapon in the action: your body.

1. Communication

When you’re comfortable, talk with him about sex: but don’t write a script. Give a hint about your fantasies & what you expect from each other in bed. This step will make it easier to impress him.

2. His body and the details

Have a knowledge about the erotic zones of the male body & their details. Tease him a lot and make the foreplay long. Instead of going straight into the point, touch him softly, whisper into his ears and don’t take off all of your clothes

3. The right look

Stockings, lingerie and heels are the holy grail when it comes to sex. For your makeup, highlight your lips and eyes & clear your skin, but let it glow.

4. Sex culture

Research, research, research. Read books, articles & watch documentaries. Watch porn - it’s where men get informed too - and memorize the positions and anything you would feel uncomfortable about in real life. Learn about the most common fetishes & perfectize your technique.

5. His ego

We all know how damn insecure men are, so you must bring him out of that vibe and make him feel like the sexiest man ever. Use your body language, eyes and voice: look at him amazed.

Yes! The personal branding class taught me that branding will not include all of my essence in its core. It is simply about the parts of me that my clients will most enjoy. That’s no slight to the self, but that’s simple marketing. You have to envision your perfect client. What do they look like? What do they like to discuss? To eat? What are their likes and dislikes? What do they pride themselves on? After you’ve figured this out, do your research on your area. Figure out how many of your perfect clients exist near you. Find everything they dislike and throw it out. Find everything they like and amp that up. For example, my perfect client I know would dislike any references to or about pop culture because they’re moneyed and ~cultured~. If my client hates pop culture, there is a good chance he will hate outfits that are not sophisticated and smart. So fast fashion and cheap-looking lingerie is out of the window. I know my perfect client would read Forbes, travel magazines, and investing magazines. The first and last items are business related. While he’ll want to discuss them (and while I have the range to discuss it), I am trying to be his getaway. So I will focus primarily on those travel magazines. Read those. What hot spots does your perfect client enjoy? Is it rustic, classic, or modern? What does he like to do in these hot spots?

This is what I based my pictures off of. I chose different settings and stages that will appeal to my ideal client’s getaway–things they would never do on a daily basis but enjoy wholeheartedly when they can. None of them were inherently sexual (more seductive–like a tease). I am leaning towards the companion branding and carefully wording later on that “sex during our date is probable if the chemistry is right”, lol. As for color theory, I noted which colors I saw most saturated in those travel magazines; which ones convey serenity and/or unadulterated passion. Reds, yellows, blues, whites/creams, pinks. Any colors you see along the European coast are colors I used in my shoot. I want to blend with the image of a getaway so that their minds associate me with luxurious peace–peace they must pay for. I got tired of having to write that I expect only top tier hotels, gifts, and donations. Now my pictures reflect it. The fabrics I used were the soft fabrics–silks, tweeds, velvets (sparingly). I wore my diamonds as well. Kept everything soft and feminine. 💞

A website of course and business cards are okay as well. You need a website to host all of your images, your bio, your rates etc. The majority of escorts accept cash and some accept deposits using Venmo or Cash App. I honestly only accept cash from first time clients, unless I am booked for an appointment 6hrs or more. At that point, I require a 25% deposit of my total fee.

Most of your clients will find you via the internet so you want to make sure your internet presence is exquisite. My website is beautifully crafted, my photos are very high end, even how I run my social media sites, I’m always giving you luxury escort vibes. I also have an auto email set up so when anyone contacts me, it’s very detailed with instructions on how to book me.

I use protonmail as my email company.

Square Space & Wix are great sites to use to build a website. Also, vistaprint is great for ordering business cards.

Make sure your business card is simple.

Name

Phone

Email

Website

Please don’t add anything on there stating you’re an escort. For safety reasons and it’s just not classy. Men know, trust me. And if he doesn’t know, he’ll know when he visits your website.

When you’re starting out, you have to price yourself to the location. Unless you’re marketing to a specific area, or if you’re in a huge city, you’ll probably have to start out a bit lower. I would recommend starting lower (not low!) just to get a feel for escorting. High-end is a different game and no one really taught me how to play it until three months ago. Now I’m playing it by ear. Higher quality clients don’t do hourly bookings and I didn’t realize that until recently either. Big spenders want full GFE for hours on end. Trust me: don’t say you do GFE but only want them to fuck and leave. You need a good persona & to immerse yourself in it.

If you’re not sure about advertising (I’m not either because of all of the stings), you can freestyle. Freestyling doesn’t always have to be in person. You can freestyle on Tinder, Hinge, OKC, Pure, Niteflirt, Fetlife, anything that isn’t strictly for escorting. I have a good friend who pulls clients off Tinder. If you have a good bio and know how to market yourself, you’re gold. Watch who you’re matching with for telltale signs of a cop though. Set your location in areas that cops can’t afford. If you’re freestyling in person like at a bar, the way to avoid stings and to avoid lower end clients is to go to highly expensive areas on weekdays when no specials are being run to places that aren’t known for hoeing. Don’t dress indecently. Befriend the bartender, they know where the regular big spenders are and when they go. Tip them well and chat them up. When it comes to speaking to a potential client, you don’t always have to allude to something sexual either. You can talk freely (with your persona on of course) with a few flirts here and there and give them your card with your site on it. I do the same when I’m chatting up a stranger who looks well to do and could be a potential client. I personally don’t mention money when I’m freestyling anymore because it’s hazardous and I see that now. I’d only attempt it in Monaco. Men who’re interested in you will look up your site and see what you’re about, and nothing was illegal about that exchange. :-) How many clients you get based off of this is directly correlated to how much work you put into it. However, from experience, it’s better to have a few regulars than barely any regulars and a lot of new cats coming in.

The key to keeping steady clients if you’re doing GFE is to make it the best damn experience they’ve ever had. Plan it out like it’s an event! Make it special for them. It sounds cliche but they truly just want to feel cared about. If you feel like a girlfriend to them, they’ll keep coming back. So beyond sex, just talking with them, going places with them, massaging them, or even cooking for them (real shit, I knew a girl who did this) makes them feel like the money was worth it. I have regular and VIP prices. My VIP prices include things like a massage, penpal services, or any skill I have that would make them feel loved. Regular prices are GFE of course, but not as specialized. If you have any similar skill put it out there!!! Make yourself truly unique. Like, my cursive is beautiful, so after an overnight, if I’m tryna shower and he’s still asleep, I’ll write a note to him. Something cheeky. I lay it on THICK. I even remember all the details they tell me so upon our next meet I can ask them about it. I’ve made some cookies and bought them gifts (under $100, it’s nothing compared to what they pay me tbh) personalized to their tastes. They like to feel like you’re present. Like a genuine girlfriend they can travel with and spoil without baggage. That’s where the big money comes from, and it’ll keep coming if you treat them like the love of your life when you’re together.

As for tips: make sure you always get the money first and make sure it’s real. Have them give it to you in an envelope, book, or card inconspicuously. I prefer books, adds to my erudite profile. Don’t forget screening at ALL. You need to know exactly who they are. Real clients know you aren’t about to dox their information or anything. Zabasearch and Stud or Dud should be some of your best friends. Never let them tie you up or put you in any position you can’t get out of. Bring your own condoms, they might poke holes in theirs or they might be expired. Check periodically to make sure the condom’s still on. If they’re trying to position you a certain way again and again, there may be a camera in the room. Make sure to check for one and ensure that both of your phones/laptops/whatever are off and far from reach. That’s why I have a heaux apartment I rent out—because there will never be a camera in my own place. I bought detectors for that. Stick to your persona as well! Make sure you don’t contradict yourself. If you have to write down the fake shit write it down, but keep it in your brain. Keep a hoe phone, hoe number, hoe name, hoe email (protonmail is key). Make sure your photos don’t show ANYTHING identifiable. Some girls don’t use the blur feature well enough. And don’t host your site or servers in the US, that’s foolish with SESTA/FOSTA. Just ensure that whatever information you’re putting out can’t be traced back to you at all. Keep a taser, knife, or gun on you and know how to use them. Always let someone you trust know where you are so they can check in with you.

The main methods I accept:

Cryptocurrency (Bitcoin, Litecoin, Tron, Ripple) through an anonymous wallet - I.e, not Coinbase, which requires an ID —> this is one of the few mainstream ways that is not reversible

Various gift cards, including Amazon gift cards, which must be input and tested prior to use. Do not accept until you see the money into your account. I convert Amazon gift cards into cryptocurrency and then American currency, using Purse (https://purse.io/shop)

For regulars who have passed screening, I will accept Venmo with a specialized Venmo account (no bank information) in which I privately transfer the funds to yet another anonymous Venmo user (to my bank account).

Other vendors: GiftRocket, Paxum, WooCommerce USA ePay

More information here, by Miss Freudian Slit