Edge

You don’t have to figure out and solve everything right now.

You can’t.

Life is too complex.

Pick one thing. Maybe the most challenging thing and pick away at one part of it. Maybe the least challenging thing to get something out of the way. Maybe no things at all, just make a note on your phone or stick a post-it somewhere to remind you of things another time.

Is that even something you can eat??

The reclamation of qu/e/er is older - and in some cases twice as fucking old - as some of you trying to give it back to our fucking oppressors!!!

You will find HUNDREDS if not THOUSANDS of academic sources and books that use this word, because it's our god damned word!! It's our history! It's our past, present and future!!

We took this word back with blood, sweat and tears. It is shameful you would try to give it back to the people who used it to hurt us. WHY, for the love of fuck, do you want to do that?

If you personally don't identify with it, fine. But stop spreading the rhetoric that it's "just a slur", or "everyone hates it", and stop trying to get everyone else to stop using it.

Yes, it is an exclusionist and terf dogwhistle to spread "it's a slur!!" - they want to exclude trans people from the LGBT community. They want to exclude anyone who doesn't fit into their narrowly defined boxes, and qu/e/er is vague on purpose. It includes everyone who feels at home in our community. It is inherently the most inclusive term we have.

"Well I don't feel included by it!"