She drastically improves her appearance.

She upgrades her knowledge of etiquette and manners and improves her social skills.

She changes her environment in order to increase the chances of meeting men with money.

She makes a conscious decision to stop associating herself with men of lesser means and inferior position.

She continues climbing no matter what, because settling is never an option.

Trust me sleep matters way more than you think it does. For my studies I require absolute focus (like I gotta work for like 50 min straight no breaks full on focus, at least three or four times a day, your average fella will break focus after around 10-15 minutes) and the impact of poor sleep is blatant in my classes and labs. I can't be efficient if I lack sleep. I get distracted more easily. I'm less interested and less receptive. If you're scrolling on Tumblr till 2AM, chronically lacking sleep, maybe try it out for a few days to get some complete hours of sleep. No nap, just 8+ hours sleep.

Naps are a whole ass lie in my honest opinion. They don't provide the deep sleep necessary for true recuperation, and it makes it harder to fall asleep later in the evening, in my situation.

You need deep sleep for good health, good focus good memorization (it's in sleep that memorization HAPPENS). All those benefits are very partial of you take naps and they're maximized if you get the full hours of sleep to satisfaction, without being disturbed (deep REM sleep).

If you're younger, deep consistent sleep is essential to mental health, brain development (it actually doesn't stops developing till around 25yo!), physical development, everything. It's basically the foundation of everything else.

Sleep is self care, there I said it.

This is just an example: Ashley Graham’s size doesn’t matter because she’s had a modelling contract since she was twelve years old. She was given the space and time to cultivate her niche in modelling, on top of the connections she’s made (almost entirely famous and wealthy people), on top of the timing of the body positivity movement suiting her niche perfectly. Even if someone were to call her fat, she is making so much money off of it that she knows her value and that this actually isn’t easy for others to do. She can give advice to people that will resonate with them but it won’t give them the same pass that she has, the majority of plus-sized women will still be treated like shit when they step outside.

Too strong to be abused.

Too smart to be deceived.

Pay a lot of attention to the announcement done for each girl. What do they have in common? they are not just pretty faces and nice bodies. Each one of them are pursuing a goal, expanding their options, beauty is not their only plan and it should not be for you either.

- pilates and/or yoga 5 days a week

- taking care of my body, mind, and soul

- less screen time

- more podcasts and books, less social media

- home cooked meals and trying new recipes

- fresh flowers around the house

- peaceful days

- creating a staple wardrobe

- quality time with loved ones

- loose leaf tea before bed

- biweekly manicures

- at home facials, face masks, and gua sha massages

- growing in my faith

I want to share with you some things that I must accomplish within the new year to become the dream girl I desire to be. This checklist is a promise to myself of what will change in my life and things I will no longer tolerate going into the new year. I will be keeping you all updated throughout the year of 2022 just to stay motivated and hopefully can motivate you all as well to stop doing the same things over year after year & become your desired dream girl as well.

1. Become fluent in Spanish by the end of 2022

2. Finish my interior decorating & floral design courses by March 2022

3. Consistently go to the gym 3x a week in 2022

4. Stop eating fast food & cook way more

5. Start taking immune system shots at Arden's Garden

6. Read 10 books or more by the end of 2022

7. Travel at least 5x in 2022

8. Save $10,000

9. Control my shopping addiction (budget more)

10. Buy more expensive skincare

11. Start waking up no later than 9:15 AM

12. Buy myself flowers every week

13. Attain 3 new hobbies

14. Stay focused & determined at work

15. Stop complaining

16. Make new friends with people who are goal-oriented & motivated

17. Make better decisions in who I choose to date

18. Treat myself to the spa once a month

19. Keep a high - maintenance image (lashes, nails, toes, skin, wardrobe, etc.)