Responsibilities of the Dominant
Being a Dominant may start out as just fun, kinky play - but when becoming involved and entangled in most D/s dynamics, you take on certain responsibilities along with that role. Â Based on experience, reflections, and answers to a survey, these are the seven responsibilities of a Dominant.
A Dominant must:
1. Â Respect. Â There must be respect for the submissive - respect for their desires and wishes; respect for their nurturing and growth; respect for their consent, body, and safety. Â Dominance without respect becomes dangerous.
2. Â Protect. Â Taking on a submissive is a serious undertaking, and the Dominant becomes responsible for their protection and safekeeping. Â They must be kept protected from others and even from certain parts of themselves. Â Dominance without protection is powerless.
3. Â Direct. Â The Dominant must command, instruct, and guide on no uncertain terms. Â Directions must be clear, concise, realistic, and specific. This is the primary active role of the Dominant, to provide direction and guidance to the submissive. Â Dominance without direction is inadequate.
4. Â Inspire. Â It is not enough for a Dominant to simply give direction; they must inspire the submissive to obey the direction. Â In different dynamics, this will take different forms - submissives may be inspired by fear, pain, command presence, love, experience, or a number of other factors and qualities. Â Dominance without inspiration is contrived.
5. Â Correct. Â Once direction is given, the Dominant must follow through and correct any faults and shortcomings observed in the submissiveâs obedience - with any discipline required to enforce the corrections. Â Dominance without correction is unproductive, or worse, counter-productive.
6. Â Nurture. Â Direction and correction should be given to grow and better a submissive, not just for the sake of it. Â A Dominant should challenge a submissive, expand their limits, and encourage their potential. Â Dominance without nurturing is tautological.
7. Â Learn. Â The Dominant must learn from experience, successes and mistakes, feedback from the submissive, and research. Â They should always be actively learning and seeking to expand their knowledge in order to better dominate and direct. Â Dominance without learning is irresponsible.
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