Dream Cafe With Nata

THE MOST HATED LOA THING IS REAL :  we just want to feel good

I was already writing about emotions here and there,all LOA authors write about them, we all spend time trying to get that “high vibe” emotions and it’s all fine.

But what we all hate to hear is this:

,,You don’t want that Mercedes , you want that feeling of having Mercedes”

It makes us want to grab the damn guru by his shirt , push and pull, and yell :

“Are you fucking crazy? Have you ever Seen a Mercedes? I want that smooth lines, fine design, elegance and technology at their finest, I WANT MY MERCEDES! I don’t want to play pretend to feel, I don’t need to feel Mercedes, I want to drive Mercedes, you fool”

  OK? Get it? We have all been there, done that, right?

Now... I hate to say this: but it’s real. We just want to feel good. That’s it. As simple as that

And here it is: my proof, my conclusion and my solution.

Proof: 

anxiety and panic attacks

To make long story short, I mastered LOA. I wanted to have 1000 euros every single month without working. Done! I wanted summer in Sanremo (Italy) without paying for it myself. Done! I wanted lip fillers. Done! Everything: done, done, done! Even having my own boutique!

But something was missing.

One night I was out in a club with friends, and I suddenly felt huge weakness in my entire body. I felt like I am radiating warmth , like I am burning , and huge throw up reflex that was so difficult to control. I wanted to get out , but I didn’t have enough power in my muscles to move, so my  friend had to get me out and put me in a cab.

Once I was in a cab alone, all that “sickness” was gone. And I realized: it was a panic attack.

I went to the doctor and got my diagnosis: anxiety and depressive reacting.I also got a bag full of pills, including antidepressants, which I consider the worst drug ever.

 Me! Me?? Now when I have it all? What’s the trick??

I had it all, all that I ever wanted. But I’ve never felt worse.

I decided to not take any pills, but the ones that calm down adrenaline and relax muscles. Simple chill pill to help me relax and sleep. I threw away the rest of the shitty pills and decided to solve this by talking to a therapist.

I ended up having a terrible hobby:

Every evening after taking a chill pill, I would wait for it to start working , but instead of going to bed, I would sit and play The Sims. The most therapeutic game ever. Also the worst life scenario ever.

How did I end up like this? Seriously, why people end up playing damn Sims drudged and enjoying it more than real life?

I didn’t tell this to my therapist, which means that I was fully aware of how fucked up it is: gorgeous girl in her 20s overdoses with pills and plays The Sims every evening from 9 or 10 pm to 4 am. I was sleeping from 4am to 8am, waking up still high af from last night dose (bigger than subscribed)

Why I was doing this?

Because that was the only thing that was able to made me FEEL OK. No worries , no stress, silence because everyone were sleeping, and I was able to be creative. 

I had it all, but at this moment I only had one wish: to feel OK.

CONCLUSION: we are doing it wrong

It is already obvious that we DO have a power to turn thoughts into reality. But we are doing it wrong.

We make a list of things: that car, this dress, that house, this vacation, that person, relationship like this, and bank account like that.

Wait, stop.

It is nice. And you should have it. Yes, you should. But I won’t say “if that makes you happy”.

NOTHING should MAKE you happy. You should just BE happy.

*I will write about how to BE happy, and once it’s on the blog I’ll link it here: ___

Happiness should not be something we are trying to find outside: in others, in things, in the image we reflect, in what we have or what we do. Being is complete opposite of having and doing.

SOLUTION: be honest to yourself

We are not always honest to ourselves. Are you sure that you want that big house? Why you want it? I’ll be brutally honest to you now:

You do not WANT IT to enjoy it and be happy, you want it to SHOW IT.

You are hot trying to create HAPPINESS, you are trying to create AN IMAGE.

A shallow surface image to show to others, to anyone who want to observe and admire.

It made me tired.

So here is the solution:

1) Be fully honest to yourself, why are you trying to manifest  and why. Allow yourself to be a bitchy honest, fully naked in your intentions and deep desires and reasons that stand behind

2) Allow yourself to get tired and give up. Look at all tiring things you want and say: thank you, I understand now why you are here, I’m glad you were here, but it’s time for me to move on and let you go. I’ll move on on a different way now and be happy. 

3)Understand that we are not creators, but COcreators, together with God (universe, nature) and there is always that big something to lean on. Just lean on that for a while, without trying to control anything. Just be and let it be. God has your back. 

The relief I felt with this is indescribable. Like I was born again. It took me 3 weeks of playing games on pills and rethinking about who I am, what I want and why I am not happy now when everything outside is ok.

WISHES: MYSTERY SOLVED

“Get rid of your wishes!”

We hear it all over YouTube. 

Every single “spiritual teacher” or life coach will tell you this, considering that wishes give us frustrations, expectations and disappointments.

Lucky you: I’m not a spiritual teacher. 

I’m just a girl.

I myself used to have big, BIG problems with to many wishes

It all stopped when suddenly new definition of wishes popped up on my mind , so the way I look at wishes changed and all the suffer was gone.

WISHES - DEFINITION

Defining anything is very important. 

While my definition of  wishes was something like “a task to fulfill, goal to achieve” , I used to get so damn frustrated!

I used to completely tangle my mind trying to find a way to make it happen, which can cause big frustration.

I used to think that we have wishes so they can make us happy once they are fulfilled. 

*REAL NATURE OF WISH*

Then I realized that my idea of wish has nothing to do with what wish REALLY IS.

Wish is a sparkle of inspiration, beautiful idea to inspire us while we are thinking about it, to let us milk all the joy from this artwork born in our mind

WISH IS A TOOL TO PUT YOU ON HIGH VIBRATIONS AND STATE OF YOU AND ALLOWING 

   Therefore, it was made to make us happy NOW , not tomorrow.

It was made to inspire us now, not to be fulfilled at all.

*HOW TO USE WISH ON A BEST WAY POSSIBLE*

Wish can be major source of your joy , love and gratitude if you use it this way

1.Let yourself be amazed 

Be happy and excited about it. Not because it will 100% become true, but because you just received epic inspo!

Seriously, you just had epic inspo downloaded straight to your mind! Bless it, be amazed. “Wow , what a fing good wish I just got!” kind of amazed. I love it

2. Get to know it, milk it

Be curious and get to know your wish, see what’s inside. Be curious about details. Don’t construct it and add details using your logic. Just stop and stare and milk details, feelings, milk, milk , milk.

3. Let it go

Know that it’s there to make you happy now, so your vibration is high. You know what happens on high vibration :)

So, know that it’s not there to become real now (or ever) , but to put you in inspired and high vibe mode so you can receive more blessings.

Be playful with your wishes, they are toys for our soul. And the wish you have now , when you learn how to play with it, will totally make manifestations you already wanted to pop up now. It happens , and you can’t stop it :)

Use your wish AS A TOOL TO PUT YOU ON HIGH VIBRATIONS AND STATE OF YOU AND ALLOWING. Because that’s what it is.

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LOVE YOURSELF -the easy way-

Hello, my lovelies!

Yes, it’s been a while since my last post, but I promise that I will post details about it and I promise you are going to love it. Just a little warning: manifesting just got C-RAZE! I am telling you: this things are WORKING! And I am telling you this: my work on this blog is going to become >>EPIC<<

So, let’s go straight to the point of this post:

*S E L F   L O V E*

Miss Selflove is one of the most important components of what we call inner beauty.

But nobody really cares , you don’t have to be what society considers beautiful, inside or outside. What you SHOULD care about is your own happiness. And this is what boosts happiness like C-RAZE :) -SELFLOVE-

*H O W   T O   B O O S T   I T*

Sometimes it’s not easy to love yourself. Sometimes there is guilt, there is shame, there is fear and all that jazz. Especially on a days when we do something “wrong” (judgy-judge alarm!!)

So, here is the solution: if you can’t feel it - fake it till you make it. And here is how:

Treat yourself like a queen that you are

Treat yourself the way you would treat the ones you love, your favorite celeb or your cutest pet ever.

I don’t know your ways, but get creative over here, OK? Hmmm… OK, I don’t feel creative right now, so let’s go classic: bubble bath, favorite food, hydration… I don’t know, put some extra hydrating body lotion, natural exfoliator, face mask, lemon water, a lot of lemon water…

Pamper and spoil yourself from head to toes!

Prepare your bedroom like you are preparing it for very important guests: fresh bedding, nice lighting, candles, calming background music, extra pillow and cute basket with cosmetics and sleeping mask. Why? Because why-the-hell-not! You love yourself, show it!

Remember who you are

If you can’t, I will tel you: you are a girl. And what are girls?

Girls are angels!  Girls are queens!  Girls are magic!  Girls are miracle!  Girls are  love!

[P.S. Let’s face it- you also bleed 7 days each month and you don’t die! It’s magic!]

You are so different than other beings on this planet! You have extra dose of gentleness , love and compassion in your heart so you can make this world more beautiful. And that is why you are here: to shine. To just be, and love, and shine. That’s all!

Why? Because there nothing else you have to do. You don’t have to get rich or strong or successful. You don’t have to be taller, shorter, louder or more quiet. There is nothing you must. Just by your existence , you are doing your job: making it even more beautiful. That’s who you are. Just be. Embrace your blessings!

The magic question

Before you do anything , ask yourself this question: would selfloved person do this?

Ask yourself this before you say “yes” to hanging out with people whose company you are not enjoying, before you eat that extra cupcake, before you put yourself on the strictest diet ever, before you say something, do something, date anyone, drink anything , go anywhere, before you text him, before you judge yourself , before you make your goals, before you make any plans. Oh, did I mention before you judge yourself? Especially before you judge yourself!

If this question doesn’t help enough, or if you just can’t work with it, try this to boost it’s power: find someone who (to you) looks like has a lot of self love and self respect. Anyone, it can even be Beyonce. Use that person as a model for self love. Would she ________? (fill in the blank, whatever you are just doing/going to do)

If you have any questions, feel free to ask. We are here to solve problems, and together - we can solve anything!

Now go there, test this and have a great, great, greaty great day!

Love you <3

Natasha <3

*P O S T S   Y O U    M I G H T   L O V E*

THE SIMPLEST WAY TO LOVE YOURSELF MORE

WHAT WHEN YOU GET TIRED, LOST AND CONFUSED

WHO ARE YOU AND HOW TO BE THAT

THIS TEXT IS FOR ALL PEOPLE STARTING SOMETHING

Because you will go through struggles from time to time and I am pro at it. I always wanted to explain that on blog, but somehow it is not genuine when I am in good mood. Right now, I am going through difficult period and staying persistent anyway, so watch me and learn.

WHAT I AM DOING?

I am working on 30 day printable journal with amazing questions that make people think deep, love life, be free, enjoy every moment and move mountains if that is what they want.  It will be 30 days of miracles for everyone and it is something that changes people forever on a best way possible. And impossible!

*CHALLENGES I AM FACING TODAY*

This part contains my challenges today and how I react and why.

1st price you pay for success is lack of understanding and support

This is very challenging. People will judge you. People are not bad, but sometimes they do not understand the vision you have and that what you call “believing” to make them understand, actually is KNOWING that you will have positive outcome. Because you will never give up. Right now, people from my surrounding are not supporting me at all. And I’m not even wasting my time on explaining, they will not understand it anyway. Why would I ever destroy good relationships with arguing about things we disagree about. Don’t get into that trap to explain yourself to others. Keep working, do what you do and your results will start speaking with a time. People judge me for not getting a job, but investing all my time and energy into something risky. At least they think it is risky.

I cannot agree, I know that what I am doing offers quality , value and it is crazy good , it is like my baby , it contains all my heart , love and passion. It is my passion, my purpose and who I am. And you can’t just give up on who you are, right?? I would rather die than to give up on my project. That is not negotiable.

When something is who you are, when it’s your passion and nonnegotiable, then you don’t even need support or understanding. End of the story. Do your damn thing and let people judge, if that is their thing and their choice.

2nd price of the success is loneliness 

Yes, you will get lonely. In last 2 weeks I gave 200% of myself to what I do and I kind of got sick of people telling me what to do, telling me that I am crazy , that my idea is for people from better countries/better education/better background/more money. I am tired of listening them telling me that it is not possible, that nobody needs what I am making.  

So I isolated myself. I am alone 24/7 in last 2 weeks. People are calling and I don’t care. Yesterday my friend sent me a message that she needs to talk to me about her boyfriend being cold to her lately and, as only girls can request it, she wanted it right now. I told her that I can’t because I am working and got message “haha you don’t even have a job, I have a problem going on here”. I had to tell her that I will call her when I finish with working.

So, people will laugh for things like that. But you have to set your priorities right way. If you want to do something, then do it right now. Not after you hang out with friends, not after you get drunk on Friday night, not after you finish watching your favorite TV show or playing your favorite gave. Now means NOW. It takes your time and dedication and it is lonely, but who cares. Do you want it or no??

3rd price you pay in cash and lifestyle

Here it is, the tricky part that takes very strong mentality.

I am not getting a job because it would take away time I need to invest in my project. How it looks like? I eat bread and potato and soup :D Yes, I am hungry.  Yes, I would love to get new clothes and make up. Yes, I would like a lot of things. Sometimes I just want to eat a chocolate or fruit. I would love fresh smoothie right now.  But I can’t. Because I need to pay internet and books, I need it for working. And if working is my priority number one, then food , shopping and going out is on the bottom of my priority list. So, right now, I am going through materially poor period that I might avoid if I accept that job that was offered and takes away 10 hours every day. That would make me cash for better food, for shopping and going out. But the fact is: I SPEND TIME ON WHAT IS MY PRIORITY No1. My project takes a lot of work, studying , reading, learning. Yesterday I started at 10am and finished at 4am. I had one hour for lunch. Yes, I am the worst boss I’ve ever had. And that is exactly what you have to be to yourself, for yourself, for your vision. If you think it’s not worth is, your passion is not big enough.

4th price: sleepless nights

No sleeping :D I wake up early and always go to bed after 2am. I gave myself a deadline and it is short time. So, yes, I am so tired. Yes, I lose focus from time to time. Then I make quick 10 minutes break and I move on. Not easy at all, but my passion won’t let me finish at 9pm and go to sleep. Passion makes it work. If your passion is not strong enough to keep you awake, change your career – that one doesn’t fit your taste and , just like a dress, it will probably look bad on you if it’s not your style.

5th price: whatever it takes

I have bunch of books to read. No, nobody will give me good grade or a degree. I do it for myself. I push myself to the limits. Or over every limit I had in past. I stare in books, in monitor and I write down million things every day. My head hurts, I just want to go and have fun with people, I wanna go out to a club, I want to eat something nice and buy a new dress. I want it all , right now. But I will not let little bit of pleasure to destroy what I am working on. Because I can’t  have both and I gave a promise to myself: now or never, whatever it takes. Whatever it takes means exactly that. It’s not “Whatever it takes, but I want to go out and enjoy vodka shots in a club”. Keep that on your mind. Never let things that you want right now to destroy what you always wanted.

TIP FOR LOW MOMENTS

There will be ups and downs. Downs are difficult, you start wondering if it’s worth it, if it will work or you are wasting your time, you wonder if people around you are right for having that mainstream patterned life. You feel touch of giving up. You feel lost and hopeless. Tired and lonely. Because there is no one to support you, to tell you that everything will be fine, to understand you. You feel fear, you feel risk laughing at your face. To be honest, I cried before I started writing this. That is what I felt: everything mentioned above. I was staring in my own reflection and thinking like “Look at you, look at that body, face, that long hair and full lips. You should just have a guy to pay your bills, you don’t have to go through this, you better give up while you are young and you look good” and I was crying. You start analyzing yourself and you judge everything you do. You start considering other options, easier ones. Like I was wondering if I should do what most of girls are doing here while they judge what I do.

But here is the key: don’t judge yourself for having bad thoughts sometimes.Those are just thoughts and not even our thoughts. It’s just mixture of sentences you hear people saying to you. And you can win! Just calm down, take a shower and make yourself a cup of coffee. Than dedicate 30 minutes to yourself, to your happiness and cheer yourself up, treat yourself like you would treat your best friend in that situation. Do things that put a smile on your face.

I have little notebook where I write down positive thoughts, there I list things that I love and that make me happy. After I finish that, I list reasons why am I doing what I am doing. Here is example: I want to offer hand to people who need it, I saw on myself and people in my surrounding that it works perfectly without mistake and I think it would be a sin to hide it from people who maybe need it; I do it because I want my career to be something I am good at , something where I can give my best instead of just being average in something else; I am doing this because my passion for this is so strong that I am successfully going through all of this, other career would not have the power to keep me motivated through this struggles; I do this because I want to be able to do what I love; I am doing this because I want a career that will give me freedom to live on coast again and that will not make me physically attached to any place; I am doing this because regular job here will never afford me to eat healthy and I love fruit more than anything.

Write down simple things like that, than sit down and relax, imagining that you achieved your goal. Feel it like it’s happening right now, feel every single detail. Imagine vividly and go through that moments.

This will bring back your motivation. This is crucial, because once you learn how to control your mind and motivate yourself , you can achieve anything.

Enjoy your work, believe in yourself and give your best and you will make it happen.

Just in case that people are telling you silly things, I will tell  you this:

you are not crazy, but   you have a vision

you are not asocial , but dedicated

you are not stupid for risking, but brave

you are not funny for being different, they are funny for being all same

you are not facing problems, but challenges - they have problems

you are not bad friend for avoiding them, they are bad friends for judging you instead of supporting you

P.S. Quick edit before I go to sleep :)

I posted this post this evening, and here it is, you can see “live” that it works! It’s 2:40am and I just finished working (yes, I worked all day and it is Sunday) and guess what? There is a giant smile on my face :)) I feel happy and that’s all because I love what I do, I did huge work today, I made big step forward and it makes me happy. Struggle comes and goes away, but love stays. Fight for that - it’s worth it. Find your way to stay motivated and happy. Happiness is always there, it just get blurred sometimes and you make it clear again by taking short break and writing down that little practice. I love it and I am so grateful to God for that idea!

Stay blessed, stay productive , stay motivated. Keep going and you are halfway there :)

HOW TO STOP BLOCKING YOUR OWN DREAMS (kill the self sabotage and resistance)

Good morning, angels

Most of the people who ever tried to apply any form of religion/philosophy/law of attraction experienced things not working so well.

We all have dreams, hopes , wishes and when someone tells you that it’s not working because “you do not really want it”, all you want to answer is “Shut up, you big B”.  Like, if I don’t want my dreams to come true , wtf I DO want? So, forget it. Just relax and never doubt in yourself, there is no reason. This text will explain exactly what’s going on here and how to solve this

WHAT IS SELFRESISTANCE/SELFSABOTAGE?

It is simply blocking your own dreams to come true and it goes like this:

You pray , you make your own vision board, you visualize , you meditate … you do this, you do that… you do all kinds of “magic” things and nothing is changing. Nothing is happening.

WHY IS THIS HAPPENING ?

The reason this is happening is simple: you have a negative emotion about object of desires. It maybe is not so obvious, so you can’t even see it.  Maybe you don’t even believe me when I say this, but trust me, we can make this work together  

Our emotions are direct extension of our thoughts and beliefs. Our thoughts are mostly on automatic run, shaped by the informations we collect with 5 senses we have: touch, smell , sounds , taste and vision. Collecting informations starts even before we are born (we can hear sounds in our mother’s belly, we can have feelings shaped by her feelings ) .

Our deepest beliefs come from childhood and strong impressions (traumatic experiences etc. ) . Pedagogy says that first 5 years are the most important in our life, those years shape how we see this world and ourselves.

Aristotle would definitely agree with this, as someone who is the oldest trail of tabula rasa concept we have in western philosophy.  Tabula rasa is plastic explanation of our minds: we are born as empty sheet of paper (our mind) and then our mind is built dot by dot. Whatever happens in our life leaves trail on this paper.  Dots are connecting and the picture is growing.

So that is WHY we can’t always see what is the exact emotion or belief that is blocking our manifestations – it maybe was formed when you were 3 years old.

But guess what, you hold the pen for your paper. That’s what makes the magic happen 

HOW TO KILL SELFSABOTAGE?

First of all, forget about trying to see what is holding you back. That is not something to worry about

  *Step number 1 

is to make a coffee, of course  Take a pen, paper and coffee. Write down your exact wish.  Whatever we wish, we wish it because of the feelings that fulfillment will give us. What are the feelings behind your dream? Imagine person who has what you want and imagine how that person feels. Write down every single feeling.  Let’s say that you want love. And let’s take any romantic fairytale figure as “person” who has it… Cinderella!  What do you believe she feels while waking up next to her prince?

Love Butterflies in stomach Happiness Belonging Friendship Victory Relief Kindness Excitement Unselfish wish to make him happy Maybe excitement about planning a romantic surprise for him Planning how to make his day better Write it down under your wish

*Step number 2  

is to ask yourself what qualities you think this person has to deserve these blessings. Following same example, let’s make a list:

Kindness Goodness Unselfishness Compassion Helpfulness

Congratulations, now you have a list of what you want to feel (1st list) and what you want to be (2nd list) Sometimes, deep inside, we believe that we are not worth it, that we are not good enough , that it’s for other people , that we are not blessed/lucky enough… For the things in material world we want. So , here is the key: we will pray and manifest feelings instead of anything material.  And this steps ALWAYS WORK, every time we get feelings that we ask for. And feeling is what puts you on a place where you need to be in order to achieve anything. So let’s go straight to 

*Step number 3

Take your list and read it as many times as you want. Four times, 10 times, doesn’t matter. Then take another paper and draw a vertical line on it to divide it on 2 columns. Put your list number 1 in left column and list number 2 in right column. Make it beautiful. Play with colors and shapes. List 1 is list of feelings we want to achieve and list 2 is list of qualities we want to feel and stimulate. List 1: read it. Sit straight, close your eyes and relax. Then imagine feeling these feelings. Repeat them in your mind. Just relax and feel. If you need help, just ask it. As Orthodox Christian, I pray to God, thinking little prayer like “Dear Father, give me to taste this feelings. Thank you for these beautiful feelings”.  But depending on your religion, attitude, culture… you can ask for guidance from the universe, nature, angels, your higher self, holy cow, pink kitten :-D or whatever works for you. We all have different “image” of “that something” we all know that exists and loves us. And trust me; you will get those feelings instantly. You are just asking little nice feelings and that is amazing  Relax, enjoy the moment , play like a kid who is imagining being a kitten and meowing around the room, that is the way you should ask for this feeling, you are playing and imagining that you feel this feelings. There is no pressure when you are playing  Breathe deeply and slowly and imagine how happy and grateful you would be for these feelings, feel the moment, feel cowering down your back, like glitter traveling from the top of your head down your spine and filling in your heart. Nice, golden glitter  Lovely, I know. Enjoy it as long as you want. Put your paper under your pillow so you can read it as soon as you open your eyes and right before you go to sleep. You can recall memories of this list and feelings whenever, while working, waiting in line, being stuck in the traffic … Any moment you want and trust me, you will love it. List 2: Let’s see what we have on list2 in this case: kindness, goodness, unselfishness, compassion, helpfulness. So, list 2 is guide of who we want to be and our job is to stimulate it.  It is like a gym for our mind and soul.   These particular things we can stimulate by doing what kind people do. Ask yourself, what people with these qualities do? Donate, help, listen someone without talking, smile to someone… Powerful tool for this is YouTube. It does sound silly, but it is true. There you watch videos of people who are what you want to be. In this particular case, I would suggest searching “people are kind” or “people are good”.  This videos show acts of kindness caught on security cams all over the world. Watch every day and your kindness will grow by being stimulated, just like muscles do. I told you, it’s a mind-soul gym Repeat this daily and you can expect miracles , your life will never be the same again  Challenge is to try this for 30 days and let me know what happened Stay blessed, have a wonderful day

MY DAILY ROUTINE FOR STAYING HAPPY

Hello :)

In previous post I wrote about results of happy lifestyle.

Here is my every day routine that keeps me motivated, inspired, grateful and happy.

1.Five minute mind gym

Even before I open my eyes I feel joy since I use this technique originally shared by Alex Ikonn (here is his YouTube chanel). It is very simple yet easy and powerful. First thing I do when I wake up, right after I open my eyes, I take my phone and write down answers to this 3 questions:

*What are you grateful for and why? List 3 things

*What is going to make today amazing?

*Your affirmation

It boosts fate and positivism instantly.

2.Praying

Right after I finish writing answers down, I cross over myself and say out loud “Our Lord” and give Him thanks for wonderful morning and I say how grateful and happy I am to put my life, hopes and wishes into His hands and let him guide me through life on best way possible.

As being Orthodox Christian (main religion in Russia, Romania, Greece, Serbia, Macedonia…) , I do it this way. But you can do it any way you feel right. Follow your religion or whatever makes you feel good. Just follow your bliss :)

3. Gratitude gym

Any time during day I just sit, turn off the phone and write into my gratitude journal. Simply write down 10 things you are grateful for and how that makes you feel good. It can be anything, and -yes, anyone can find 10 reasons to be grateful. It can be something going on right now, or from past or even from future.

For example, I write down even silly things like laughing all the time during geography classes back in elementary school, because I was sharing desk with silly girl. Remembering those moments still makes me happy , so I put it on the list. Also, at the moments I had nothing, I was listing things like stars and night sky , because I just love looking at stars. Just write down whatever makes you feel good

This will help you to focus on positive things much easier. I do this every single day and I love it:)

4.Hey, Father, it’s me

This routine is…. hmmm… how to explain without sounding silly? :D It’s your talk with God :))

Basically , I just sit on my bad in meditating position, relax my entire body and I start talking. The point is to be relaxed , grateful and inspired.

I always start with giving thanks to Him and explaining how he made me happy. During this talk the most important thing is to feel God (Allah , Universe… even unicorn, if that is what you prefer) as endless positive force that makes everything possible. Try to feel it as something friendly, as your partner.

After giving thanks I go straight to my plans and dreams with “let’s do this” kind of positive attitude. Example: “I am so happy that You gave me that idea. I was thinking about that till now, but now I am sure that it is perfect. So, let’s do this. I agree and I say YES to your suggestion, so let it begin. Thank you, Thank you , thank you for this idea, it’s going to be amazing! Now I put it in your hands and let you do your thing. Thank You”

For end of this conversation you should ave that one specific word that make things happen. Something like “Enter” on your keyboard. As a Orthodox Christian I use AMIN , but you can pick anything that sounds supreme and powerful to you, you can even invent your own word.

On YouTube I saw guy using word “Soviet” in similar technique and it works perfect for him. You must pick a word that you personally feel like divine, powerful and positive. Try to search in other languages , you don’t have to stick to your own. I personally find  Italian, Greek, Russian (and other Slavic languages) and Arabian words pretty much that way, even if I don’t know meaning. Maybe you could try with word “Blagoslov” , which means blessing on Serbian and sounds amazing. Or some of these: razbra , zoloto , ulyetai , poveruvam zahvalnaya, lyubav…Let your mind wonder and you will find that one special word.

5.Hello, bed :)

This is last exercise and great way to finish your day. Also originally shared by Alex Ikonn, like the first one, this exercise will give you positive energy for sweet dreams. You will feel happy and relaxed and you will have positive dreams.

When I go to bed, I take my phone and write down three good things that happened today. After every item on the list I simply give thanks and say how grateful I am.

After that I answer how could I make this day better? Give answers in positive affirmation form. For example, if you wish you woke up early, but you woke up at 11am, you should not write “I should wake up on time, I woke up too late”, but you write down “I wake up early”.

After this I like to pray again just like I do in the morning.

So, that is it. My daily routine to stay happy, positive and inspired. It turns every day into magic , keeps you smiled all day long after some time. Those are amazing ways to transform yourself and your life.

Follow your bliss and stay happy :)

RESULTS AFTER 1 YEAR OF POSITIVE LIFESTYLE

Hello, boys and girls :)

It’s been a long time since I posted text last time, but… There is always BUT… There is a reason.

I was very busy with moving and working, but I finally got enough time to share with you guys. So this is long time ago promised text about applying techniques and tips from my texts and final conclusion about the way it works in practice. Keep reading to find out if it works ;)

Where I started

I clearly remember the day when I created this blog in May 2014. As I made it just to motivate myself and eventually someone else, the description contained sentence “I will try being positive as much as possible and I will share my experiences and thoughts so you can smile if I win or laugh if I fail. Keep following to check out if this works”. So it was all like one experiment for me. I tested different techniques , different books , I pushed myself to the limits and I left my comfort zone just to see what will happen.

My first post was written on my old PC, in my old room. I was struggling on every possible and impossible way. At that moment, I had to quit my education because I could not afford it to myself since my father died. I was trying to accept the fact that my grandfather and my father are gone, that my mother was not the person I thought she is - but, at that moment, my worst enemy. I was not able to pay my bills , so I spent long and cold winter without heating my room , I was literally hungry, living on bread (also trying to make it last as long as possible) and potato. All this mess activated some old memories so I was going through late reaction to wars I’ve been through earlier in my life, which caused tachycardia. There was a lot of more bad things going on.

To sum it up: I had no dreams, hope or reason to live. I was not able to feel anything.

Then one night I was laying in my bed feeling nothing. Trust me, bad feelings are not as bad as lack of feelings. I believe it was between 3 and 4 am and all I wanted was to fall asleep and never wake up. And for some reason I started praying. I was literally begging God to give me my dreams back. I just wanted to wish anything, I had no wishes at the moment. And that is how it all started :) That night turned out to be not the worst, as it looks like, but the best night in my life. That tiny little prayer in tears changed my life!

All of this things I wrote about turned my life upside down. So, trust me, if you do that things , your life will become amazing journey fulfilled with pure miracles :)

So, to answer the question:

Where I am and what’s going on now??

I am more than happy with the results. The best thing that came out from this lifestyle in how I changed inside. I grow so much every single day. I learned one very important thing: it’s not up to what happens, it’s up the way you react.

But, speaking of results in material way… It’s a pretty long list.

1) I LIVE ON SEASIDE

One day I came home from work kind of tired. I used to work for a company that produces antibiotics for animals. Working there made me feel the way I did not want to feel: my nose was bleeding every day after work, my body was overdosed with all that chemistry I used to breathe in there all the time and I was on my way to seriously damage my  health. But, I picked to be positive. We were all trapped there together anyway, so why wouldn’t we have a fun?? So, I was the crazy one in that company. I used to make jokes and smile every day, I laughed , I made fun of everything with everyone. I didn’t even have money for lunch, but I did not complain, I just ignored that thinking like “It’s not my business”. THAT is what made me overgrow the situation I was in. And when you overgrow , God moves you to the next level.

So, as I said, one day I came home from work and I said to my boyfriend that I will quit my job. Sure, he was not supportive at all. As a reason I said that I don’t see myself there because I overgrew that place. Then he asked me where the F I see myself. My answer was:

”I want to live on coast (my country does not even have sea coast) in a place with sea view and earn 50 euros per day (at the moment I had 8 euros per day, which is average in my country). I want to have morning coffee on terrace and just drink that coffee, relax and enjoy the sea view”

He laughed at me. I prayed. And guess what? This is my morning coffee:

How I did this? I quit my job this February so some of my friends tried to get me into other similar company that pays better. But I did not accept that. God knows how I survived till March :D  I refused every single job offer. I was still waiting for my salaries (salary was 3 months late) , so I chose to stay at home and pray.  My salaries came at March, 3 at once. Same day my boyfriend got angry at me because I refused another job offer so we did not meet that day which gave me time to spend day on Skype with my friend from high school who lived in other  city. I told her about plans and she liked the idea. That is how it all happened. We booked tickets for June and here we are :)

I live just the way I described to my boyfriend and I am very happy. I have one more week here and then I will go back home because my passport limits the time I can spend out of my country and 3 months is maximum.

So I quit my job here in order to enjoy this week and work on my next goal, which is having my own business based on making luxury bags. Of course that I had no enough money for that :D

But I decided to quit my job and stay home and design anyway, even if I have just half of amount that I need for starting business. And of course - pray for that.

So few days ago I shared my idea with one friend here who is business owner and guess what: he wants to invest :)

That is basically where I am now, what I am doing and how faith changed my life :)

WISHES VS FEELINGS

Hello  everyone First of all, I want to give you some courage and to share with you what was manifested for me today. Last night I decided that I would love so much to have pink roses today on my desk and to eat strawberries.  But, just for practice , I didn’t want to buy it, I wanted it to be manifested. So, this morning my mom was in crazy good mood , just like that, for no reason, so she went to piazza (let’s learn Italian :D ) before I woke up and she woke me up with coffee and… guess what – flowers and strawberries J  So, yes, things happen.  So I said “thank you” to her, but I also said same to God  (you might call it Allah, Universe , Holly Cat , however , but it’s still same thing)

Anyway, let’s move straight to the point: if this is not happening to you , what is wrong? There is nothing wrong, you just did not bring your feelings there YET. Yes, “yet” , because you will do it. It is very easy, but takes some practice. Just relax and follow this steps:

©      Do not take it too serious See the process as a game you are playing. Do not be like “Oh, God, I am just about to create my life! This is so serious! What should I imagine? What I must not imagine”. Stop. Stop and look around. Then close your eyes and breathe deep. Focus on breathing and let all this seriousness go as you breathe out every time. Relax and play your game in your own head. Just play

©      Do not force yourself to believe You don’t need that. Just play with your mind and (again) relax knowing that all you want from your visualization is to make you feel better now, like a good movie or music video. Know that you are just playing with your mind, just to feel better ,  you do not need any beliefs , just your imagination and – in it – whatever makes you feel good. Then imagine it vividly , repeat, make your own video that contain visual part, sounds , smells and feelings. Fell the joy. In your game, you are going through your dream come true right now , so feel the joy and go back to that “video” whenever you want to feel joy. For example, if I want to feel joy right now, I will not force myself to believe that my video will happen and then I will be happy, but now I will visualize to make it happen. NO. I will live it now in my own mind, feeling the joy now. Like good music video that makes you happy and you can “see” it again in your mind again later, like very catchy song. Let it be your own catchy music video that instantly makes you happy when you see it. Just like your favorite party song that makes you move.

©      Do not “work on” affirmation , play your affirmation like a game Again, take it as a game. Like when you were 5 years old pretending to be princess or soldier. Relax, and if you, for example , do affirmations for wealth , get into that role like little child playing game. Tell to yourself how it would be so awesome if you were rich. Tell to yourself “I would have this” and then imagine what would you buy. Tell to yourself “I would go there” and then imagine it. “I would get that and go there and do that because it feels like this” and then feel it. “If this was a true I would tell this:…” and then you say your affirmation. “I am free. I enjoy this. I like being in (place where you imagine you are visiting), I like living in this house, I like doing this. I love it! Life is so amazing now when I feel like this”

Never force yourself to anything. Just do your things, play your mental games, enjoy it , feel the endless joy for being blessed that you can play this game, feel happy for having your inner world. It’s your little secret place where you go whenever you want. Gotta love it , it’s your little oasis , play it, go there, explore, feel , enjoy your stay

DO YOU HAVE BALLS?

Yes, I said balls.

Yes, I could say COURAGE , but you do not need that, you need balls.

It’s a combination of components you need to jump.

Just jump and do it, leave your comfort zone and live your dreams.

Love + Passion + Courage + Crazy will to do something + Patience + Being ready = B A L L S

Here I wrote how to start changing your life. The point is to start from where you are with what you have, so you start with small goals. But what when you want to start achieving big ones?

1. Love + Passion part

Make sure that you are chasing the right dream. Here we come to the visualization again. Imagine achievement vividly. Would you really enjoy it? Is that something you would LOVE to do. Feel love, excitement  and passion about your dreams. You have to feel willing to do whatever it takes to make it work, which take us to

2. Courage + Crazy Will (to do something)

Ask yourself: do you feel crazy about your dream? You need this. Just make yourself fearless. Feel the crazy courage to do WHATEVER IT TAKES to make your dream come true. Give in, make it your main focus. Everything else can be important, but this just became the most important thing in your life. It’s the Sun of your inner universe. Do it no matter what. Sleep less , wake up earlier , go out less , have less fun , minimize everything if that is what it takes to turn your dream into reality. Now, it’s your purpose. It’s why you are here. Accept it and give yourself a promise: you will do it. Feel the WILL. Not possibility , not wish , not interesting imagining, but  W I L L. Take a post it note and write “Whatever it takes” on it and stick it on your monitor, on your wall , on your mirror. Stick it everywhere till it’s absorbed in your mind.

3. Make sure that you are ready + patient

It is very simple to check if you are ready or not, your feelings will tell you. Relax and imagine that someone is stepping to you and then tells you that it’s done and you can just start leaving that exact dream. How do you feel at that moment. Do you feel happy or you feel that there is something that should be done before living that dream or  maybe you feel that you just are not ready for that. If there is anything uncomfortable about imagining this situation, maybe you have fear , for example fear of the responsibility that you achievement will bring into your life. When it comes to trying to do anything big, there are 3 types of responsibility:

taking responsibility to do what it takes to achieve the goal - acting

taking responsibility for good results - taking credits

taking responsibility for not so good results - taking guilt on yourself

Most of our fears come from acting and taking guilt. In order to get over these fears , we need to realize the truth: failing does not hurt so bad. What hurts is never trying to make your dreams come true. Disney was fired for not being creative enough , Opra Winfrey was fired from local TV for not being handsome enough for TV screen. Shit happens, but life goes on. Do not be scared of failing , it is ok to fail, that is just a part of a process. Same is with responsibility: you need to take your life in your hands and shape it. Take that responsibility or someone else will do that for you.  

If, when you were visualizing achievement, there was anything that was undone which you believe that  should be done before achieving that goal, just do it. Sometimes, it’s something very small. For example I wanted to live on coast. Any coast. I just wanted sun and sea and that specific coast lifestyle. I just love it. And then, while visualization , I imagined a woman coming into my house and telling me that my life on the coast is prepared and I need to pack right now. The first thought on my mind was that my body is not ready, I just didn’t feel ready to jump into my bikini. And that made me feel uncomfortable. That is when I knew what’s going on. I just was not ready.

Because, you can’t blame anyone or anything for your non-achieved goals. It is us who block things to happen. Remove what blocks your dreams and they will come true.

So, in order to remove my blocking issue , I started working out and eating clean. I behaved like I am moving next week. I even bought big sun hat. I let myself feel that excitement, and I said to myself “Yes, I am ready”.

That is how I got “being ready” from The Balls Definition:

Love + Passion + Courage + Crazy will to do something + Patience + Being ready = B A L L S

When you are ready, you could also use patience. However it sounds, it is very easy. When you LOVE something and you have COURAGE, PASSION and WILL to make it and you are READY , then it’s already DONE. It’s simple math, like 2+2=4 , same way   Love + Passion + Courage + Crazy will to do something + Patience + Being ready = IT’S DONE :)

Example, my moving to coast… I felt love and passion , I had courage to leave everything I have at home , I had will to do it. But it was not done, because I was not ready. In order to be ready, I started working out and eating more clean and I knew that it will be done when I am fully ready, which gave patience. It’s like you won million dollars, but you are just waiting your bank to let you take the cash. Just like that, consider it already don and just be patient and relaxed about waiting to see the results. And guess what? I am moving next month :)

THE POWER OF *I AM*

Words “I am” in your every day speech is same as “Enter” key on your keyboard.

We need to take care of our mind same way we take care of our body. There is that famous saying “If you destroy your body, where you are going to live” , but I would add this: if you destroy your mind, who are you going to BE.

Thoughts are very important. You can read more about that in this text:

“Why would I control my thoughts”

Controlling your thoughts is very easy and useful , but what you say out loud is also important , useful and easy. It takes focus on the beginning , but it’s like every other practice - it gets easier with a time before it finally becomes your habit.

Let’s get to know our mind and how it works

Our mind has two levels: conscious and subconscious.

Conscious level is surface of the mind. It THINKS.

Subconscious level is the heart of our mind. It BELIEVES.

So, let’s say that you are not rich right now. You can, using your conscious mind, easily say out loud “I am rich”. You can easily think “I am rich”. But you will not feel it right now,  because your subconscious mind is not trained to feel that way.

Guess who did it to your subconscious mind? Y-O-U :)

You probably did it by saying out loud that you need more, and by regular belief that rich people never need more money. As your subconscious mind accepts whatever you say as a fact, it simply counted and got the result:

I need more + Rich people need no more = I am not rich

Good news: You can reprogram your subconscious mind by talking.

Whenever you say “I am…” your subconscious mind accepts it as a fact. In “Why would I control my thoughts” I explained how your mind creates your actual reality , so there you can read more about it. The point is: once you reprogram your subconscious mind to accepts whatever as a fact, whatever will become your reality.

The Enter key on your mind’s keyboard for turning whatever into your reality is “I am”.

Whatever you want to be , see , experience , feel or have , write it down. Make a list and then put words “I am” before reading every single thing from the list. Read it as often as you want, but let’s say that 3 times per day would be perfect. Make it a habit. This is great way to reprogram your mind and to remove from your mind all thoughts that keep you away from your goals.

At the beginning you might feel resistance , but keep going no matter what. Put a little star under your list for every day you do this, and don’t stop till you see 28 stars. No matter how you feel or where you are , just do it. Do it for yourself and you will see results, I promise. You will , after some time, feel better , respect yourself better and you will have much higher self confidence.

When you feel like giving up, have this quote on your mind:

“Good , better , best

never let it rest

until your good is better

and your better is the best”

Enjoy the process and see the results :)

Science proved that human mind and the frequency it sends directly shapes the world around it. The frequency your mind emits is shaped by your free will, your emotions, thoughts and beliefs.

What else do you need to start thinking positively?

Acept it this way:maybe reading this was your destiny :)

Read my text blogs to learn more about this. Enjoy creating yourself and your life. Everything is possible, always keep that on your mind.

Feel free to explain your situation and ask questions, I am more than happy to help!

Nata

Watch here what science has to say about this

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WHY WOULD I CONTROL MY THOUGHTS

“I can’t control what I think or feel! Some things are on my mind just like that, I didn’t want it!”

Yes, you can. And yes, they are, but you can change it.

And why would you?

As we know, every sound has frequency. And every color has specific frequency. What

we see on TV has frequency too. By pressing the buttons on your remote controller , you choose exact frequency and that way you change what you see on TV.

Same way, you can choose or change anything in your life. You just have to what? Choose a frequency. And where is remote controller for that? It’s in your mind.

Every thought has frequency and that frequency if what shapes future of your body and your life.

No, this is not another funny story. Psychology proved this long time ago. We all know it as placebo effect. Example: Tom feels pain in head. Tom needs help. Doctor gives him sugar pill, telling him that the pill always helps with headache.

What happens next is this: Tom is happy that the pill will kill his pain. He thinks so and his thought about that has frequency that will shape his future - his head will be fine, doesn’t matter that the pill he took is just regular sugar pill. Then, what cured Tom? Sugar pill?

No.

The frequency of his thought cured him.

WHAT AFTER FAILURE

Hi, gorgeous :)

Did you ever ask yourself: what do you do after you fail? Fail at anything.

Do you feel bad? Empty? Angry?

If that is how you feel, I have something to tell you:

That is big no-no! Bad girl!

I know that you believe that feeling are just feelings, we can not change what we feel. Well, I have good news for you: you are wrong :)

Psychology proved that that we see , hear or smell directly shape our emotions. That leads to the fact that we can shape our emotions as we like them to be :) Isn’t it wonderful? It’s a magic of life , use it!

Because the last thing we need after failing is to feel bad. If you want to get up after falling, you need to feel good. And if there is very simple way to that, why not to use it, right?

It’s fun and it’s free… Totally perfect combination ;)

So, there are 4 components that shape our emotions:

*what we see

*what we hear

*what we smell

*what we touch

Here are steps to great feelings. You want to get that feeling like you could move mountains? Then relax, read, and trust me :)

1. Go take a long shower. It combines 3 of 4 essential components for feeling magical: smells great, sounds even better and… I mean, you know how great it feels to be lightly massaged by water…

But don’t just have routine two minutes shower. Relax and enjoy it. Listen the sound of it. Enjoy the smell of your shower gel or whatever you use (I suggest anything that smells like fruit: lemon, orange , coconut…). For boosting energy combine hot and cold water. Use cold water only for 10 seconds or so and then go back to hot. I promise you will feel awesome after this shower. You can also adapt the light to yourself. Bring little lamp and music to your bathroom. Turn this shower into little ritual, relax and enjoy.

2.After this, use body lotion that smells nice. But use it twice. Wait 1st layer to gets almost completely dry and then put another. Then spray perfume on your neck, but use that special one you keep for special occasions :) Make sure to wear special sexy underwear and dress whatever you like over that.   Even ugly Christmas sweater feels great over sexy underwear!

3. Make yourself a coffee of tea or any natural fresh juice and *this is a must) drink at least 2dl of fresh water. Surround yourself with nice things. You can arrange your table/desk  with anything you like to look at: vase with flowers, jewelry box with pearls, your favorite perfume , glossy magazines… anything you like. Relax, you are alone anyway, there is no one  to judge you if you put stuffed animals on your desk :D

4. Then relax and enjoy, do whatever you like. You can print wishlist from my homepage (it’s A4 format) and make your own list. You can search tumblr for inspiring pictures, watch Disney or VS fashion show on YouTube or paint your nails, put make up on, write, draw or whatever you like. But never forget good music. For energy and classy touch I suggest “The best of Mozart”, you can find it on YouTube; for relaxing I suggest any ambiental music; for holiday feeling Jazz Sax Lounge Mix, also from YouTube.

Ask me for links if you like :)

And try to set your lighting to be inspiring. One regular lamp is great or Christmas lights, candles… anything like that.

Now do that, relax and enjoy :)

I promise you will feel magical!

Nat

Hello, gorgeous :)

As you know I was counting down days and hours  till my dream job interview. Yes, I did :D Let me tell you more about the interview and the job.

It was interview for cabin crew for Emirates. It is amazing job that takes a lot but offers even more. It offers something priceless ,at least for me: doing what I like doing.

I heard about this job on other job interview. I was there right on time , but nobody was there to meet me. I tried next day at same time, but same thing happened. On third day, there was that lady from their HR  team, that I tried to meet the day before. She said that she is very sorry for not being there to meet me on time, and that she is glad that I tried again and that we finally met. I smiled and said that it’s ok and I am happy to meet her too. And then she started to cry. I really waned to be cold and professional, but -hey, I am human being , so I gave her paper tissue and offered her to get her a coffee or something. When we got coffee, she started to talk about the job and tears were falling down her face. I said “Please, Mrs ****, just forget about the job, forget about this interview. We can do this later, whenever you want, bot now you need to relax. Crying is fine, we all cry sometimes, just relax , looks like something very bad happened to you and there is no reason to push this interview, we have time for that later”.

And than she told me that her mother died, her kids are out of the country and she is completely alone with no one to talk to. Then I said that I am sorry and started to ask questions about her mother like what was she like, what she loved to do, how they liked to spend their time together… things like that. After that I told you that I understand her (I’ve been in same situation so I honestly did understand), but death is natural, and the most important hing now is to find a way to make things work and to make her mother proud, because I am sure that she is looking down upon her daughter and that she is worried to see her like this. I told her to calm down , to stay strong and proud of her mother. Things like that. After long talk she said: “I will be honest to you. This job is not for you. You deserve better, you are so nice and supportive person, ready to help and you are also beautiful. Are you aware that, if you start working for us, you will spent entire life closed in factory, working with all that frustrated old women and you will become one of them, you will lose yourself and become just empty robot, your back will hurt , your legs will hurt, your salary will be very low and you will waste your life. I have another suggestion for you: why wouldn’t you be stewardess? Yes, your legs will hurt there too, but you will work in company that will appreciate your will to help others and always be smiled and nice.”.

She explained to me what , where and how to apply and she gave me something beautiful: hope and support. I will never forget her :)

That is how this all started.

But what about my interview??  

Oh, God… Don’t even ask :D I failed as bomb!

I traveled to the place by train and one man had heart attack so I spent 20 minutes massaging his heart till emergency team arrived. I have no idea why they needed 20 minutes to get there! It took too long so poor man had very weak chances because we did not have adrenalin in a train, we had nothing but hands and air to breathe in that poor man. It was 5am and he was on his way to hospital , that is why he was in train. I got that info later when I called hospital he was sent in. But, unfortunately, he did not survive, it was not his first hear attack. I can’t explain how deeply sad I was, and I still am. I hope that I will find out his address , I would like so much to visit his family , I have no idea why. I was really hoping that he will survive! I feel sad and angry when I think of him. He was 59. I will not tell his name, but that name… it'son my mind all the time.

So I arrived to interview late, dirty and messy. But I couldn’t ignore man who needs help just to keep my hair and shirt neat. No way. So I knew I will fail, it was so obvious, but I do not regret. I can’t, because I did the right thing!

About failure

I was always missing chances because I was afraid of failure. I guess that most of people is. But if you want to be like most of the people, that is exactly how you life will be: like most of the lifes - boring, comfortable and always same. You can’t live great life if you are afraid to leave your comfort zone. Out of your comfort zone is where miracle happens. If you wanna success , you must not be afraid to try. And how to not be afraid? Do exactly what your fears stop you to do. I did it, I tried to get a job when I knew that I will fail, because I looked like I just left battlefield. But I tried anyway, just to feel failure on my own skin.People say that if you have only one moment of crazy courage, amazing things will happen. And it’s true. Guess what happened? I am not afraid anymore :) Been there - done that, just like that. Poof! Fear is gone :)

Failure is not failure, it’s a lesson. Precious lesson. Don’t waste your time, go get what you want or your lesson. You need both. Because without lessons you can never learn.

Learn, grow , bloom and fight. It’s a beauty of a life :)

Have a nice day and be brave, I promise something amazing will happen. And remember, there is a reason why YOU are reading this ;)

Nat

P.S. YES, i WILL APPLY AGAIN AND GET THE JOB ONE DAY, I PROMISE :))

Hi, gorgeous :)

If you did first 3 steps (I wrote about that before) then you know exactly what you want.

So… you know every single detail of your perfect day and what now? Now take deep breath and start fighting!

How to start??

Take your list of answers and arrange all goals from smallest to the biggest. Make a list of goals that you can start working on right now , this moment.

Trust me, as soon as you achieve your first goal, no matter how tiny it is (even if it was learning how to make pancakes or so) you will get some new opportunities that directly or indirectly lead you to achieving your next goal.. and next one too… and ,yes, next…  Just try, make your 1st step and let me know what’s going on ;)

Example

My experience confirmed this 1st stage 100%. 

I am working on some bigger goals right now and, as you see, this blog is created to include you into this process live :) 

Whenever I find time, I write (and I will write) what is going on. 

I started from zero, dreamless , hopeless and alone. I knew that you can not have goal if you do not have dreams and hope. So I started to pray for dreams and hope. I was begging God to give me dreams, I just needed to wish anything , to care about anything on this world. And it happened! 

Since then I believe in miracles. God gave me huge, giant dream. 

But at the moment, it was too big , it was not possible.  So I pretended that everything is possible and I imagined my perfect day and made my list of answers. 

After that I made list of my goals, small and big ones. The smallest ones were to start finding the job , to rearrange furniture in my room, to start working out and organize my closet. 

That was my start up thing to do, achieving this baby goals. I started with closet (I am so proud of it, I will show you photos one day :) ) and working out. 

At the same moment when my list was done I decided to start from where I am, with what I have and right now, so at that moment I started with the room. 

On the day it was done I started working out, no excuses allowed! 

Then I applied online for Emirates Cabin Crew , but I had no enough money to buy suit for the interview (business attire was a must) so I decided to get any job to get money to buy that damn suit. 

I was very upset because their interviews here are rare and I just missed one. I was 100% sure that they will not organize another before October (the one I missed was in April this year). So I got another job. It was bad one, I was waking up at 3:30am, working eight hour , seven days a week , without right to make pause to eat or day off. One day I asked my boss will I ever get a day off  and he said that I will not, maybe next moth, I quit, just like that. I thought it’s one of the worst days ever, but it turned out to be great :) 

I came home sad, frozen and wet on that cold , rainy day. I made a coffee and without reason I checked my mail inbox and there was it: a mail from Emirates :)) Can you believe it?? They invited me to interview only one month after the last one! And on the day I quit  my job! And there it is…my first big goal :)) 

One more thing: on that day, I decided to make this blog. I promised to myself that I will make it when I become stewardess but on that day I asked myself: why wouldn’t I start right now? That was one of magic moment.

Life is full of miracles. You just need to start from beginning. Start from where you are, with what you have and start right now. Just follow steps 1 , 2 and 3 and watch it happening… a miracle :)

There is no step that is too small , there are only steps back and steps forward. Start now or wait next year so you can regret you didn’t start today.

If you are going trough hell, keep going or you will stay there forever.

God gives you chance to have fresh beginning every morning. Why wasting it? Go get it, go get you brand new fresh life :)

Have a nice day

Nat

Hi, gorgeous :))

It’s one of gray rainy days here on Balkan so I have a lot of time to share my coffee and my motivation with you.

There is only 10 days and 17 hours left till my dream job interview (that big pink thing on left side of my homepage is counting) and I am getting more and more excited. I am so nervous (in positive way) that I have that feeling like I could move mountains :)) I hope I will stay in this mood till the day, nobody needs hard feelings during job interview , especially if it’s dream job  you wanted since… I don’t know… Since “forever”?? :D

Anyway, let’s move to the point:

what about your imagined perfect day?

I hope that you answered all questions from post No2. I didn’t ask you all that questions because I want to put my nose in your business.  

I asked all that questions because I want YOU to put YOUR nose in your business.

And if you do that, if you focus and answer and put it all on the paper, it will not help me, it will help you. It will help you a lot!

Because before we start chasing our dreams (I prefer “chasing” over “following” for one reason: just following is not enough) we need to get to know our dreams. Sometimes we think that we know what we want, but we have no clue!

Example

If we want money, this questions will help us to find out why we want it. Because coins mean nothing if you are not spending them, right?

Some people like having money for clothes, they like fashion. Others need it for creating because they like art or engineering or whatever. Some like investing , some helping others, some making nuclear weapon (that is not good, change your dream!), but everyone who want money, want it for reason!

And your answers to my questions will show you:

1. What you want

2.Why you want it

3.How to get there

                                                  *   *   *

After reading your answers again and again and again, think about them and then decide.

Decide and premise to yourself that you will fight for every single detail of that perfect day.

This is the biggest promise you will ever make and you must never brake it, no matter what. This is why you are on Earth!

So… welcome to planet Earth. It is not easy, it never was, but it is worth it :)

And you better fight for what you want, for one simple reason: because you can! Trust me.

I was born in Yugoslavia (it doesn’t even exist anymore :D ) in middle of war when my country was completely isolated, ignored by entire world. My generations education was frequently paused because of war, hunger, missing electric power or so. We grew up in dark, surrounded by explosions, bullets , hungry and occupied, attacked by over 50 most powerful countries at that moment. And you what? We never gave up. We won our freedom. It was not easy at all, but we are free now. The point: Guess who is born in same country , at almost same time (2 years before I was born), living in same (terrible) circumstances?  World’s tennis player No1 - Novak Djokovic.

And look at him now! He plays like he hacked all tennis balls on this world :D We do not even have to mention how rich and popular he is. He has very nice wife who just got pregnant. He has it all! And I already said how he grew up: bombs, soldiers who are no ashamed of killing kids, dark… He was just another target. And how he is who he is.

But he had something precious: he knew what he wants! I saw a video that is taped when he was seven years old and he said that when he grows up, he WANT TO BE THE BEST TENNIS PLAYER ON PLANET. Can you imagine how big that dream is. He was in hell , but he kept going and fighting for his dream.

But he never gave up!

If you wanna stop being looser , you have to stop quitting

Stay inspired and have a wonderful day :)

P.S. If you need help with your answers, if you do not know what are your answers telling , feel free to ask me and I will be very happy to help.

Oh, and I am sorry for this loooong post, but this blog is not for everyone, so if you are reading this - there must be a reason ;)

Nata