dear whoever

nobody wants to talk abt how there's quite a lot of passing trans ppl who treat non passing trans ppl like shit but no one is ready to have tht discussion. it's very prevalent in the community too. but esp in trans men/transmasc spaces yes even the self proclaimed "transandrobros" like myself. nd i know im not the only one who's experienced this either. they view our bodies as offensive esp when it comes to art of a guy with boobs and a vag instead of top surgery and bottom surgery nd thts just the very tip of the iceberg. we r treated as if our existence is the worst thing to happen to them. a man not on t is not a man worth saving. a man not on t is shameful and embarrassing. i could go on and on. but like i said we arnt ready for this discussion

im just done

i dont just want to leave bc of transandrophobes nd the vile things they say but also bc there is little to no acceptance for pre t trans men. ive been in several different transmasc groups nd none of them seem to care for the presence of pre t trans guys. we r treated as outsiders nd still get infantilized. i have been told there's no reason for me to not be on t and that not being able to afford it is "making excuses" and this is coming from ppl who are loud abt transandrophobia so i thought it'd be way more accepting but i was wrong. im still continuously asked "y r u a grown ass adult nd not on hrt" all the time as if its embarrassing for them to be around a pre t trans man and it doesn't matter how many times i explain my situation. im fuking tired

im so sorry to all the lovely trans women/transfems that lost half of their community all bc they support trans men. we love and appreciate u so much. u deserve better. we will never forget all that u have done for us <3

"y do u not feel safe in the trans community?" they r currently protecting someone who made rape and death threats to trans men and are saying they don't care and that the person did nothing wrong. i dont want to exist in a space that protects and makes excuses for behavior like that. how am i supposed to feel safe in this community when so many ppl in our own community admit to wanting us raped and dead then play victim when they get called out for it nd everyone coddles them nd their behavior. atp ill just go back into the closet nd rot in my shell. everyone has their pitchforks pointed at trans men (among others esp nonbinary ppl and intersex ppl like myself) and i don't want to experience the salem witch trials in 2026 bc that's what it feels like rn

"trans men have male privilege nd have privilege over trans women/transfems" um.. so me and my transmasc/trans men friends do not have access to hrt and we've been out for years and still haven't gotten testosterone bc they're reluctant to give it to "afabs" so finding someone to prescribe it is very hard and it's also expensive.. but the trans women and transfem friends in my life are already on estrogen that is easily available to them and affordable (like $30/$50 a month) whereas testosterone is several hundreds of dollars a month. this is not me saying that trans women are more privileged but to say that trans men are is ridiculous when we're not even allowed to be ourselves. "non passing trans men still have male privilege" we still get treated as women and non passing trans men most likely don't even have access to hrt like u do. ur logic makes no sense

jus seen some comments abt how someone hc a character from a show as a trans woman and it got a ton of likes and positive replies (the person with this hc stated that they are cis btw when asked y) but a trans man in the comments mentioned he hc another character in the series as a trans man cuz he sees himself in the character and got 100+ dislikes and all of a sudden it's not "appropriate" to "force" being trans on fictional characters. but yeah everyone is completely normal abt trans men