@supertimewizard

I absolutely love this <3

I think one of the most important things in being involved in a FWB arrangement is respecting the person enough to understand that ya’ll can be friends without the benefits too. A good FWB friendship consists of respecting that that person can vibe with you without the bindings of a relationship, and possibly the withdrawal of sex if either party wishes to do so. Physical/Sexual attraction in a friendship is manageable as long as ya’ll communicate, agree, and respect each other on the right things.

And if the relationship is purely about sex, that’s fine, but thats not FWB. That’s a fuck buddy imo. A friend should be someone you enjoy talking to, making jokes with, and generally enjoying their presence or conversations with or without sexual or romantic feelings. The benefits can be brought in, but clear communication becomes essential for it to not collapse into something that causes stress to either party. And sometimes it can turn into both parties never talking again, but that can occur with ANYONE you choose to share your presence with. People come and go, and while it sucks to see someone go, understanding that no one is obligated to be in your presence forever and vice versa can save you lots of frustration and stress. Doesn’t mean you can’t appreciate that person for the time being, and if it turns into something long term, then all the better. If not, then you’ll be just as fine as you were before you met them. It’s all about communication and being secure within yourself. It doesn’t have to be overly complicated.