The Midnight Runner

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anything to do with death note

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every pairing has a ‘every time we touch’ amv on youtube

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having a million stickers on your deviantart

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harry potter ship wars

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the amazing atheist

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fml and mlia

_____ the abridged series

epic fail compilations

phoenix wright parodies

OH MY GOD, SHOES

we’re going to candy mountain charrrlliieee~

still using newgrounds.com

one hundred thousand sonic webcomics using sprites and gamer humour

SHOOP DA WOOP

Yuzuru Hanyu FS Origin || World Championships 2019

Bonus: Him saying “tadaima” (I’m home) and doing things to my heart

Figure Skating DX Magazine Special Edition

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What is grooming?

Grooming is a form of sexual abuse, and if you meet the person who is grooming you they may try to sexually assault you, which is when they touch you in a sexual way that you don’t agree to.

They might use secrecy, blame, gifts or threats of violence to stop you from telling somebody. This is because they know that if you tell someone what’s happening, they will no longer have power or control over you.

How does grooming happen?

Sometimes it starts by a person trying really hard to be nice to you, giving you more and more attention or buying you gifts to make you like them. When they have gained your trust and you start to depend on them, they find ways to turn the relationship into something more sexual – abusing your trust and taking advantage of you.

You may not realise that this is what’s happening to you, as the abuser will try and use many different ways to take advantage of you, including saying that they are your boyfriend and girlfriend.

Grooming also happens online. ‘Groomers’ might try to make friends with you on social networks or other sites. They often use chat rooms pretending to be someone else – maybe someone younger, older, a different gender or different sexuality. They often use profile pictures of someone else to hide their identity, and talk to you like they are a similar age to you when they are not.

Even if they do not try to meet with you, the person trying to groom you my encourage you to visit pornographic websites, talk to you about sexual experiences, or ask you to send them pictures or switch on your webcam and do things which you may feel uncomfortable about. All of these things may be forms of sexual abuse.

It’s important to think carefully about who you talk to, and especially about what personal details you share. Being groomed affects many young people who often ask ‘why is this happening to me?’, so it’s also important to remember that this is not your fault, and to know that you can get help.

How do I know if I’m being groomed?

It can be difficult working out whether someone is trying to groom you. There are some Early Warning Signs things that might help you realise that someone is acting in a way that isn’t ok.

Try asking yourself a few questions:

•Did they ask for really personal information about you or someone else, especially early on in your ‘relationship’?

•Do they want you to keep your ‘relationship’ a secret from other people?

•Do they want to meet with you alone or in secret?

•Do they want you to send them pictures of you or of other people, and/or want to send you pics of themselves?

•Do you feel pressured into doing or saying things that make you feel uncomfortable?

•Have they asked about your sexual experience, or how you feel about doing certain sexual things?

•Do they send or give you gifts or things that you think are either excessive such as things that are very valuable, or very personal or are very ‘grown up’, such as alcohol, tobacco or drugs?

•Do they ask you to move your webcam so they can see certain things?

•Do they seem to already know things about you that you haven’t told them?

•Are they over 18 whilst you are under 18? (although you can be groomed by people your own age)

These are just a few of the signs that someone could be trying to groom you, even if you believe they are your boyfriend or girlfriend. If the answer to any of these questions is yes, then it’s important that you talk to someone preferably an adult you can trust, but if not then your friends about what is happening. And remember, if something doesn’t feel right even slightly then it probably isn’t.

“They are not grooming me they are my boyfriend/girlfriend, and I think I’m in love”

It can be difficult to realise or recognise that you are a victim of grooming. Quite often the person who is grooming you will want you to think that you are in a relationship with them, and that they are your boyfriend or girlfriend. But what is really happening could be child sexual abuse whether you know them or not, whether they are pretending to be a different person or are using their own details, the only reason a groomer gains your trust is to persuade or trick you into doing something sexual with them.

However old you are, sex should always be consensual. Remember you’re allowed to say no, you should never be pressured into doing something you don’t want to, and if someone does try to force you into doing something sexual, they are breaking the law.

Below are some things that people may say to pressure you to have sex with them and some things that you can say that help you say no.

“If you loved me you’d do it.”

If you loved me you, (a) wouldn’t have just said that, and (b) would respect my decision.

“Everyone else is doing it.”

I’m not everyone else

“You’re frigid.”

No. I’m just comfortable with who I am and what I want.

I’ve made loads of friends online before – so why shouldn’t I meet this one?

Children and young people often make lots of friends online. Although most of these friendships stay online, sometimes you may meet these people in real life too – such as if you are into the same band, or the same sports team. But it can be difficult to know if the person you are talking to online is really who they say they are, so it’s not a good idea to meet up with someone just because they want to have a relationship with you or get to know you better.

The best rule is that what starts online, stays online. And if you’re not sure or feel uncomfortable about anything that someone is saying to you online, talk to an adult you can trust or your friends about what is happening, and block the person, or leave the chat room or forum where you’ve been talking to them. You can find more information about staying safe online at other places on this website.

Even if you do decide that you want to meet someone who you have got to know online, there are some important rules which everyone children and young people as well as adults should follow:

•Check as much as you can (age, school, address etc) to make sure they are the person they say they are you can’t be too cautious.

•Tell an adult you trust about meeting this person, who they are, and when and where you’re meeting.

•Call them with an unlisted number turn your caller ID sending off (remember text messages always give your number), and call rather than text, as you can tell a lot from someone’s voice.

•Arrange to meet somewhere public, and be sure to bring either two or more friends or a trusted adult.

•Even if you’ve arranged to meet, still don’t put too much personal information on your social networking pages they may not turn up, but they can still use that information.

What can I do?

Grooming is often quite difficult to recognise. Many children and young people don’t realise that they are being groomed, or that what is happening or has happened is abuse. Sometimes you might even think you are being groomed when someone is just trying to be friendly.

But as it’s your safety at stake, it is always better to be over-cautious. You may feel worried, sad or angry if you think you are being groomed, or you’re worried that a friend is, and it can be really hard to deal with this all on your own. However, lots of people find that if they talk to someone it can help. Some things you can do are:

•Tell an adult you trust. This could include a teacher, a family member, your youth worker or support worker. Tell them what is going on and ask for their help and advice. With this adult, you could develop a safety plan that would help you to choose how best to keep yourself safe.

•If you have been sexually assaulted or sexually abused, speak to a doctor or a nurse so they can check that you are ok and give you any medical help.

•Talk to your friends. A good friend will listen to you and may help you speak to an adult.

•Think about reporting it to the police. If the grooming has taken place online, you should also report what’s happened to the websites or forums where you met and chatted to the person who groomed you.