queer conductor

“I ruined my body for a peace of mind I never got”

are you a

my bottom dysphoria: *cries during sex half the time, nightmares about penetration, packing is essential*

“Overlooked by much of the media are those who feel that they are not exclusively men or women—people like Lester who would like their own box to check. They use labels like nonbinary, genderqueer, or one of many related terms that generally describe a sense of gender that’s beyond, or somewhere in between, the concepts of “man” and “woman.” They may adopt gender-ambiguous names, request the use of a neutral pronoun like ze or they in place of he or she, and cultivate wardrobes and appearances that do not register neatly as male or female. Some take hormones or undergo surgery, modifying attributes from body shape and muscle to sexual and reproductive traits to achieve an internal sense of physical congruence. (These can include procedures known to the trans community as “top” and “bottom” surgery, focused on the chest and reproductive organs, respectively.) They may dispense altogether with features that mark them as masculine or feminine—or choose to embody both. With the growth of blogs and websites about transgender identities, “people are feeling much more comfortable talking about more than just the two labels,” says Charlotte Tate, a San Francisco State University psychologist who researches social perception and who is herself a transgender woman. “Non-binary and genderqueer folks are using the light that’s been shone onto trans women’s and trans men’s experience to say, ‘Let’s not forget that there is a spectrum of these identities.’””

today is trans day of fuck

saying you have to have dysphoria to be trans is ultimately pandering to cis people’s fantasy that transgender existence is suffering and that all trans people really just wanna do is be cis ~just like them~

binary people • don’t include nonbinary people in anything • get mad when nonbinary people include themselves • get mad when nonbinary people create their own terminology / mock nonbinary people for using terminology that no one understands because it’s new • tell nonbinary people to pick a side • get mad at nonbinary people for picking a side because somehow, it’s the wrong side

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