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and if you're causing real harm and don't want to even PRETEND to try to do better, then get the fuck out of this community I'm not welcoming you.

I do believe we should work to stop harm-doers from causing harm by working with them, but within the confines of an online community harm-doers have to make the first step. We can't just ignore the causing of real harm.

while I don't think any identity causes harm, we have a consistent language for a reason. Saying that you're cisharmful communicates that you're causing real harm and aren't doing anything to change that. cisharmful doesn't just communicate identity, it communicates ACTION. Even if that's not what you mean, that's what you're communicating through your language and I will act accordingly (especially as i think keeping a certain level of separation between cis and transharmful is important)

2. Still rooted in emotion try again.

3. People are responsible for their own actions therefore it is not your responsibility or anyone else in the community’s to change them.

4. “Saying that you're cisharmful communicates that you're causing real harm and aren't doing anything to change that.” Ahh so by that logic cisgender are “really” their gender and transgenders aren’t. 🤔

Now my own thoughts on the subject!

Cis doesn’t mean “real”. It’s not about reality or how things are it’s about how one feels. Therefore cis is an identity.

You can be cisharmful in the way that an AGAB nonconforming being can be cis the opposite of their original AGAB.

Cisharmful doesn’t mean actively harmful just like AGAB nonconforming individuals aren’t actively changing from their original AGAB.

"Saying that you're cisharmful communicates that you're causing real harm" so youre just saying that only cis people are what they identify as. like ok. radqueer community mask-off transphobia example number 3834834279342987348913480

Transharmful = identifies as harmful and wishes to transition into that identity.

Cisharmful = identifies as harmful in a stationary, non-changing way; think of transharmful as a person crossing a brige to get somewhere, as in "on their way", and cisharmful as a person who either already crossed it or has always been there.

Harmful = not an identity, action-based.

Correct me if I'm wrong, fellow cisharmfuls/cisharm-supporters, but:

Transharmful does not imply "non-harmful". It implies a transition period between non-harmful and cisharmful. Therefore, transharmful people are indeed on the same page as cisharmfuls; think of it like a person who is learning a language vs. someone who speaks it natively. They both speak the language in some level, right?

Being harmful is not something the radqueer community should condone NOR condemn. Because the radqueer community is ALL ABOUT taking what people see as harmful, analyzing it and ultimately accepting it or respecting it at a distance. The whole point of the community is that no identity is harmful, identities are not actions, and "harmful" is a construct.

Modern slang has turned cringe into an adjective describing anything to which a person might have such a reaction.

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This shift in language is illustrative of a shift in culture.

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For a while there, in the early 2000s, there was this big sex positivity movement and we talked openly about kink and queer sexuality and creating a culture of consent that broke away from traditional conservative ideas of moral respectability.

And now we are in the midst of this giant purity culture backlash, this giant push for rigid conformity all over the internet. Anything that deviates from the norm even remotely is ridiculed.

And this cultural shift is perfectly encapsulated in this singular linguistic shift, this verb becoming a noun.

The Revenge of the Pearl Clutchers

That's what "cringing" is. It's pearl clutching.

When the pearl clutchers turned cringe into an adjective, they turned a reaction into an accusation. The pearl clutchers don't want to take responsibility for their own kneejerk emotions. They want to blame YOU.

They are saying, "My disgust isn't the fault of my own backwards prejudices. It is YOU who are inherently disgusting. My inability to cope with even the slightest deviation from norm is not the problem here. YOUR refusal to rigidly conform is the problem. I am not the one who is cringing. YOU are the one who is cringe."

Fuck 'em.

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Take the word back.

Cringe is not something people are.

People are very skilled at hating this term (lesboy) without actual knowledge of it, so I made a guide!! Also, while I forgot to add it to this, so abrosexuals use the term at times. ^_^

FISH!?

a species term for when one is a fish, but in a very excited way! a fish that people point at & go "FISH!?"

for cam!

symbol from here (link)!