Is LOVE dead for Millennials in the age of cyber dating?
  I went on  a hunt for this answer to my question. Is Love dead for Millennials, in the age of cyber dating? Is it harder for us to make lasting established relationships, than for our parents and grandparents? Webster’s Dictionary defines Love as “strong affection, warm attachment, attraction based on sexual desire, unselfish loyal, and benevolent concern for others.” Tina Turner said, “What’s Love got to do with it! What’s love but a second hand emotion!”
I have to admit that in the beginning of my search I was probably the most pessimistic person when it came to the ideals of love and it’s existence in 2015. I used to think I was the Ice Queen when it came to relationships, cold blooded even, but the truth is that I was only trying to protect myself from the foolishness and heartbreak that is out there. You will see what developed over the course of several weeks.Â
  I interviewed seven individuals, whom will remain anonymous, to protect their identities. They will only to referred to as letters. I randomly chose three males and four females. I asked each one the same questions then recorded their responses. Their own life experiences are reflected in their quotes. The selected quotes do not speak for an entire generation, are just a sample of what some Millennials think on Love, which is extremely powerful!!
     Is Love Dead for Millennials in the age of cyber dating? Is it harder to make lasting connections than for our grandparents and parents? Do we just have to work harder?
Ms. W.-  “Yes. Yes, (it’s) so much harder now a days, (we have) such a huge disadvantage.”
Mr. S.-  “There’s certainly not any miscommunication with love. It stays the same for everyone. We still have feeling for people even though it may not seem like it.”
Ms. Q. “Love is an illusion- it no longer exist, not really- at least nothing that last…not anymore. Sad but true. I mean all  this ability to instantly connect with people, Facebook, Twitter, texting- makes relationships hard because it is so easy to start relying on one other than yourself for emotional support.Â
Once you look elsewhere for that support the relationship suffers. Older generations had to talk with one another, they didn’t have the ability to text their troubles to someone else while sitting next to the person they should be communicating with…”
Mr. O.- “ I don’t believe there are too many differences in say the baby boom to current generation. The main two differences  are the Internet and the current generations institutions. Internet dating is a huge difference because (an) individual could connect with more people  and vast different mitigating the initial interaction and acceleration of obtaining small information on people. Also losing the face to face interaction and vast abundance of other mates force an individual to take the aspect almost more of a game or sweepstakes. It is difficult to establish a bond with someone without much vested interested.
I strongly believe people have to experience a degree of failure to understand true success that’s in all parts of life. Those experiences help find your soulmate, how to handle tough situations, and know how much you bend before you break.”Â
Ms. V.- “I think we have more of an ability to opt out. Our grandparents especially married and stayed married. They only dated long enough to to know someone and tied the knot. That was that, whether they were in love or not, or in an abusive relationship or not. Now we can be picky, date around, leave relationships, or bad situations. There’s not as much pressure to date to marry, or to marry, or to stay married.”
Mr. C.- “Love is not dead…Love isn’t the unconditional actions of our grandparents and parents have been brought up around. The foundation of it now is very jaded by the media and reality TV. There was a time where love meant every fiber of the word. People of the NOW generation have made it into a classification of what can you offer me that make us compatible. What can the other offer, how much money do you make, it’s like an application for a job sort to speak.
Though it takes away from the old fashion getting out and meeting people and conversation to potentially finding the “right” person…because a lot of men feel as though women want a finished product. (They) Don’t want a work in progress. Men see women as being selfish and not knowing that the same guy she has no interest in is probably the type of man she has been searching for her whole life if not a long time. From that stand point it appears dead but it’s an equal parts to both sides of the coin.” Â
Ms. T.- “I personally do not believe love it is dead for millennials. I met my boyfriend on an online dating site and we are still going strong after eight months.  We have a long distance relationship, which is harder, but he is worth it! I do think it is harder to make lasting relationships as compared to my grandparents. And every relationship takes a lot work, but now it does seem  like it is a full time job to keep a relationship strong. There are so many things to get in the way of keeping a relationship strong, you have to be truly ready for it to make it work for any situation.”Â
    The truth of the matter is that romantic relationships are like any other relationship and they require work. If the person you are in the relationship with isn’t willing to put in the same amount of work as you are, then you must get out, and save yourself.
   There are many Millennials however, whom have found true love, and it is lasting love. They have worked on their relationships and know what is going to take to keep their love strong through the test of time.Â
Know for yourself what you want when you jump in looking for love…
Peace, love, and tranquility,
