The Black Guy

𝟑𝟏 𝐓𝐇𝐈𝐍𝐆𝐒 𝐈 𝐋𝐄𝐀𝐑𝐍𝐄𝐃 𝐀𝐁𝐎𝐔𝐓 𝐋𝐈𝐅𝐄

Friendship at 30 looks nothing like friendship at 20—and that’s a good thing.

The red flags you ignore in the beginning will be the reason things end. Even if it takes years.

Saying “no” is a muscle; the more you use it, the stronger it gets.

Therapy is not an emergency room, it’s a gym. Go before things fall apart.

You will not regret wearing sunscreen. You will regret skipping it.

Having a clean kitchen before bed feels like a love letter to your future self.

Stop asking people who don’t live your life for advice on how to live it.

Cooking for yourself is a quiet form of self-respect.

You can love someone and still not want them in your life.

The things you say to yourself matter.

Small talk is underrated—it’s the bridge to deep talk.

Your body is not the same one you had at 21, and that’s not a tragedy.

You can start over at any age. People do it all the time.

Don’t text your ex. Ever.

Rest is productive.

You can’t force someone to value you—you can only show them how you value yourself.

If your ex-friend is on a smear campaign about you, stay silent. You left the friendship for a reason, and their loud says a lot more about them than your quiet.

Your energy is your currency—spend it wisely.

Time alone is not loneliness; it’s maintenance.

The thing you keep postponing because you think it’s too late? Start it. You’ll wish you’d done it sooner.

Silence during an argument is not the same as losing—it can be a sign of emotional maturity.

Happiness is often found in the smallest, most ordinary moments.

Text people when you think of them—it means more than you know.

“Because I want to” is a valid reason.

Time heals a lot, but intentional healing is faster.

Everything feels less scary once you say it out loud.

Nobody has it all together. If they say they do, they’re lying.

You’ll never regret investing in good bedding.

Sometimes you’re not sad, you’re just dehydrated and scrolling too much.

Forgiving yourself takes longer than forgiving anyone else.

Life doesn’t get easier—it gets richer, if you let it.