Hi!

HUH????????????? I'M SORRY??????

i'm 100% sure i make less money than her, and i have health insurance!!! it is a priority. i use it a lot.

i know i have massachusetts privilege, but... wtf!!! she has a full caseload! build it into your pricing, and get health insurance, lady!!!

what the fuck????!?!?

also i don't know what her expenses are but i do expect this line of work to be lucrative enough for me to live the life i want.

also also i don't work over the weekend. and i intend to keep it this way. the thought disgusts me. i don't even like having meetings on friday. i try to keep it meeting free. what student wants to meet with their college counselor after school on a friday??? eew!

there may come a point where i need to work on the weekends but i will try mightily to avoid it.

eight phone calls to get this one appointment!!!

i feel like this is pathological??? i keep on seeking out people who are similar to my mother, who i have a tumultuous relationship with??

if you want to schedule a meeting with someone, and you initiated it, so you want the meeting more than they do, NEVER give them your scheduling link and expect them to use it. they will not. either get their scheduling link or email back and forth until you have a time.

most of the people at the party yesterday were in the same running group. there was a whole group of them that just hung out on the porch while everyone else was inside, and they did not talk to anyone else.

that is truly wild behavior to me. they see each other weekly at running club!!! this party was an opportunity to talk to ppl they don't see every week!

and frankly it was just frustrating to me as an outsider, lol. it was a whole group of people that i did not have the option of speaking to.

there was another smaller group of people that clearly knew each other and were just unfriendly. i don't get it! i just don't get it.

i've gone to so many parties by myself, not knowing many people, so i am particularly sensitive to this. one time at a wedding i was seated at a table with two different groups of people who already knew each other, and they were both super insular, and it made me very sad and lonely.

as it frequently does, the subject of conversation inevitably moved over to dating. people were talking about how much dating in boston sucks, and i felt... super smug, not gonna lie! i said, "i just... don't date. so i do not have this particular grievance." and then i did peace signs with both hands like jonny fairplay.

some people just accepted this with no further explanation, but at a certain point the conversation group grew. when someone from the original group brought up that i am single by choice (nonconsensually, but whatever), some of the new people had questions. it was nice that they were curious and wanted to understand, but it was also weird to be on display like that, among a super heteronormative crowd.

i did not want to tell them that i am aroace bc not only is that an entire tedtalk, but this crowd wasn't even considering that i might be gay! so how would they possibly understand asexuality?

it's really weird to talk about my singleness without also talking about my sexual orientation. the two go together. but i guess sometimes if the crowd isn't right, that's what i have to do.

i just can't believe i had to do it during pride month!! come ON!!!!

i made it through this album and all i got was this crappy tumblr post!

her big epiphany in this song is that romantic love will not solve all of her problems. all of her insecurities have come with her into the relationship, and they are not going away. wherever you go, there you are.

and she is DEVASTATED to discover this.

look at my reddit avatar. look at her! she has such joie de vivre!

i always go to the produce first because this is how everyone does it, right? ok. anyway. i go to the produce first, and they have everything i need but cilantro.

i was bereft. i was searching around the empty cilantro basket looking for any trace of the herb. i planned on making a salad this week, and cilantro is the magic ingredient. i've made it with and i've made it without, and it is leaps and bounds better with cilantro.

i went and did the rest of my shopping, and then, before checking out i thought "maybe i'll just go back and see if the cilantro situation has changed. it's unlikely but i've gotta try"

and reader, there was a FULL BASKET of cilantro! BLESS THE FREAKING HEAVENS AND ALSO WHICHEVER GROCERY STORE EMPLOYEE RESTOCKED THE CILANTRO!

this person heavily implied that ariana is struggling with anorexia. and it's important for us to speculate about a famous person's health and talk about their body because...... anorexia is dangerous?

no shit.

i just don't think it is important for us to discuss this. i don't care about ariana grande's body and/or health. she is teaching us nothing new.

we already know that thin is in. it's been in for decades. probably close to a century. we pretended it wasn't for a while, but it still was.

we also know that diet culture is bad, and glorification of thinness is bad and dangerous. we should probably stop fucking doing it.

you know what we also need to do? FUCKING CHANGE THE NARRATIVE AROUND FATNESS. FATNESS IS NOT GROSS OR SCARY OR INDICATIVE OF A CHARACTER FLAW. IT'S JUST HOW SOME PEOPLE'S BODIES ARE.

and if you're not gonna be saying this, shut the fuck up about ariana grande's body, for the love of god.

you can't talk about how dangerous anorexia is without talking about a probable reason a person would deny themself nourishment: fear of being fat, which is the flip side of valorization of thinness.