Too Much For The Sense Of Platonic Love
My best friend is leading me on. I told him that he was too, and he's still doing it. He texts me really late at night just to chat. Or he wants to call or face time me just for. But he knows those are things that make me think I like him because we talked about it. He cares about me and I care about him but sometimes he cares a little too much for the sense of platonic love. He says he doesn't like me but my friends agree he's too much when he interacts with me. Idk what to do?
You talk a lot about your best friend’s actions and how they make you feel as though he likes you, but you don’t say anything at all about how you feel other than that you care about him.
So why is this bothering you so much?
Your stance on this situation is a bit unclear to me. You’ve said you feel like he’s leading you on but you’ve also said that he cares a little too much.
He’s your best friend and generally, best friends do the things you’ve mentioned above. I text and call my best friend everyday just to chat. I care about my best friend. We hug. Our interactions probably sometimes appear questionably romantic (though they’re not).
And I never consider whether or not he likes me because I know that he doesn’t. He’s my best friend and I’m his and that’s all we are.
So, it’s certainly possible that your best friend likes you, but more importantly than that, I’d urge you to start thinking about why it is that you’re questioning his actions so much. Perhaps you’re so hyper-vigilant around him because you’re looking a sign that he has feelings for you.
Perhaps this means that you might actually have feelings for him and you’re just not allowing yourself to admit it.
What would that mean for you and your relationship with him?
Is there a reason you’re afraid of letting yourself like him?
Might your actions also come across as flirtatious and non-platonic towards him?
What’s so wrong with trying things out and telling him how you feel?
So take a look at your situation from a new perspective.
It’s time to face those feelings of yours.