I thought I made a post about this before but apparently not, and correct me of Iâm wrong, but no one has a âtrueâ gender or gender identity because gender and gender identity donât have an essence. Gender identity is a self-determined thing dependent on the rationalization of your life experiences up until your present point. Both your life experiences and rationalization of your experiences are able to change.
This means taking peopleâs gender identities seriously, even if they donât make sense to you. This means believing someone when they say they occupy a certain gendered position. This means not interrogating people or making assumptions about their life experiences in order to determine what they âreallyâ are. How someone personally identifies is something that should be self-determined, and no one knows someoneâs life experiences better than their own damn self.
Youâre not as against gender that you think you are if you try to force other people into gendered labels or categories they donât want to be in.
















