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Someone commented on the concept stating that while it may be true for the comics, movie-verse Tony Stark is certainly not female-coded.

But isn’t he, though?

We’ve discussed before how hypermasculinity sometimes seems to go so over-the-top that it does a full 360, coming out the other side seeming rather feminized, the hypermasculine male presented as a sexual object with assets on display (slim waist, thick thighs, full chest) for the consumption of the male gaze. But that’s not the case with Tony Stark; it isn’t his hypermasculinity that makes him seem female-coded, it’s the question of agency.

Tony does seem to possess many traits that we consider culturally feminine, female cliches, such as talking a lot and talking fast, using a rich vocabulary, a short and petite stature as compared to other superheroes, the narrative passing jugement on his promiscuity, the narrative passing judgement on his desire for junk-food, his passive demeanor, his self-consciousness about his body and having to wear underarmor in public to manage his chest, his avoidance of interpersonal conflict, looking for daddy’s love and approval, the way in which he conceals much of his intelligence because he knows that if people saw him for how he really is, they would be off-put by it ie. giving the appearance of being smart-but-not-too-smart, the eroticizing of his appearance in the narrative, the focus on what he’s wearing, his obsessive-compulsive behavior, meticulous grooming habits, delicate features, dressing to impress professionally, carrying conversations, his weakness being his heart, the fact that he has to dress into a suit that conceals his identity, his true self, to interact with the world, a hard outer shell that conceals his soft inside. There are aspects to Tony Stark in the films that are female-coded.

I think that some people might find these aspects difficult to see because there are three distinct personas to the character: there’s the Tony Stark that he projects to the outside world to hide who he really is that is his true armor, there’s Iron Man that is a prosthetic, an armor that shields him and allows him the protection of being who he really is, and then there’s Tony Stark, the person he is in his heart of hearts that we see only when’s alone with the artificial intelligences he created for himself, as his friends, the only friends that really, truly get to see him, because he knows that they won’t judge him (outside of him being alone, we see glimpses of the ‘real’ Tony Stark in Afganistan, in his interactions with Natasha and in two scenes with Steve: while they’re cutting wood and Tony asking Steve whether he knew).

These are the three sides to Tony Stark, and I see a lot of fans confuse his Tony Stark armor, his protective persona, with who he is because that is, by design, the loudest, most visible side to him.

There are many sides to him that are female-coded, but it’s the limited agency that he is given in the narrative that is the most telling. Most of his stories seem to revolve around the stripping of his agency and his struggle to regain it. This character – a genius, billionaire, playboy, philantropist – who ought to be the ultimate male power fantasy has all of his stories constructed around his lack of agency and his need of a prosthetic to claim agency for himself. It’s easy to assume that an able-bodied, rich, good-looking, well-educated, white CEO of the American upper crust has all the power and control in the world, but the narrative begins disabusing the viewer of this notion right off the bat. The narrative deconstructs his agency.

What I appreciated about the Iron Man films was how they subverted the role of the damsel in distress in Pepper Potts. Especially the end of the first film in which Pepper marched through broken glass in her stiletto shoes to save Tony Stark was something that made me stop and think for days afterwards. The third film basically recreated this subversion of the trope louder for those in the back that hadn’t caught it the first time. It was Pepper Potts that was the knight in shining armor, not the title character.

And it is Tony that we see as the damsel in distress, particularly again in the first and the third films. The first film contains the iconic scene of Obadiah Stane literally removing Tony’s agency in a scene that is filmed like a sexual violation, a none-too-subtle air of erotic violence in the air as he uses his date rape technology to incapacitate Tony. This is a turning point in the film. The third film contains a scene in which Tony Stark is zip-tied to a bed frame with the villain taunting him. It is implied that Tony is similarly submissive in bed. The main villain in the scene acts like a spurned lover, a definite air of seduction to his conduct toward the tied-up hero.

That is two cases of villains making eroticized advances toward a physically incapacitated Tony Stark. And it isn’t the violence or the incapacitation that makes the scenes female-coded, it is the eroticization of it. It is female characters that are subject to eroticized violence, generally speaking. The second film does not follow the pattern, but it could be interepreted as an obsessive, spurned man making unwanted advances toward our hero.

I wrote about the interaction between Natasha and Tony previously, on how she allows us to see a side of him that we usually don’t get to see. Some people have described Tony’s hiring of her as sexist, undoubtedly influenced by Pepper’s interpretation of his behaviour as he tried to figure her out (“And she is potentially a very expensive sexual harassment lawsuit if you keep ogling her like that.”), but his interest in her was never that kind of interest. His eyes don’t track her sexual assets. Tony saw something of himself in her, especially in the way she was playing a role, but even more than that, I think Tony saw in Natasha Romanoff something that he wanted desperately to be. In control.  

Natasha Romanoff gives the air of being in control even when she gives up control, and in this she is the opposite of Tony Stark.

With this in mind, and I don’t remember whether I wrote about this before, I was quite disturbed by the way the climax of Civil War was shot not unlike a pornographic sex scene, Tony Stark being double-teamed by the super soldiers. The ending of the scene especially, with Steve straddling Tony, pounding on him, grunting, finishing it off with breathing heavily as he falls off Tony having penetrated his arc reactor with his shield, having incapacitated Tony’s prosthetic. Tony spits out blood as the super soldiers walk away from him. It’s rather symbolic, the implications of the scene very uncomfortable.

While Bucky Barnes is another character whose storyline heavily features the stripping down of agency, the female-coding of the strong, stoic silent-type is largely absent. Bucky Barnes and Tony Stark share similarities, and in this he offers a contrast to Tony.

So, yes. I do see Tony Stark of the movie-verse as a female-coded superhero because his story revolves around desperately grasping for agency. Among these hypermasculine heroes, the genius-billionaire-playboy-philantropist is at a disadvantage, so Tony Stark invented, constructed, and put on a suit that hides his true identity in order to have a measure of agency in a hypermasculine world, that allows him to assert himself. And in Civil War he was willing to sign off on his self-created agency because the establishment had managed to convince him that as a person with near unlimited resources, he was a danger to the world that he had risked his life and the lives of his loved ones to protect.

I think one of the most telling aspects of his character vis-à-vis Civil War is that, convinced that it is too dangerous for him to attempt to influence the outside world and other people in it, Tony Stark instead turned within and attempted to modify his own internal world, to (literally) influence his own internal state instead – to accept what he can’t change. This is a classic strategy of the disenfranchised.

I think this is why a lot of the men in my life much prefer other superheroes. Tony should be their go-to with the “manly” hobbies like the type of music he listens to and his car tinkering. At the end though Tony always needs help or straight up doesn’t get the glory of defeating the bad guy himself. You can’t really self-insert where the power fantasy that comes with being a superhero is subverted. 

This is also why Age of Ultron messed me up so much. I just think it harkens back to consent issues. Tony sets out to create something good and helpful, but the mind stone takes control and makes it something bad and awful. Tony did not consent to have his invention perverted like that, and it wasn’t even a mistake on his part. He had no power at all over this situation. Yet all of his friends blame him, shame him, for engaging in behavior that they didn’t agree with, but that was ultimately morally fine. Trying to create a peace-keeping initiative is morally a very fine thing to do, and quite obviously the results were not the ones he intended, nor even the result he built. He has zero culpability in the creation of this evil sentient being but still, to this day, he blames himself, all the characters blame him, and a majority of the fans blame him (because it’s repeated so often in the narrative that he’s to blame.) This just harkens back to slut-shaming victims of sexual assault. He consents to create this beautiful thing that would help people, but someone else takes control and perverts it into a thing he did not consent to, and would never consent to. Then, when what happened is brought to light, everyone blames him for having the gall to dabble in something he enjoys and has experience in and knows what he was doing. It just makes me think of science in terms of sex. “If you dabble too much in this thing eventually something like this is going to happen, whether you want it to or not.” or “you made the choice to engage in this behavior so it’s your fault when something like this happens, even though you didn’t consent.”

I think the most interesting thing here though is Bruce. People have talked about before how Bucky is also female-coded but aside from that one scene where he’s shirtless when they torture him and the whole, “someone else literally having control of his body” thing hes incredibly male. I would even say that there’s a huge difference between how “Bucky” and “the winter soldier” are coded but what I really want to talk about is Bruce. Bruce has no agency whatsoever. Whenever he experiences pain or rage or fear-literally any negative emotion-a different person entirely takes control of his body from the inside out. When he is confronted by what had been done to his creation, or more aptly, when he was confronted by the judgment of his teammates he “rolled over and showed his belly.” Bruce’s control over his life is almost nonexistent yet everyone blames him for the Hulk. Every time the Hulk does something destructive they blame him, because they really can’t bring their judgements to the Hulk himself. He is used to taking the blame for things he isn’t quite responsible for because that’s much easier than trying to fight over where exactly his culpability ends. (But of course, he still blames himself most times so it’s much easier to also let everyone blame him and take the punishment to appease his conscience.)

Now circling back to Tony I think this is the only time after he became Iron Man that he actually defended himself over something “he did” wrong. I think a lot of this comes from the fact that he has no idea what went wrong when he defends himself. When he tells them this Steve immediately replies “Well you did something right. And you did it right here.” just completely ignoring what Tony just said but oh well. This seems to be enough to convince Tony though, and his anger at the whole situation gets directed inwards the rest of the movie. Then in Civil War everything just carries over. Getting into the whole thing with Wanda and how she messed with his mind and “knew his fear would control him” which is never addressed again despite the fact she also mentally manipulated the majority of the team. But she did so to incapacitate, not control like she did with Tony and the hulk. Tony and Bruce lose agency this entire movie with Tony being blamed for Ultron and Bruce being blamed for Johanessburg, while the actual culprits are the mind stone and Wanda respectively. Both these things carried over into civil war, with Tony, “Ultron: My fault” and Bruce “Can you tell me where Bruce Banner is right now?” (and in the mcu guide its revealed the world still believes the hulk attacked Johanessburg because he’s an uncontrollable monster and don’t even know Wanda was involved at all).