Daniel Black

“Just because you’ve got the emotional range of a teaspoon doesn’t mean we all have.”

First of all I understand that people don’t like the implications, and I understand that people don’t like the way in which they came about. That’s all fine and well. People are aloud to dislike a story line. But let’s be clear about a few things that are being blatantly overlooked.

1. People saying that JJ and Reid have had a sibling relationship throughout the series are essentially projecting their own feelings onto the show. The show has NEVER implied that they look at each other in that way. In the first few seasons Reid had romantic feelings for JJ. She didn’t return them and he moved on, putting their FRIENDSHIP first. Their friendship has been highlighted on the show since season two. They have called each other best friends and family (like most of the OG team do) for years. But never has either of them called the other a sibling or brother/sister like. The rest of the team refers to them as best friend as well, never has ANYONE claimed that they were like siblings. That is completely a fan based idea. It has no merit on the show. And that happens with a lot of pairings that are best friends turned romantic interests. The fans that don’t see them together romantically claim they are sibling like. You can be close friends without being “sibling like”. So yes, it is valid that people may not see Reid and JJ together romantically. But it is not valid to say the show has been treating them like siblings for years. That’s just not true. 

2. People are claiming that this revelation ruins the JJ character. WOW. I have so many issues with the onslaught of JJ hate coming through right now. JJ is a human being. She is flawed, she has feelings, she makes mistakes. That has ALWAYS been a part of her character. She isn’t evil for having feelings for Reid while she’s married. Humans can’t control how they feel, but they can control how they behave. That’s what JJ has done. She has behaved perfectly as a wife and mother. But she can’t control how she may feel about Reid. Clearly she’s pushed those feelings down for a long time. I think she’s been doing what she thinks is right for her family. Henry wasn’t planned but when she became pregnant she stepped up and put him first. Would she and Will have stayed together if Henry didn’t happen? Who knows. I think she loves Will but I don’t think she’s ever loved him the same way he loves her. And I feel like there is plenty of show based evidence to support that. I do think that as their family grew, her love for him grew. But again, I just don’t think he was ever IT for her. I think she’s happy with him, I think she loves their family unit. But I don’t think it’s a stretch at all to think she has thoughts and feelings about someone other than him. And I don’t think that makes her a horrible person. 

To be clear I also don’t think it’s fair to Will to stay with him while having feelings with someone else. But I think she’s convinced herself that it’s too complicated to ever explore things with Reid (which is kind of is). And she does love Will, so it makes sense for her family to just push those other feelings away and continue on this path with her family. People are in this situation all the time. I hear so many fans saying it’s unrealistic for her to admit her feelings to Reid now that she has a husband and kids. UM? It’s actually very realistic. People have kids and get married and those marriages fall apart or feelings change ALL THE TIME. Love is messy. It doesn’t come and go at the best times. I think a lot of people question missed chances or feelings they never addressed once they’re in a committed relationship/family. And I think the only reason JJ said anything was because their lives were on the line and she needed to genuinely impress the guy with her answer. Those feelings may have stayed hidden forever, or for years, or until something else came between her and Will (work, communication, etc). Fans have been ready for JJ and Will to separate for years, it’s always one of the theories going around when a JJ episode comes up. Fans like the relationship but they also see that it’s never been rock solid. They are rock solid parents together but they aren’t rock solid as a couple and really never have been. 

Please go back and watch JJ when Reid was in prison. Watch Reid all the times JJ was being held hostage.

Watch how they cry and confined in one another.