"if you forgot then it obviously wasn't important to you" is an ableist thing to say and i'm tired of pretending it's not
I've forgotten *my own birthday* before. There are several years of my life just straight up missing. In the past I've forgotten silly little frivolous things like NAMES OF LOVED ONES or WHERE MY HOUSE IS. But obviously none of that was important. Fucking awful, ableist thing to say.
#BELIEVE YOU ME the damage this has caused me#attacked until I was sobbing with shame for having a brain fart or forgetting something mid convo or misplacing something etc#constsntly accused of not caring#and obviously the more my memory was surprise tested in convo via pop quizzes mid convo the more id forget#the more id be accused of not caring#fuck all that man
