Today I was asked how I get my confidence. And although I gave advice and how Iβve been able to build up my confidence. Itβs been on my mind. Here is some of what I said:
Surrounding yourself with same bodied people helps a lot. Donβt follow skinny models or βgoalβ bodies (unless youβre on a physical weight loss journey and they went through the same). Definitely donβt admire them just for being skinny but for the journey and hardships they went through.
Stop focusing on what you think men like. Men donβt matter. Not in terms of your mental well-being.
Do stuff for you. Try a BUNCH OF CLOTHES ON! Seriously this is a big one. Keeping an open mind when trying on clothes helps a lot. Of course thereβs gonna be certain things youβre not comfortable with and thatβs okay but you literally have to wear stuff that makes your feel good. Your attitude changes when you feel good.
Itβs also really important that you donβt compare yourself to others. Itβs hard on your your self esteem. Also, we should be able to appreciate anotherβs beauty without questioning our own. Itβs hard, I know but thatβs why I say itβs hard work.
Youβre not always gonna get it or understand why someone likes you or is attracted to you but you have to believe they are genuine in their love and their words. The not believing is your own issues and what you have to work on.
Hope this helps someone.
