you can have your own personal relationship with sex and libido without it being a label or identity you have to paste on yourself. it’s like people think because they don’t like casual hooking up or just don’t have a strong libido/aren’t that horny that means they are somehow a “deviant” and need to invent a new identity and make yourself a flag. some people are horny and some aren’t that horny, that’s just life. some people like casual hooking up and some don’t. some only get horny with a long term partner. it’s all normal and none of that makes you “deviant” and none of it makes you oppressed, and it ESPECIALLY doesn’t make you lgbt.

and you know what? people thinking that their sex drive has anything to do with being lgbt just shows how sexualized/fetishized we are. we are associated more with being “sexual deviants” than with just being people who want to have relationships and lives with whoever we want. this is why you get bdsm and other “kinks” thinking they’re lgbt, because to them being lgbt is more about fucking than it is about freedom.

sharice davids just unseated a republican in the middle of fucking kansas becoming the first native american woman to serve in the us house of representatives and guess what SHE’S ALSO A LESBIAN 

academia is ruined, we need to throw it back to the days when scholars were only after the cure for death, i want to wear a cool robe and get funding from the king to just do whatever the hell and kind of poison him

One of the most challenging things I’ve had to learn is that healing must be intentional. There is no one golden day that comes and saves you from all your misery. Healing is a practice. You have to decide that it’s what you want to do and actively do it. You have to make a habit out of it. Once I learned that, I only looked back to see how far I came.

where are my fellow hysterical women who would have either been a) an oracle in ancient greece or b) burned at the stake in medieval times…..make some noise ladies