let yourself be happy

Hi!! By "fat shaming" I'm assuming that you mean specifically humiliation/degradation in the context of a scene. I would go about negotiating this as you would any other type of humiliation/degredation in a typical submissive/dominant relationship. (I'm also assuming you're the one doing the humiliation, so if this answer doesn't apply, just let me know and I'll try to answer) Some people are only into the praise aspect, so when you're doing kink negotiation, ask them how they feel on praise/humiliation, if there's certain triggers to avoid. I've seen people on Tumblr refer to certain terms as "barnyard terms" which I like as a descriptor: pig, cow, etc. Some people might like a little teasing, but not outright dehumanization. Some people might like degradation, but nothing health related. And some people might not know until it happens! In any situation with power dynamics, you might accidentally hurt feelings, and you and your partner need to be okay with that going into it. You need to trust your partner to tell you when you're crossing a boundary as much as they need to trust you to respect a boundary if you accidentally cross one. You also need to know that you respect and value each other as people first, and whatever is said in a scene doesn't reflect how you feel. That doesn't mean things can't still potentially trigger you, but still. Good kink negotiation is the foundation to a good scene. (An underrated kink dynamic is also humiliation for the feeder... Tell them they're disgusting for making you this way. Heheh) On Tumblr, I would play it safe unless you see someone specifically post something that says "teasing/humiliation/degradation welcome".

Anyway this made me realize that there's not much out there specifically for this kind of negotiation. There's the jar of kinks etc, but that's a little less specific, so I made a worksheet!

It's by no means comprehensive, but hopefully it can get a conversation moving in the right direction.

I need this as feedist inspo audio I can listen to on headphones throughout the day...

I have analyzed my relationship to this kink so much it hurts... For the longest time, I was convinced that I was born with this kink because Ive had thoughts since I was like 7 years old! Every night I would go to bed with my hands pushed up against my clit and think about eating so much that I couldn't fit in my house... how does that sexual thought manifest before I even hit puberty!!! I wasnt even just thinking about it. I was touching myself!

Lots of people say it stems from TV shows and stuff which is fair but like... how? Like I used to feed my Pixel Chick (deep cut lmfao) until she got fat but I was doing it because I already knew I liked it, ykno?

I also think my naturally contrarian personality type could play a role. Since I was old enough to form my own opinion, Ive always wanted to do the opposite of everyone else. Wear different clothes, listen to alternative music, or go out of my way not to watch or read popular media. Maybe this kink is just another way my brain has decided to reject social norm.

Anyways... I could actually talk about this forever and I am also very interested in other people's thoughts on the origin of this kink for them!

**wait I came back to add this lol**