just a herd of sheep

again sorry if the answers suck

Maybe one day we will improve on it all.

sorry if the answers aren't that good. I am just curious to learn what others think since I don't have an opinion on it.

Also I should probably make a new link for showing the main few fronters in the system and put who is talking at the end of the posts.

This clearly isn't talked about enough since I thought I was the only one with these issues. I had no idea that PMDD can influence systems this way. Are there any other disorders that also do this? How do most disorders influence systems?

Just still have been struggling after everything unfortunately. Been avoiding plural/system stuff in order to try to cope but that might not be healthy.

so, first, try not track or even think about 'who's front'. if you're using SP or PK or something, turn off and/or don't use that function. accept you won't know who is fronting for a while. even if there is an obvious front, don't mark it "officially" for a while - you can write it down, but overall you want to stop focusing on the question in general.

instead, focus on other signs and feelings of your plurality. depending on what you know about your headmates, that might be engaging in media or interests they like, making them in dollmakers, looking at pride things they relate to, etc. watch to see how you respond, if you feel any response - and i do mean any response, including vague feelings of "John would like this". when you get a notable response, write it down - don't think too hard about it, just write down something like "felt John around lunch when we heard his favorite song".

don't force it! it might take a while to see results. the secret here is to convince everyone inside that it's safe to be themselves whenever they're ready. take a gentle, patient, and accepting approach. remember you're all in this together. there's no way to be a system. even the blended state you're in now isn't wrong or bad - it's scary and frustrating, but it's just another way your system has tried to protect itself. no matter how long it takes, your feelings will always be real.

i wish you the best!!! - 🌙

Actually tearing up. /pos

I appreciate all of this. From the advice to the encouraging words. It also really helps to hear that it isn't just an us thing and others have had similar experiences. I will do my best to keep all of this in mind. I really hope we can pull through this soon but like you said I will do my best to avoid forcing it.