CosmiCats Co.

basically you have the same conscious but different identity and ways of thinking

so sharing memories and thoughts is really easy bc everyone knows all all the time

also switching feels more like ur becoming the other person rather than youre leaving

it’s so weird how suddenly drawn to plurality i am? i found out about plurality through a documentary on YouTube and discovered non-trauma systems through my friend who’s the host of an endo system! that was a few months ago, maybe 5 or 6? i dropped it but thought it was fascinating!

i follow a blog on Tumblr and they talked about if they were a system like a week or two ago and that got me thinking again. seriously,, i feel a connection with the & symbol in pronouns (“they&/them&”) (the symbol in general tbh) and sometimes i have a tendancy to address myself with plural pronouns (“us”, “we”, “our”),,, i dissociate to the point where i forget i exist and inhabit a body,,, i have terrible memory (don’t remember things vividly past 2 years ago) and apparently i get told things that i have no recollection of (if mom says “hey you need to switch the laundry” i won’t know she told me to until she’s upset with me saying “i told you already to do it and you said OK!” but i don’t remember saying “OK”? but what if it’s not “me” being told to switch the laundry and someone else taking my place for me?). autism and ADHD (inattentive if that’s relevant) certainly don’t help,,,, and i’m fluid as shit (gender, pronouns, names, aesthetics, avatars) and i hoard stuff too. i’m ✨ c o n s t a n t l y c h a n g i n g ✨ and i don’t know,,,,,,,, sometimes i feel “blurry”? what does being blurry even feel like /gen

i’ve been using the plural label,, but i feel wrong,,,, i haven’t had any communication with possible headmates either so that makes it worse. how would i find out if i have any?

heh,,,, i’m a mess, but thanks for listening to my rant /lh

i guess i’ll call myself 💙🖤 anon if it’s not taken? i’ll probably be back with more questions so just in case,,,, /lh

oh i forgot-

i’ll subtitle/say in my head the words and conversations around me??? sometimes??? and i don’t know if it’s to process everything or if i’m helping a headmate??? or maybe it is a headmate subtitling it??? what’s the deal with that lol /lh

-💙🖤 anon (just sent an ask and forgot to add this sorry for the consecutive asks /gen)

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sorry for late response! my brain saw lots of text and short circuited /lh ! im gonna break it down and respond to each bit :] oh and you can claim 💙🖤 anon !

> it’s so weird how suddenly drawn to plurality i am? that makes sense! people who are questioning often start out by learning about communities and then going 'wait. me?' and that's okay! examples include. trans ppl, gay ppl, aspec ppl, etc!

> sometimes i have a tendancy to address myself with plural pronouns ... i dissociate to the point where i forget i exist and inhabit a body

i would say if you're using we/us subconciously that's something to look into. singlets can and do use we/us sometimes, but if ur doin it on accident? hmmmm /lh . dissociation is also a pretty strong sign to think about plurality! traumagenic systems [read: us] may have so much dissociation they don't realize they're a system at first n thats perfectly valid!

> apparently i get told things that i have no recollection of

nod nod, switching is def a possible cause of that! idk ur specific situation but memory loss can happen like this [happens to us sometimes when we're having a trauma moment tm] and also manifest in different ways! memory shit can range from

> what does being blurry even feel like

well id say its different for lots of people but for us, our blurriness feels like a badly made smoothie of a person. there's bits that don't fit together, and its hard to know where certain unconcious things are coming from [ie. did i do that because i want to do it or because someone in co-con wants to]. it can also be like, lets say ur making a representation of yourself, like a picrew, and you get stuck on stuff. is my hair long or short? what color are my eyes? etc

> i’ve been using the plural label,, but i feel wrong,,,, i haven’t had any communication with possible headmates either so that makes it worse. how would i find out if i have any?

you can use the plural label even if you don't know about any headmates, that's okay! i would say to contact them you can look here and here maybe? tillman suggested to another anon a few ideas for communicating :]

> i don’t know if it’s to process everything or if i’m helping a headmate??? or maybe it is a headmate subtitling it???

well, it could be both! i can't tell you exactly what's going on, because that's something only you (or yall!) know, but it very well could be related to a headmate! maybe they experience the outside world through these subtitles?

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anyway, i‘m 99% sure i didn’t experience any trauma but i literally don’t remember anything vividly past 2 years ago. i am autistic too and my memory (short-term especially) has been a real struggle lately for some reason. i know i’m super depressed so that’s definitely contributing to it,,, i never wanted to take the plural label but accidentally and completely naturally saying “us”, “our”, and “we” a few times along with almost feeling wrong being referred to with singular pronouns, i feel like it’s only obvious to take it now? like now i want to use plural pronouns for me (us?????) and i dissociate a lot too,,, like sometimes i forget i inhabit a body? i didn’t have direct contact with any headmates i don’t think, maybe I’m mono-conscious or median? but sometimes i feel singular? i feel like i’m constantly changing (names, pronouns, aesthetics, avatars) and it makes me feel so confused,,,,,

super long rant but thanks for listening,,, i think i’m gonna use the label, idk,,,,,,, these aren’t all of the reasons i think i’m plural but the most important ones i think.

Hell yeah!!!! 💜✨ Welcome 2 the club

Okay, I’m home, time to jump right in. So, we’re gonna do this in two parts like we did the first guide I did on this. Part one: What Is Otherkinity, What’s Related To It: A Crash Course To Terminology. This is gonna be so we’re clear from the getgo on things. Part two: A Few Methods That May or May Not Work To Figuring Shit Out. This is some of the ways I know - but your experience will be deeply personal and unique, so don’t worry if you don’t stick to any one method, and it’s not about following the method so much as it is finding the answers and being satisfied with what you know.

This guide, however, will not go over most community things, like history and culture. That requires [groaning noises] sourcing things, and I hate doing homework. That you can hunt down from folks who have been here much longer than me. It also isn’t a comprehensive guide on experiences, because trying to mention everything would quite possibly kill me and requires a lot more teamwork and surveys and interviews and chasing down books that are no longer in print. So yeah, don’t expect everything.

I could just link the first guide I made, but it’s good to make a new one a few years later. Under the readmore, but let’s go!