Corimus Counseling

‘All things in the world are put into two groups – they are ‘instantly understood’ or cannot be ‘instantly understood’.

If we approach those things which can be instantly understood, understanding goes on in the heart. We however need to repeatedly encounter things we cannot instantly understand, so that we can bit by bit comprehend, and allow learning transcend into new things.

And each time…

What have we learnt from COVID-19? On Dealing with Psychological Difficulties

When the lockdown announcement first came out in March (in the UK), I saw mixed responses. Many of us were indifferent to the situation – ‘We just got to get on with it right?’ Now what we slowly unpack is the building overwhelming negative thoughts and feelings. Indeed as the sense of stimulating novelty of ‘remaining at home’ fades, emotional negativity of being confined in a much smaller…

What do we learn so far from Covid-19? On Change

Now we are slowly leaving the peak of the Covid-19 pandemic. Now that we look back, we have been in the lockdown phase for 1.5 months. We are still at the middle of this war. This realization makes me believe more than ever, that when we face the biggest challenge, we have the greatest growth. We learn to accept so as to change ourselves to cope and get through this difficult stage. We continue…

In early April, it is clear that COVID-19 has made a full impact in the UK, in Europe and in the whole world. Many people finally sink in with this harsh reality and adapting into the ‘lockdown’ phase. As I have mentioned in the last post, we are still at the beginning stage of the pandemic. Now the world has confirmed that the novel COVID-19 is centered in central Europe and the UK. Yesterday it…

How are we doing with the Conoravirus pandemic?

The UK has finally entered some form of formal lockdown phase. The government is indicating that everyone should stay at home. Some experts have suggested that this pandemic will last at least for 6 months in the UK – and now we are just getting through the first month.

I hold mixed feelings towards the development of this situation. I have to lie if I am not affected by negativity of our current…

‘Listen with your heart. You will understand.’   – Pocahontas

In the last few years, more and more campaigns have encouraged people to talk about mental health. Why does it matter whether a person speaks up or not? A month ago I wrote a post, ‘why should I write?’. To me, writing is a form of talking, a healing process. This healing process allows me to recognize that I have become a silenced…

This is a post of healing, reconnection with inner-peace and hope. From a psychologist.

Hope is very hard to find. But it does not mean we can’t.

At the end of last year, I was ‘forced’ to resign from my previous job. At the time, my effortful contribution to work and their challenges were dismissed. I was being picked on about my inability to work effectively; some were false accusations or overdramatized statements. I was told I do not qualify as a psychologist. I was described…

Lantern Festival – on Union and connection

Today is the Lantern Festival in China.

The lanterns symbolizes people letting go of the past year and welcoming the new one.

This festival marks the end of the Chinese New Year celebrations.

People have traditionally marked the day by preparing a dessert – tangyuan.

They are glutinous rice balls with sweet fillings, mostly black sesame and peanut.

The rice balls are a symbol of union due to the…

Pondering thoughts on Coronavirus

Here in Manchester, England, I seem to live in two worlds. I am bombarded via the virtual platform by news and updates from family/friend about Coronavirus. Death trolls and infection number is rising rapidly each day. And then I am standing in the reality world: most of my British friends or colleagues pay little attention at the news. Many of them asked about virus only because they know I am a…

Happy Chinese New Year to everyone.

With diligent and hard working spirit of the rat, may you have a meaningful and upbeat year 2020.

The most important thing is of course we keep the good health, physically, psychologically and emotionally.

Prayers go to those affected by coronoavirus.

Why do I keep Writing? (A Note for the year 2020)

I experienced a career downfall last year. I took a step back from writing. This however gave me an opportunity to think about why I should or want to keep writing; I returned to a simple question to the self – ‘What do I want from it (writing)?’ I had to reconnect with my priorities and the simple aim which made me create this blog.

I have always been passionate about self-development. I…

I walk on a road.

I’m walking but I don’t know where I’m heading to.

If I stop I become confused and scared.

Where am I?

What if I’m heading to the wrong place?

Am I making a mistake?

So I rather not stop and just keep on going.

Maybe I keep walking as I don’t want to leave myself with any space to be able to be fearful or lost.

At some point in life we all might have been lost and don’t have the…

Finding time is always the biggest question to everyone.

Can we give ourselves time to rest?

Or the real question is,

do we allow to give ourselves time?

Often our first reaction is,

Surely there is nothing we can do to get time.

Life circumstances leave us no space.

Recently I have come to recognize I am the one who trap myself in this belief.

I was actually reminded by someone my urge to work…

Climate Change is an obligation not a personal interest.

My heart breaks knowing millions of animals have cluelessly lost and will lose their lives. What if it applies to a human being? Can we still sit and wait for a change to happen?   Climate change is an absolute obligation, not a personal interest. It is not a responsibility restricted to people whose careers are to help animals. I reflect on how much we psychologists have paid little attention on…

At times we need a ‘,’ in our lives – a resting island.

There we can afford to slow down and finally feel tired.

Search for comfort and warmth.

There is someone who will take on our sorrows.

Notice the different small yet blissful moments around us.

Life is that we can open our eyes each day and we are grateful for it.

Love is finding someone who treats our problems as his/her own.

It is not just…

2019 year,

I have stayed with you for 394 days.

We have gone through the many ups and downs together.

Thank you.

I have never been alone as you have been the most solid and trustful company.

I will never forget you, but

it is time we depart from each other.

I take away the best things from you, but

I also have to

put down bitterness, pain and negativity.

I will move on to welcome 2020 year.

#2019…