Small town police interview rooms are pretty dismal. File under “new experiences in Japan”.
A few weeks ago I mentioned that I’d been sexually assaulted by another ALT. It was a pretty messy situation - he assualted me, apologised profusely, then tried to rape me a month later. He was a friend of mine, someone I liked and spent a lot of time with. Someone I trusted.
I decided to make an official complaint, so I had to stop talking about it for a while - until the guy who assaulted me was interviewed by his BOE, and until I made a statement to the police. I decided not to pursue legal action, but I registered my details with the domestic violence and stalking department in case anything else happens.
In all the JET orientations - pre-departure, Tokyo, prefectural - there’s always talk about how to deal with sexual harassment from colleagues or students, but never about what to do if it’s another JET. When I chose to make this official, we found there were no policies and no processes in place - here in Saga or elsewhere in Japan - to assist us.
Japan isn’t famous for pro-woman attitudes, or for dealing well with sexual violence. I do feel like I’ve been very lucky in the amount of support I had - from my friends, my PAs, my supervisors, the people in my BOE, the people in the International Affairs Division. Everyone was willing to make so much time for this, to meet with me and each other, after hours and on weekends, to write numerous reports. They didn’t suggest I was at blame me for what happened (well… mostly). They made my safety and my mental health a priority. They believed me.
But the outcomes have been fairly toothless. The prefectural BOE backed out of their promise to me that there’d be a clear statement about consent and the unacceptability of sexual violence at an upcoming conference. The guy who assaulted me will most likely go unpunished. There was some talk about him not being allowed to recontract, but that is entirely at the discretion of his BOE.
The support I’ve had has been wonderful, and I will always be so grateful for that. The lack of decisive, unambiguous action confirming that what happened was morally and legally wrong, and unacceptable for a JET participant (or any public servant), will disappoint me for a long time.
So, should you be assaulted by another JET, what would I recommend?
Have evidence. My word was good, but being able to produce text and facebook messages supporting my claims were very helpful. I wish I’d taken photos of the bruises and bite-marks that were left on me, but whoops - I guess I’ll know for next time.
Be prepared to humiliate yourself. I told my supervisors everything, explicitly. I used no euphemisms, I softened nothing; I had already been violated, so what did a little more matter? I wasn’t sure how seriously I’d be taken if I wasn’t very clear on exactly what had happened. I also figured that if I have to live with what he did, I may as well share some of the trauma.
Call your embassy. I got some good basic legal advice, the name of a good lawyer, and an offer to call my BOE to make sure my case was being dealt with seriously enough.
Be less forgiving. If someone demonstrates that they don’t really respect “no” or “stop” or your stated boundaries once, they probably never will. No matter how genuinely sorry they seem.
Pray that you’re in a prefecture where people will believe you.