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Even if you can't understand it now, being around people a lot older than you who are constantly sexual, exposing you to extreme fetish content, advocating the idea that you can consent to sex with adults, covering up abuse and grooming, etc, is harming you.

I did not want to make an official coining post or anything, since I did not want this page to get any attention. But as MADIR is being spread, I do think I should clear some things up

First, thank you @rq-critical-coining-n-stuff @ex-radqueer-confessions @carnoguron and @youthparapride for sharing my term.

If you do not know, MADIR is an acronym for the attractions of the big 5 paraphilias, it stands for Minor, Animal, Dead, Incest, Rape. It is only to be used by those who are anti-contact and pro-therapy. It was made as an alternative term to "big 3/5", and "harmful paraphilias", and to distinguish paraphiles from predators.

I chose not to use recovery on purpose as that implies you can "recover" or get rid of your paraphilia, which from my knowledge is impossible. However getting therapy is possible, and is recommended for those who can access it*. Edit: You are allowed to say it is a pro-recovery label, that's just not how I, personally, view it.

I also chose anti-contact on purpose, as anti-contact, from what I am aware, is anti-harmful contact. There's a lot of discourse on if consang and pre-death consent is harmful or not, and I do not want to get into that drama, I am not a drama blog just a therapy blog, so you decide if it's harmful or not. I am not educated on this topic. I am making that very clear that this is something I do not know about.

Shelix** also brought it to my attention that non-MADIR paraphiles also want to use MADIR because of its anti-contact pro-therapy stance, so MADIR+ is also a term that's being used.

I had many reasons to coin this, most notably in my coining post it was because "big 3/5" was too much of a mouthful. But there were other reasons for this as well. I always hated the term "harmful paraphile", it implied that thoughts = action, and that despite not ever hurting anyone, I was inherently a threat to everyone. This led to a lot of mental pain, but that's besides the point. It was also to make a distinction between paraphiles and predators. Pedophiles for example CAN be predators, MADIR pedophiles can not.

So to be clear, pro-contact MADIRs do not exist, they are sexual predators. If you are pro-contact you are not MADIR, I cannot stop you from using the term, but you are not welcome.

While you are not allowed to interact with me (I am putting that away for this post, and this post ONLY), minors***, doubles, source mates, and radqueers**** ARE allowed to use my term.

*Acessing therapy: Not everybody can access therapy, do not shame those who can't. This term can absolutely be used by paraphiles who cannot access therapy, as I am one of them. This also goes for paraphiles who do not need therapy, you are allowed to use this. Therapy in this case does not mean conversion therapy, I do not support conversion therapy.

**Shelix: I do not care if you like hym or not, again this is not a drama blog. Also to be very clear, it did not break my DNI. I broke my DNI so I could correct hym on what MADIR is, since it's being used in the radnormal coining post.

***Minors: I do not support minors in kink, or minors in sexual spaces at all. But there are many minors who do have paraphilias and I am not going to tell them they cannot use a term that describes them. But if you are a paraphile minor, I do encourage you to be very safe about who knows.

****Radqueers: Again I do not care if you like them or not, again again this is not a drama blog!

(Proof of me coining the term)

Postscript: I do not talk about MADIR discourse on this blog, do not follow me for that. This is a therapy blog where I safely talk about my paraphilic thoughts. I will answer questions about MADIR, but I cannot answer questions about my own condition as I am not educated. Again, if you do not feel comfortable with seing an autopedophile talk about their thoughts, do not follow this blog.

Thank you so much! I promise that I won’t stop doing this any time soon, I love this space despite its flaws and find it important for deviants like me to find acceptance and safety.

As for hate, I’ve definitely faced it before, but surprisingly I seem to be going under the radar so far, so I don’t deal with it constantly. And besides, I have an amazing support system that’s here to reminds me that being a paraphile really isn’t a big deal :)

Purity culture ❌

Saneism ❌

Ableism ❌

Paramisia ❌

Harassment ❌

Validity ranking ❌

Sys/transmedicalism ❌

Exclusionism ❌

literally worse than dark fiction. This isn’t about fictional characters, it’s violent impulses directed at a real group of people with intent for those violent ideas to be eventually enacted on those people. Not the same. I’ve had to take down comments like this all day.

I have to explain the differences because people don’t seem to understand that drawings are another form of language and so what we’re saying with it is part of that real person’s aware actions. “I want to joke about characters being beat up” vs. “i want to draw my desire for actual hatred and harm to tangibly come to real, identifiable humans and/or a real, identifiable group of people” are two wildly different topics using drawings, the same way we literally use a sentence.

This shouldn’t be confusing for people and i’m aghast it apparently is.

That‘s why I wanted to create a real explanation and accessible learning material because I need people to stop.

Also if you want to support my projects, you can find information about it on @cartoonteluvision.

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