specific examples that happened to me:
i was preyed on by multiple kpop and anime fans to fulfill their asian fetish
kpop fan told me to my face all asians are either drop dead gorgeous or ugly
kpop fan told me multiple times on days i felt good and comfortable w presenting masculine "u look rlly feminine today"
kpop fan told me i could get tattoos all over my body and piercings all over my face and i would still look cute
i was told multiple times that it was rare for asian ppl to have lips like me or a chest like me (look like an adult???)
anime fan told me he could beat the shit out of me / could easily kill me and didn't understand why i was uncomfortable
anime fan would mansplain me constantly the entire time i knew him about literally everything (including my own culture)
anime fan constantly talked down on me like i was always doing something wrong and incapable of doing anything right
multiple ppl laughed at the idea of me thinking of myself as hot / handsome / cool instead of cute
i don't think u guys realize how demeaning this is and this has been a constant my entire life. even as an adult, ppl use words they use for children to describe me. ppl babytalk to me. this is why many asian ppl take offense to being called cute. it's infantilizing, dehumanizing, and emasculating.
ex of ppl doing this to full grown celebrities:
literally every single kpop idol and every single actor in the untamed
i'm begging u to be mindful. i am so sick of being viewed and treated this way, esp by ppl who apparently Love asian ppl.
watch how u treat asian ppl online and irl. we're people deserving of basic respect. we're people who are varied. we're people who have boundaries.
watch how u consume and interact w asian media and asian fictional characters. it fully affects how u view asian ppl as a whole.