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Oh trust me, I just dealt with this subject not too long ago. Girls can be so caddy and fake, but it’s because a lot of girls these days are all about their ego and aren’t in touch with their authentic selves and they don’t even know how to be their true self. I want to get into this a little bit, because I’ve been asked similar things to this a lot lately. Especially about “friends” who are mean girls. Honestly, finding friends has been one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to go through especially in Southern California where people can be very superficial and egotistical. When I first moved down here I was alone 24/7, and about a year ago I started to make friends with a group of girls, but honestly the more time I spent with them the more I realized how different we are. Some people just aren’t awake. They don’t understand ego or how not to be surfacy because they haven’t learned how conscious they can be yet. It’s important to be around people who bring out the best in you, and who constantly make you want to be better. The girls I was surrounded with only encouraged me to feed my ego, and didn’t encourage me to feed my soul. And enemies or “mean girls” in general do that. First, whenever anyone does me wrong, I draw the line right there. I used to give people a million chances, and I used to make excuses for people walking all over me. I’m not like that anymore, because I value myself and I realized that’s not fair to me. One of the most incredible lessons I’ve learned is “When people show you their true colors don’t paint a different picture of them.” It is so easy to make up excuses for why people treat others/us badly. But we shouldn’t! I’ve learned to sit back and watch people’s actions and the way they treat others, because that will tell more about them than anything they say. Maya Angelou said “When people show you who they are, believe them.” Someone can say, “I’m a nice girl, I’m loving, I’m kind.” but if the next second they’re making fun of a girl, or being rude to a waiter, or treating their parents with disrespect, then what does it matter what they say? They are showing their character by the way they are acting, by their actions. And if they can treat others like that, who’s to say they won’t treat you like that? Maya Angelou also talked about how deep inside our souls is a place that we must keep “clean and pristine” because “perhaps that is where we meet God”. She basically is saying to know your worth, and that you are a child of God,and to not let anyone mess with you. When someone is mean to me, I say “No, I won’t allow you to treat me this way.” And then I move on. When someone says something rude to me or says something about me that isn’t true, I simply say, “I won’t accept that.” Girls that I’ve had to let go in the past have said, “Oh, you handle things too harshly. You just cut people off.” or so forth. Nope. You know what’s harsh? Letting someone treat you with disrespect over and over again, letting people take advantage of you, allowing people to walk all over your soul and your good intentions and who you are. At the end of the day, I know I’m a good person. I treat others the way I would like to be treated. I go out of my way for others. I would never do something with a bad intention. I care. And the people who appreciate me and have that same respect towards me will be welcomed into my life, and those who don’t, will be cut off. You don’t have to argue, or be rude, or fight, or call names. You don’t need to talk shit. You simply cut them off from your energy, wish them well, and move on. I believe in being kind and loving but at the same time I know being authentic and soulful also means not allowing people to ruin all the hard work you’ve done to get to that place. Your soul is sacred, don’t give energy to anyone who doesn’t honor that! I’m now alone a lot but also spend my time with a few quality, soulful, loving people who I adore. Hold out for the good ones! xxx

Elle Woods moodboard for anon

Excerpted from Isa Does It by Isa Chandra Moskowitz. Copyright 2013 by Isa Moskowtiz. Click to learn more.