And for the people who say the internet is making their kids into âspecial snowflakesâ with less common identities:Â
No. Itâs giving them vocabulary. Itâs giving them a way to understand their own experiences by helping them see theyâre not alone. Itâs helping them to know theyâre not broken, or strange, or really all that different. Itâs showing them they have a community they can reach out to for help and guidance. Itâs giving them the words to describe their truth, but itâs not creating that truth. It was always there. But it was a big nebulous mass of confusion and bewilderment and pain before we had ways to connect with one another. It was one long line of âyouâre a late bloomerâ or âlots of people donât like wearing dresses, youâre not that special!â or âyou just havenât met the right person yet.â It was a painful series of attempts at conformity in the absence of any other options.Â
The internet isnât creating our realities. Itâs helping us live them with a modicum of peace and understanding and self-acceptance. Itâs not making us anything. Itâs helping us be who we are.Â





















