Hi, just wanted to let you know that Nirei doesn't address everyone as -san regardless of age. He addresses Sasaki, the middle schooler that got beat up during the Shishitoren arc, with the -kun honorific. So -san seems to be only reserved for characters his age and older.
Ahh my bad, it's been a while since I've reread the Shishitoren arc 😓 I'll go change it, thanks!!
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in my previous meta post, the strength of nirei akihiko, I mentioned that the current arc would be a good opportunity for sugishita to take a more active role in the story, since he and nirei now have an established rapport. well, it seems like that is indeed happening, so here I am, rushing to finish this post before the new chapter drops, because I have unmedicated ADHD and can't do anything in good time unless someone sets something on fire.
so, thank you for that, nii-sensei.
if I had to pick one word to describe sugishita, that word would probably be "misunderstood". because of the way he's introduced, the way he's written, and the perspective that the bulk of the story is told from, I think it's very easy to get the wrong idea about sugishita—and this is something that happens to him not just within the narrative, but also outside of it.
"fanatic". "mad dog". "aggressive". "cold". "hard-hearted". these are all words I've seen used to describe sugishita; by other people in the fandom, yes, but also in canon content. so, I wanted to try to clear up some of these misunderstandings. I want to talk about what makes sugishita tick, how he's developed (and is continuing to develop), and why he's one of my favourite characters in a series with an overall stellar cast.
this post contains spoilers up to chapter 218 of the manga.
prelude: the heart of the matter
it is impossible for me to write a post analysing sugishita's core and not talk about the fact that, intentionally or otherwise, he is very heavily autistic-coded.
there are a fair number of characters across the cast who could be interpreted as autistic based on various traits they display (and I do, in fact, headcanon several other characters as autistic), but I do also think the majority of these cases can be attributed to characters' trauma as opposed to inherent neurodiversity. I do not think this is the case with sugishita.
even having grown up with the love and support of his grandparents, sugishita struggles to understand his own emotions, express himself, and interact with others. add to that textural issues with clothing, chronic resting bitch face, and an extreme resistance to change, and it's very clear to me that sugishita is an autistic teenager who is still trying to navigate the world in a way that works for him, so I will, at least partially, be analysing him through an autistic lens.
a placid heart
I think one of the biggest misconceptions people have about sugishita—both inside canon and outside of it—is that he's aggressive by nature. wind breaker is a story that's told, for the most part, from sakura's perspective, and at the beginning of the story, sakura perceives sugishita as aggressive. this is an understandable first impression that helps form the basis for their entire relationship over the course of the story.
this also couldn't be further from the truth. sugishita doesn't like fighting. he never has. much like sakura, he never really wanted to fight in the first place, and this is both a parallel and a contrast between the two; though they were both forced into fighting at a young age, sakura found a form of refuge in it, while sugishita found it exhausting.
mostly, sugishita just wants to be left alone. he's a very passive presence, content to while away the hours napping in isolation if not for external interference. he's also someone much too small for his own body, and who would naturally fade into the background if not for the all ways in which he sticks out. he only really ever fights to protect what he values, which brings me to my next point:
a passionate heart
sugishita is not an uncaring person. he struggles to express himself and often comes across as rude or standoffish as a result, but to quote umemiya, he's really just an awkward little guy. this is my own interpretation of his character, but I think the main reason sugishita gets so angry about people disrespecting umemiya, or threatening the peace of the town, or ruining the bento his grandmother made for him, is that he cares.
he says himself that he has strong emotions. but I don't think he realises these emotions are sourced from a place of love: his love for the ones who take care of him, his affection for the town he was raised in, his admiration for the person who carved out a place in the world where he could exist peacefully, where he could just be.
I think that, to sugishita, an infringement on any of those things is as good as an infringement on his own being, and I think that knowing this also helps put into perspective the extreme response he had to sakura on the day they first met.
sugishita is not the type to take a measured approach, to step back and assess a situation before acting. instead, he acts primarily on impulse, driven by powerful emotions he doesn't understand and often can't even put a name to.
a heavy heart
I got bullied a lot as a kid.
I wouldn't get diagnosed until much later, but I'm pretty sure they could smell the autism on me—kids are perceptive like that, in ways adults often fail (and failed me, spectacularly). it would often be the case that someone would bother me, taunt me, harass me, anything to try to get a rise out of me, and as soon as I retaliated, they'd be the one to go crying to an adult about it. I'd be punished. the adults were rarely interested in hearing my side of the story.
as I mentioned earlier, sugishita struggles to understand his own emotions, and he struggles even more to express himself to others. there's a great post by @choberr that goes into detail about sugishita's likelihood of experiencing alexithymia, which you can read more about here (I feel it's worth noting that alexithymia has a much higher rate of occurrence in those with autism than in the general population—50% vs only 5%).
earlier in his childhood, this struggle to express himself led to misunderstandings, and those misunderstandings led to fights, which led to more misunderstandings, and so on. it seems to me as though, aside from the support he got from his grandparents, he was basically never afforded any grace or patience during this period of his life. no-one to take his side. no-one to hear him out.
so of course he would latch onto umemiya, who is seemingly the first person to have ever asked for his side of the story. of course he would find a sense of safety in that, even if that sense of safety would lead to his stagnation.
a stubborn heart
autism is a condition that craves stability; as such, sugishita is a character who is extremely resistant to change. this is something that even shows through his family name: sugi, a conifer, evergreen, unchanging even as the seasons pass. he is happy with the status quo, and wants things to always remain exactly as they are, to the point that he doesn't even consider that his upperclassmen are eventually, inevitably, going to graduate.
sugishita wants things to stay as they are. it's for this reason that sakura makes a poor first impression on him, and that this impression sticks. admitting you were wrong about someone is difficult for anyone, but it has to be particularly hard for sugishita, who already has trouble parsing his own emotions. logically, I think he realised pretty early on that he was wrong about sakura, but knowing something and accepting it are two very different things.
but this is also beneficial in its own way; right now, there are plenty of people around sakura who are willing to uplift him, but few who are willing to be brutally honest with him. sugishita doesn't mince words. he doesn't sugarcoat. he doesn't talk down to sakura. and I think sakura needs that too: someone who'll hold him accountable as an equal and not a supporter. a rival.
throughout most of the manga, sugishita has continued acting aggressively towards sakura, and I think that's at least partially because he still doesn't know what else he's supposed to do. anger is seemingly the default he reverts to when he's experiencing strong emotions (it's safe, it's consistent, it's a reliable fallback), and he's still building the toolset he needs to handle the conflicting emotions he feels towards sakura in particular.
I think he does care about sakura, in his own way (and nirei would seem to agree with me), but this caring chafes against the loathing he's still stubbornly clinging to.
in other words, he's still growing.
a change of heart
"forever" is an impossible dream.
I think the crux of sugishita's arc is accepting this—accepting that change is an inevitable part of capital-b Being. umemiya is probably aware of this, which is why he encourages sugishita to expand his horizons, little by little. it's glaringly obvious that amongst his peers, he's by far the slowest to adapt. but given enough time, even mountains move, and it also helps that he has a catalyst; someone to prompt him to action and promote change in him.
it was honestly a stroke of genius on suou's part to pair sugishita up with sakura during the noroshi war. I think he's one of few people able to see past their surface-level bickering and understand their deeper level of compatibility, and the ways in which they could influence each other for the better (and in sugishita's case specifically, come to the agonising realisation that maybe sakura doesn't suck as much as he initially thought).
I think that's also one of the reasons why suou later said he was glad that sugishita had been getting along with nirei; a unit works best when all its parts are well-integrated, and sugishita had always kept himself to the fringes, only ever getting involved with provocation from sakura or encouragement from suou. him forming a connection with nirei is a major milestone in his personal growth, evidence that slowly, quietly, his world is expanding.
this growth bleeds over into the next major arc, where we see sugishita, if rather indirectly, approaching sakura for help. we haven't yet found out why exactly sugishita chose to do this, because he's still struggling to be open with others at this point in his development, and being open with sakura is probably an entirely different level of challenging because he's still dealing with the fact that he thinks sakura is Kind Of Cool, Actually. so when sakura probes him for an answer, he defaults to lashing out in order to avoid answering.
but personally, I believe the reason sugishita approached sakura is because he was able to acknowledge, if reluctantly, that reaching out to momijikawa is something he wasn't personally capable of. sugishita doesn't have the charisma, struggles with his words, can't communicate like others can. but he knows from seeing it happen before that sakura is capable of bridging that gap.
as for why he shared what he knew about momijikawa with the others, I think the reason was twofold: one, he wanted to give sakura the best shot at connecting with him. two, he wanted to clear up any potential misunderstandings. earlier, it was shown very clearly that he was overhearing his classmates griping about momijikawa's behaviour, and I think at the time, he was worried that it might end up in a situation like he himself experienced when he was younger.
in order to avoid that, he'd have to actually explain what momijikawa's deal was—and I remember around the time of the chapters in question seeing posts about it not really being sugishita's place to divulge that information, and I agree, and things could have gone much worse when considering that.
but I also think his heart was in the right place. he was coming from a place of not wanting momijikawa to be misunderstood like he himself had been in the past. sugishita himself said they were never really close, but I think him going out on a limb like this for momijikawa's benefit shows he cares a lot more than he ever actually admits to.
I think, if momijikawa had come back earlier in the school year, sugishita probably wouldn't have made the same choices. in fact, I doubt he would have done anything at all, and the situation likely would have turned out worse for it. it's only because he's been slowly, steadily changing that he was able to reach out in the way he did; the execution was imperfect and inelegant, but an undeniably sugishita way of going about it.
which brings us to the current arc. I don't think it's any coincidence that sugishita is asking to visit sakura alongside the two other people in his year he's been able to connect with. this is, I think, going to be another major milestone in his character development, and I'm really curious to see what tomorrow's chapter brings.
I've seen some speculate this is going to be another case of "tough love", like when he talked to sakura in chapter 146/7, but the more I think about it, the more I think that probably isn't the case. it's definitely possible, and I do think that it would be really fun and interesting if he completely biffed whatever interaction he has with sakura and just makes the situation worse. but I think it's unlikely for one very simple reason: his hair.
sugishita has always preferred keeping his hair long, and it's been stated in his profile that he hates tying it back or getting it cut. for a long time, I thought this was just another autistic trait of his, but I've come to realise it's more than that. his hair is a shield. it's a way of keeping himself closed off from others. and what does his hair look like in chapter 218?
tucked behind his ears. face exposed.
I think this is a sign that sugishita has grown to a point where he's now more comfortable interacting with others, and has also become more emotionally open. I think he's at a point where he's ready to be open with sakura in particular, and maybe—just maybe—finally clear up the misunderstanding that's been hanging between them from the get-go.
right now, sakura doesn't need someone to hold him accountable; he needs as many people as possible on his side. and I think sugishita has been thinking very hard about that fact. and while nirei has told sakura (on more than one occasion now) that sugishita has changed, it's one thing to hear that secondhand, and quite another to experience it directly.
that said, it'll also be very useful to have both nirei and momijikawa to hand, because they both already have a strong, positive relationship with sakura. even if sugishita wants to clear things up with him, there's a good chance he'll still struggle to express himself, despite his progress. I don't doubt he'll need help smoothing things over.
and those two are probably the best supports he's going to get.
The way Nirei keeps adding "-san" to everyone his age or older saddens me ngl. From what I found, usually in a regular school setting you use "-san" to refer to your classmates at the start of the school year where pretty much no one knows no one. Once more time has passed you usually drop the honorfics entirely or replace "-san" with "-kun" for people who you got to know better. For some the "-san" never drops, especially if the person you're talking to is of opposite gender you're not really close with, but seeing how Furin is both all-boys and a delinquent school I'm inclined to believe that it got dropped pretty quickly (I honestly doubt it existed at all but yk)
Then there's Nirei. Nirei uses it with EVERYONE TO THIS DAY even with his own classmates whom he's equals with in an academic sense and while being older than some of them. Now I'm no Japanese linguistics expert but this paired with Nirei's regular polite way of speaking creates this feeling of distance to me, as some other usages of "-san" is to be respectful with strangers and people that are superior to you. It's almost like he's subtly saying "You and I are not equal" to the friends that are stronger and better than him even if he's very close with them
It's not in any of my bingos, but I've said it before, Sakura's imagery is the tightrope and strings, Choji's was the glass, I think Suo's is going to be a birdcage (I hope it is, because it would fit great)
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@choberr here's the wholeass post about the logistics of sunisa in world trigger but since it got hella long i'm putting it under the cut
sakura defo is above average overall, methinks. his combat capabilities are not yet on par with a paralegal military soldier's skills yet (those he'll need to learn as he gets used to triggers and team fighting) but he has really, really good control over his body + he's developed a flexible mindset that allows him to adapt to the conditions of a fight (bc he never knows when he'll get jumped) and those definitely do come in handy when he's training to become a border agent. in terms of trion, i'm gonna go on a limb and say he's pretty high, maybe a solid 6-7 on the trion scale. whether or not he's a 6 or a 7 depends on whether or not i want to make his appearance a result of a Side Effect in this AU. on one hand, it'd fit the themes of "the things that make you unique don't make you strange" that wind breaker likes to perpetrate using sakura and the general acceptance of makochi's citizens, but on the other hand, it feels almost hand-wavy, just making sakura's appearance be a result of a side effect. besides, what the hell would that side effect even be that it'd affect his hair and eye color???? oh, and in terms of roles he's an attacker. no doubt. scorpion main to be exact, maybe also gets some asteroids to bail him out in a pickle?
now that i've got the boring logistics out of the way, onto the juicy stuff: what the hell gets him to enlist into border? answer's simple: it's so he feels like he's worth something.
sakura's already established himself to be a person that sees his own self-value as equivalent to his combat ability, so i wouldn't be surprised that he joined the place that allows him to both use that combat ability and be seen as a net positive for society in general. he's signing up the moment he finds out about them. he may have convinced himself he doesn't need anybody, but i feel that he still wants to be accepted somehow. that's why he came to furin after all, yeah? he wanted to take the top so he'd have a place that proved his worth, even if that worth meant carving out a place for himself using fear. unfortunately, border– just like furin– is a moshposh of unique personalities, and with the existence of side effects here, i'm sure that they wouldn't even bat an eye at his unique colorations. "oh, it wasn't a side effect? well it can't be weirder than the side effects we've already got. who cares about whether or not you don't look 'normal'? i don't think anything can get less normal than the things we fight daily" <- general consensus at border about sakura's appearance, probably. besides, since most of the wind breaker character's are gonna be here too (i assume), i'm also sure they're gonna be accepting of his appearance regardless of whether or not it's a side effect. unfortunately, this acceptance has the additional consequence of Confusing The Fuck Outta Sakura.
it might also be a little bit harder for him to actually open up because there's a level of transaction between border and him: sakura fights for them, and in exchange, he gains a place to sleep, eat, and (according to him) begrudging acceptance from the people around him. i doubt he's willing to open up as easily here, because he has the excuse of "they're just my coworkers" to fall back on, but i'm sure that, like in canon wind breaker, nirei and kotoha and ume are there and waiting with sledgehammers to smash through his walls (+ forced proximity with at least 2 other people when he's inevitably shoved onto a squad in order to rank up means he's GONNA get sunisa'd anyway).
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suo suo suo. suo fucking hayato, what the hell do i do with you. okay obviously he's gonna have high trion levels, perhaps a 7-8. i don't think he'd have a side effect, but he's definitely going to have some high baseline combat abilities due to past training and the like, but i also believe he's gonna be more of a gunner/shooter in this scenario (because we've established he has a good noggin and he might as well use it because getting in close and personal is not exactly the best kind of way to fight against extraterrestrial creatures with weapons beyond our current technology). he's also smart enough to use viper, methinks, though calculating their trajectory during live battle and composite bullets might be too far of a reach for his skillset for the time being. maybe him being a little bit adept in the kogetsu would be cool too! ugh, nvm i'm making him an all-rounder because he deserves it.
i believe his eyepatch, in this universe, is a result of the neighbor's invasion that happened a while ago, and him getting caught in the crossfire is what causes damage to his eye. that incident probably also scarred him by taking away people that he cared about, so the whole "need to be an adult" thing suo has going on can be translated into survivors guilt for not being able to protect the people he loves and is defffffffinitely going to leave him with some really bad ptsd as he continues to grow up and continues to affiliate himself with border. he is definitely orphaned because of the incident and is taken in by border, like hana was in the canon wt series
here i'm assuming he's already a part of red chanpuru (no. 1, 2, 3, whatever) as a trio w/ rakta & bacchus in either mid or high tier B-class, but because of some complications (what are the complications? idfk), he gets put with sunisa when he's drifting around trying to figure out what to do since his original squad is off limits for the time being. i can also see the red chanpuru being a part of the bkk-gai branch of border hq (kind of like suzunari and tamakoma) who are specifically on the kido faction. suo himself doesn't really care for it, so whether he's on the kido faction or the shinoda faction honestly depends on whichever squad he decides to stick with. there's probably also going to be some level of drama considering suo's previous allegiances but it'll get sorted out pretty quick considering they can't have MORE infighting between border: the faction conflicts are already enough.
since suo's an orphan here i wouldn't be surprised if he's one of the older kids that cares for the younger ones in the border-run orphanage, kind of like rokuta in wt. it'd mimic his role as an older brother/kyoudai figure within the dojo, except significantly less child exploitative here because border does actually care for their younger combatants and red chanpuru in the wind breaker canon does not T^T i'm so fucking glad red chanpuru aren't given as much authority in this world given that they're more of the token bkk-gai branch squad instead. thankfully.
with the whole tutoring nirei thing, i think it's more about teaching him how to be more autonomous during rank wars? since they're mostly two or three way squad battles, nirei learns from suo (who's been a B-ranker for significantly longer) how to be useful during team matches and the like. for this to be a thing, though, that kind of means suo's been sticking around sakunirei since their c-rank days, which is probably how sunisa becomes a squad anyway, so it works i guess.
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nirei is easy. nirei is average. he's got average trion levels, like a 5-6 probably, except he's got zero fighting background and is kind of flailing about which role he'd be best suited for and how it clashes with the roles he actually wants to be in. i'm leaning towards him being an attacker with a scorpion just in case for now, but i can also see him becoming a shooter if decides to be one (and it helps out with the whole suo being his teacher thing). i'm also assuming that when he gets trained, he'd get training on both controlling his trion body more and how to effectively utilize his triggers in a fight, though that stuff i think comes par for the course as he continues his time as a c-rank trainee.
his strong memory stays a thing in this universe though: definitely comes in handy when creating preset strategies or helping remember about previous matchups and strategies that have or have not worked with squads that they're pitted up against during the rank wars. he basically never needs the tablet because he just remembers everyone's names and faces and it kind of freaks sakura out but it's okay LMAO debriefing before a match is easy with nirei around lol.
he'd definitely join border because he wants to be a hero of justice just like in canon, except also like in canon, he ends up being stuck in c-rank for a while until he manages to learn the chops and properly upgrades into b-rank when he finds sakura and suo and starts to be more confident in the training route he's taken + him finally becoming determined (and shameless enough) to ask higher ranking agents a bajillion questions to help himself improve. i see him being a little bit more hesitant to interrogate people like in the beginning of the wbk canon, but just like wbk nirei, wt nirei eventually gains enough self-confidence to just start hunting people down for info LOL. nirei still has his notebooks, yep, those are his soulmates and they will never leave him in any universe.
him being the emotional glue of sunisa is also not gonna change, because there's no world i can see where he stops being the token Relatively Well-Adjusted one out of the three, and i don't see suo "survivor guilt 5000" hayato and sakura "my worth is in fighting and without it i'm worthless" haruka being the mentally adjusted ones anytime soon.
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okay general factoids GO:
like i said in the ask, they're definitely gonna be shinoda faction unless something happens to convince them to jump ship. the shinoda faction and tamakoma factions are mostly on neutral terms anyway so i don't think any of them would have hangups about it save for maybe suo because. y'know.
their general formation is currently shaping up to be two attackers with a shooter backing them up, or two shooters backing up one attacker. i can't really see any of them being a sniper? but if anyone's gonna be a sniper it's gonna be suo.
sakura's coming to border from outside of mikado like he joined furin as a person that came from outside of makochi. obviously.
umemiya and bofurin in general are probably just going to be split between hq or being branch members.
for the four kings: i can see ume, hiiragi, tsubaki, and momose being combatants while mizuki is the operator (because he was the one that spearheaded that whole military ass meeting), but if you have a different opinion, i'm alllllll for it.
OH!!!!! speaking of operators, kotoha's definitely gonna be sunisa's operator. ume's gonna be like "i'm entrusting her to you guys! play nice, okay?" when introducing them lol
OCD symptom i struggle with but don't see talked about a lot: inability to trust your own memory and/or perception.
as an example: i put my headphones in my bag. i say im sure they're in my bag, but what if i imagined putting them in my bag? i have to check, so i stick my hand inside and grab them. but then i have to check *again* because what if i just so happened to have another object shaped and sized exactly like my headphones that i just forgot about? so i have to pull them out of my bag and look directly at them to fully confirm they were in my bag
this is a fairly benign example but this also happens with other worse scenarios for me and it's. not fun
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paranoia triggers r so funny like "oooh a scary thing happened, time to put ur brain in the worst mode imaginable so you can respond to this threat as irrationally as possible"
The most interesting question you can ask about any character is not what do they want. it's what do they believe they deserve. because those two things are almost never the same and the gap between them is where your entire story lives. a person can want love completely and believe they don't deserve it and that belief will destroy every good thing that comes toward them in ways they won't even notice they're doing. write the gap. the gap is the character.
If you're writing anything involving cons, scams, heists, or morally questionable characters who are very good at lying, here are some free resources I've been using for research. Saving you the "why is this in my search history" anxiety.
1. The FBI's Famous Cases & Criminals archive (fbi.gov/history/famous-cases) has detailed breakdowns of real fraud cases, Ponzi schemes, and confidence operations. The language they use is clinical and precise, which is perfect for getting the procedural details right.
2. The FTC Consumer Sentinel Network publishes annual reports on the most common fraud tactics in the US. Great for understanding how modern scams actually work and what makes people fall for them.
3. The Smithsonian's American Art Museum has a free digital collection of forgery case studies. If your character forges documents or art, this is gold.
4. Court Listener (courtlistener.com) is a free legal database where you can read actual court transcripts from fraud trials. Want to know how a real con artist talks under oath? This is where you find out.
5. The Internet Archive's collection of old newspaper crime sections. Search for "confidence man" or "swindle" in papers from the 1920s through 1960s and you'll find incredible real stories that would feel too dramatic for fiction.
Bonus: The Psychology of Fraud section on the Association for Psychological Science website has accessible articles about why people trust, how deception works cognitively, and what makes someone a convincing liar. Essential reading if you want your con artist characters to feel psychologically real.
Reblog to save for later. Your WIP will thank you.
"I want to to be helpful to him, even just a little bit!" <- and why are you so surprised, hm suo? does he remind you of something? does he remind you of someone? does he remind you of the oh-so-naive children who want to help you and the red chanpuru? does he remind you of a time where someone tried to be there for you, but you didn't allow them to? did you never realize they wanted to help you?
god, the sakura sick chapters gave us so much foreshadowing and it's all paying off big time.
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Okay, you guys remember this convo from the Sick Sakura mini arc
And I know I've brought this up before, my main thought was "And you, do you know how to use a phone Suo?”
And mixing this with the fact Suo never lets anyone see his phone or the way he always seems to respond to everyone but never initiates conversations himself, why I got was:
Suo does know how to use a phone but only from the receiver side, he's the one getting the call and he knows how to answer when someone uses the phone, but he probably doesn't know how to use the phone to make the call himself...
In other words, Suo is always willing to help everyone, he does his best to help, but he does not know how to ask for help, let alone let himself be helped.
When Nirei actually confronted him, when he told him to quit smiling, he took away one of Suo's masks, he overstepped that imaginary boundary Suo has, where his words are never questioned, suddenly Nirei is asking for reasons, reasons that Suo can't talk about without exposing himself, without becoming vulnerable...
For people who were parentified or had to assume too much responsibility too young, the sole act of showing the slight vulnerability feels like the world is going to crumble and you'll fall apart.
There's a fear of being told that you can handle it so it doesn't matter.
A fear of coming undone.
A fear of being told you're faking now because you always look so well put together...
Once again, Sakura is scared of vulnerability because he's been hurt before, cast aside, so once he started seeing that nobody was going to hurt him, to cast him aside, he started trusting people more
On the other side, the more people opened themselves up, Suo kept closing himself, a very delicate balance he kept to be able to help others open up without having to let himself be vulnerable.
At Bankoku-Gai, I feel nobody questions him because he is a figure of stability and protection, nobody ever questions his vulnerability, nobody expects him to open up...
Suo has essentially isolated himself from the world in a very particular way, unable to break away from his figure of officer or helpful friend, and that's such a lonely and tiring experience...
Also, "that also applies to friendship, I think" told me that Suo has never had friends before, or people he considered friends before, of course he doesn't know how to use that. Suo has the kids at the dojo that he's responsible for, the ones who come from outside that he feeds and pays attention to, his kyodai that he respects but he's still their superior and likely no one else, because I still think his master is dead.
All Suo has is people he has to care for or pretend for...
Which makes this panel much more compelling, because Suo clearly holds a lot of empathy and understanding for people, but doesn't include himself there. Only further proving that he definitely thinks he's not allowed vulnerability, of course he has fears, maybe more and bigger than the others, but he can't share them.
So, clearly, when Nirei said this, he probably felt fear at the possibility of any vulnerability being exposed.
He makes me ill, my son who has too much on his shoulders and won't let himself be vulnerable at all, won't let himself ask for help