A guy whom I’ve been dating for a few months recently came over (for the first time); for various reasons we usually go to his place. Anyway, he proceeded to check out my place and my fridge. No joke full inspection- he opened up drawers and pulled condiments from the back shelf before confirming, “you’re really healthy”.
I was taken aback (albeit annoyed- boundaries!). Never heard of nor had anyone pull something like that. Shared this story with friends- some admitted to doing the same thing! Although they caveated only stealthily when the person was in the bathroom or not around.
Got me thinking is this a common dating practice and I’m the last to know?! I went online and saw your site and had to laugh. Sending through the pic of my fridge, feel free to fire away your best, and most honest, “analysis”;).
Worth noting I have a separate wine fridge that’s over stocked and have some wine leftover waiting to chill. Likely makes me look like an alcoholic? Dunno, you tell me...
If you’ve been dating for months and it’s the first time he’s been to your pad, something’s rotten in Denmark. We all dig the ‘Home Bed Advantage’, but if it took this long before he wanted to see where & how you live, it’s a red flag (and safe to assume he talks more about himself than asks about you).
Now, the fact that he gave your fridge a colonoscopy does show interest. I can’t say it’s a common dating practice, but we’re all dating detectives. I find that nothing says more about who we are than what we eat and drink, and most of our dating revolves around eating and drinking. Throw in the fact that every brand we buy has a story to tell, target demo and media plan, and it’s fascinating how much the brands we buy (and our fridge) reveal about us.
Lets see what your fridge reveals about you…
First off, I agree with your dude: you’re healthy, a major turn-on. You buy organic brands like Natural Directions and Pacific Foods, which show that you not only care about yourself, but also the environment. Opposites can attract, but odds are you’re not a fit with a Trump supporter or Flounder from Animal House (RIP).
If you can’t take care of yourself when you’re single, you’ll look a shitload worse when you’re married. And it’s not about size, it’s about health. Fat-shamers are bullies, but the ‘obese is beautiful’ crowd is equally retardo. There’s nothing beautiful about heart disease, stroke, diabetes and dying young.
Your fridge reveals you’re probably in shape and I’d assume your dude is the same. That’s a good thing, whether you want to hike together on weekends, or conquer Cinque Terre on vacation.
You stock more fruits and veggies than a bodega, and enough roughage to keep you in Regular Town. (Constipated peeps are miserable to be around)
Personally, I would never date a vegan or someone who’s sober. I have dear friends who are, it’s just not a romantic fit for me. Spying your Tabasco, I’d bet you’re a meat-eater. (Plus, Tabasco speeds up metabolism, and often equals spicy in the bedroom :)
Your fridge model tells me you have a career, as you’re either a homeowner or an upscale renter. (Money can’t buy happiness, but neither can a guy living out of his car) This is backed up your visits to Whole Foods and premium brands like San Pellegrino, Rao's and Kettle One.
You do have a couple generics, but 365 is solid and life is a balance: save where you can, splurge where you should. La Croix is cat-nip for ladies, and you have a healthy stash.
When it comes to lay-out, I see a balance here, too: your fridge is clean and organized, but not anal. (Though your Brita looks like Nemo’s fish tank: buy a new filter and clean out that schmutz)
Lastly, your wine fridge (and stash) is a plus, as you’re fun, social and a great host. If all that wine were for you, you'd be so plastered, your fridge would be a disaster.
Overall, I dig what I see here. I am though am concerned about your relationship. If he’s fun and deserves you, that’s great. But always remember: it’s better to be single than to settle for a douche.
Bang on first date: 8
You don’t maintain a bangin’ bod for just health and with a busy career, you don't have much time to play games. With your beer, wine and vodka, you have the perfect ammo needed to close. That said, I’d bet you have some guy friends who advise you to wait til date 2.
Marry: 8
You’re in shape, fun, active, social, have a career, yet party within reason. We have a major prospect on our hands here ☺.
Boil your Bunny: 2
You have enough wine to go on a bender, which can lead to staking, but I see no other red flags to back that up.