My blog is mostly harsh to read, so here’s every reassuring post I made:
When you feel it “wasn’t that bad”
How loving parents act towards their kids
You’ve done enough to try and understand your parents
Abuse towards you cannot be justified
Abuse and trauma have no benefits
When you feel you weren’t abused enough
There was nothing you could have done differently to avoid abuse
It’s not your fault you feel like you don’t belong
Talking about abuse isn’t whining
Craving abuse is not your fault
Self-harming is not your fault
Intrusive thoughts are not your fault
Nobody in your situation would be able to get it together
Needing attention, comfort and validation is normal and human
You’re allowed to feel your feelings
You cannot provoke abuse, and you did not ask for it
Abuser’s point of view is not valid
Abusive parents can’t tell you who you are
Responsibility for abuse lies on abuser, not on you
Your pain is not a burden on others
When you struggle to call yourself a survivor
You do not deserve abuse even if you feel addicted to it
Your abuser didn’t have to hurt you
Nobody made them abuse you
Your future won’t be lost even if you can’t move forward right now
You are alive because of yourself
There are good things in you even if you don’t see it
Your problem isn’t that you’re not good enough
You can make up for everything abuse damaged in you
Relapses are not your fault and can be time-related
Craving abuse can mean you’re only craving comfort
Survivors of abuse will strive to create an environment of compassion
