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As tensions rise again along the India-Pakistan border, it's not politicians or soldiers who pay the heaviest price—it’s ordinary families, children, and the elderly who lose their homes, their safety, and their lives.

This is not a Hindu-Muslim issue. This is not about nationalism or revenge. This is about humanity—about mothers burying their children, about fathers searching for food amidst the rubble, about children growing up traumatized by the sound of gunfire.

To all governments and media outlets, stop using our pain for your power. Peace is not weakness. Truth is not anti-national. Empathy is not treason.

We demand:

An immediate ceasefire and protection of civilians on both sides.

Media to stop spreading hatred and false narratives.

Justice for every life lost—not just in headlines, but in reality.

Prayers for every innocent soul in Kashmir, across LoC, and beyond.

📍Gachibowli, Hyderabad

29 April 2025

“Which life is better than the life of a person whose worries have all united and become one concern directed towards attaining the pleasure of Allaah, gathered the scattered feelings of his heart through the devotion to Allaah, whose intentions and thoughts were once divided- each scattered in a different valley- are now focused on Allaah.

So the remembrance of the Most Beloved, the love to Him and the longing to meet Him and the comfort in being near to him becomes overwhelming for him. His concern, intentions and objectives and the feelings of his heart revolve around all this.”

● By forcing them to treat urges and any matter related to sex as taboo, they may end up being disgusted by it and forced to treat it with disdain. A woman may hate that she feels it, but it won't go away. One of two things might happen: either she falls into the wrong hands and learns that you were wrong to teach her that it was taboo to feel the way she does, and thus explores it further out of curiosity until she becomes the very thing you feared; or she really ends up having an aversion towards sex. This has ruined the sex life of many women in marriage because they can't be expressive and adventurous about sex. All their life, sex is associated with the unclean, and they are made to feel filthy for merely feeling an urge. It feels awkward to initiate sexual interest or voice out about sexual dissatisfaction. There have been cases of women who would have been helped if they spoke up early enough about sexual problems like vaginismus. But the cultural priming that a woman should endure any and everything in marriage made some women bear it all, till sex becomes an excruciating ordeal, but their pain is muffled under the cultural expectation of a perfect wife who doesn't complain.

● By forcing them to see their body as nothing beyond a tool for temptation, they grew up with low self-esteem and poor confidence in themselves, as though it was a curse to be a woman. Modesty is primarily for your own benefit, to maintain dignity and eliminate the chance of objectification. You must first be comfortable with your creation. You were created by Allāh in the best form and proportion. If women followed the Islamic dictates of hijab to the latter, this mad crave for external validation we see in women would be curbed, and more women would find more value to sell than their sexual appeal. There is nothing wrong with your body that warrants its covering; we just need the world to be able to view you beyond your sexual appeal. You are beautiful and perfect; you don't need anyone to tell you that to believe it. And at the right time, with the right person (in marriage), you can be as hot as you want and flaunt that body to turn someone's head! You are just not meant to be public property.

● One of the things that push some women into seeking public validation is culture-fuelled inferiority—an attempt to make irrelevant the opinions and desires of women. We manifest that even on social media, where we allow men to have outrageous and ridiculous tastes in women without raising an eyebrow but make it seem a woman is automatically excessive once her standard is beyond ours. Sometimes, this grooming to suppress a woman's wishes starts from a young age. It's one thing to tell a person that they may have to adjust their desires in line with reality, but it's another to make anybody feel bad for even having a desire. The fact that you will serve the wishes of your husband doesn't mean you wouldn't have wishes and desires of your own. It doesn't mean the sexual needs of the marriage will be defined solely by what your husband wants. It's sometimes the consequences of cultural suppression of a woman's voice that leaves some women vulnerable to the corruption of secularism, which does the exact opposite—pushes women to pursue their desires even if at the displeasure of their Lord.

In essence, teach your daughters when they come of age that urges are normal and it's fine to feel them. It's a healthy biological process in most women that starts around puberty. It's just your body telling you it's now prepped up for one of the most intriguing aspects of human existence—reproduction—hence the need for more caution. I wish I could repeat this a million times: YOU ARE FINE. It's nothing to be ashamed of or feel dirty about. You are not promiscuous simply because your urges may get really tough. Don't hate yourself for it or feel disgusted by it. Many women feel it too, and it's part of what makes you human. The line between chastity and immorality is determined by what you let your urges and desires push you to do. The first lesson for a believer is learning to be in control of his/her desires rather than be a slave to it. When you get married someday, you will be free to explore those needs to whatever lengths you wish. The struggle is reaching there chastely! May Allah make the journey easy for you.

He governs the affairs of the various kingdoms and He commands and forbids, creates, sustains, gives death, gives life, gives power, strips power (to and from whom He wills) and alternates the night and day.

He gives varying fortunes to people and alternates governments (and states), destroying some and bringing some into existence.

His Command and Power are dominant in the heavens and their zones, the earth and all that which is on and in it, in the seas and in the air.

His Knowledge has encompassed everything and He counted everything. He hears all types of voices and they do not confuse Him. Rather, He hears each voice in its distinct language and need, and no voice will make Him busy from fulfilling the need of another, and no need will ever escape His Perfect Knowledge (and His Power to deliver).

He does not become bored because of the many needs of those who need. His Sight encompasses all that which there is. He sees the movement of a black ant on a barren rock during a dark night.

To Him, the Unseen is uncovered end the secret is secret no more,

“Whosoever is in the heavens and on Earth begs of Him (its needs from Him). Every day He has a matter to bring Forth (such as giving honour to some, disgrace to some, life to (some, death to some, etc.).” [Sūrah ar-Raḥmān, Verse 29]

He forgives an evil deed, makes depression vanish and brings reprieve from disasters, relief for whoever needs it, wealth for the poor, guidance for the misguided, light for the lost, help for he who is desperate, fullness for the hungry, cover for the barely clothed, cure for the ill and ease for he who suffers.

He accepts he who repents, gives reward for he who does good, gives aid for he who was dealt with injustice, destroys an arrogant person, covers mistakes, gives safety after fear end elevates some people and humiliates others.

If those who inhabit His heavens and His earth and all those whom He created, whether mankind or the Jinns, had hearts similar to the most pious heart, His Kingdom will not increase. If all His creation, whether mankind or the Jinns, had hearts similar to the heart of the most wicked heart, this will not decrease from His Kingdom. Also, if all those who inhabit His heavens and His earth, all mankind and all the Jinns, the dead and the living, stand up on one strip of land and each asks Him for his need, and He then fulfils their needs, this will not decrease from what He has a bit.

He is the First, nothing is before Him, the Last, nothing is after Him, the Most High, nothing is above Him, and the Most Near, nothing is nearer than Him. He, Exalted and Ever High as He is, is the Best Whom one can and should remember, the only One Who deserves to be worshiped and thanked, the Kindest of all those who own and the Most generous of all those who are asked to give.

He is the King Who has no partner, the One Who has no competitor, the Samad (Self-Sufficient) Who has no offspring, and the Ever High, none like unto Him. Everything perishes save His Face and every kingship is bound to perish except His.

He will only be obeyed by His Leave, and His Knowledge uncovers all disobedience to Him. When He is obeyed, He thanks for it, and when He is disobeyed, He grants forgiveness (for those who truly repent to Him). Every punishment from Him is just and every bounty is a grace. He is the Closest Witness and the Nearest One with His Perfect Care. He controls the forelocks of everything and has the full records of all deeds end the books of all ages. The hearts are unmasked to Him and the secret is unveiled. His giving and punishing is merely a Command, “Verily, His Command, when He intends a thing, is only that He says to it, ‘Be, and it is!’” [Sūrah Yāʾ Sīn, Verse 82].