the day is gonna end anyway and your warm bed will be waiting so you might as well do the hard things and not let them ruin your day

this is unironically how I push myself to do everything I dread

IT’S SPRINGTIME YOU KNOW WHAT THAT MEANS. PASS THE INSTRUCTIONS ON NOT GIVING UP BY ADA LIMÓN

it’s nothing a fundamentally different life couldn’t fix

every so often the discourse comes around again that basically boils down to “is it feminist for a woman to want men to be attracted to her” and it’s like. no, it’s not. it’s also not anti feminist. it’s not relevant. it’s nothing. a woman wanting to have sex with men has nothing to do with feminism. being a lesbian or celibate is not “more feminist” than being a straight woman. the point was always “women should not have to dress in a way that is attractive to men solely in order to be acknowledged by them at all” not “women should never dress in a way that is attractive to men for any reason.” sometimes a woman wants men to want to have sex with her. that’s not anti feminist. that’s average. it’s also not feminist just because it’s her choice to do it. it is not related. feminism is about women’s human rights. that doesn’t mean it’s a feminist act every time a woman makes a choice.

i don’t think people understand how much of life is grief. not just people dying, but losing the version of yourself you thought you’d become. grieving the city you had to leave. the friends you lost not in argument, but in silence. the summer that will never come back. the feeling that maybe you peaked at 12 when you were reading books under the covers and believing in forever

arrival (2016) is such a good movie because it turns the typical alien invasion story on its head. at the beginning, ian quotes louise, saying, "words are always the first weapon drawn in war" and it reinforces the idea that this is a war story, an invasion. and then the aliens insist that they are giving the humans a weapon. only, it's not a weapon. it's a gift. and we think that louise's daughter is already dead. she's not. they gave her the gift of knowing her future. and we don't see hannah die, because it's already happened even before she is born. and louise knows. she knows how it ends. and still, "despite knowing the journey and where it leads, i embrace it. and i welcome every moment of it."

i love the world so much. why do i often forget this

I’m starting to think some of y’all haven’t actually felt the rain on your skin… which is crazy because no one else can feel it for you