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Period. End of discussion.

What the Research Actually Says

They did a whole study. 595 young men. And what did they find?

The men who hate women the most? The ones with the most hostile, derogatory views? Those are the ones cheering the loudest for the tradwife movement.

Not the chivalrous men. Not the protectors. Not the providers who actually want to take care of a woman.

The men who think women are manipulative, controlling, and only good for one thing? Those men want you in the kitchen barefoot and pregnant.

These men don't want to provide for you because they love you.

They want you dependent on them so you can't leave.

That's not a provider. That's a prison warden.

A real provider says: I got you. Build with me. Let me take care of things so you can flourish.

A fake provider says: Stay home. Don't work. Don't have your own money. Don't have options. And while you're at it, don't ask questions.

And then they turn around and say women are the manipulative ones? Baby, that's projection.

The study also found something else.

These same men who support tradwives? They also believe women use sex to control and manipulate men.

So let me connect the dots for you.

He wants you at home, financially dependent, no career, no backup plan. He also resents you because he thinks you're using sex to trap him.

Do you see how this ends?

You give up everything. He resents you for existing. And you have no way out because you handed him all the power.

That's not a tradwife. That's a hostage.

I'm going to repeat this until I'm blue in the face.

Have your own life. Have your own money. Have your own options.

I'm not against women being taken care of. I'm not against receiving. I'm not against a man providing.

But there's a difference between being provided for and being owned.

A man who loves you wants you to have choices. A man who wants to control you wants you to have none.

The women you see online playing tradwife? Some of them are making millions off the content. They have their own income. They have their own audience. They have their own power.

That's not the same as a woman with no degree, no savings, no family support, no way out, handing her entire life over to a man who secretly resents her.

That's not a lifestyle. That's a trap.

And the men who hate women the most? They're the ones building the trap. They're just smart enough not to say it out loud.

What You Need to Do

Stop listening to what men say they want.

Watch what the men who actually respect women do.

Do they want you dependent? Or do they want you strong?

Do they want you isolated? Or do they want you connected to your own life?

Do they get scared when you have money? Or do they celebrate it?

A real man is not threatened by your power. He's turned on by it.

A man who needs you small? He's not a provider. He's a predator.

You can be a wife. You can stay home. You can let a man take care of you.

But you better have a backup plan. You better have your own life. You better have the ability to walk away the second the respect stops.

Because the men cheering the loudest for the tradwife movement?

They're not cheering for you.

They're cheering for a version of you that can't leave.

Now go build your life. Let him add to it. But never let him be the whole thing.

It took me a while to come up with an answer that made sense to other people. I hope you get the gist of what I'm trying to say.

Here are the things that worked for me:

Stop Overthinking It: Because I am naturally an anxious person, I used to be the queen of overthinking and overanalyzing. For me, I placed a lot of value on being accepted by other people. I had to work on taking that value away and making other peoples opinions worthless.

It has taken me years to get to a good spot. But now I am able to walk into a room by myself and leave with a handful of new genuine connections--each one of them delighted to have met me. I have changed my mindset and instead of worrying about others liking me, I go into conversations hoping that I like the other person; asking myself 'do I like this person?' Once I mastered this way of thinking everything else became easier.

Read the Room: I learned how to read the room. I'm open to discussing a range of topics at any moment. I don't have to mentally and emotionally prepare myself to discuss certain topics, I'm always at the ready. But during my early college years I learned quickly that everyone else does not operate this way.

I had to learn which types of people had the capacity to discuss certain topics and which ones didn't. Trying to discuss the political and economic state of the world with the housewives whose only plan for the day was getting wine drunk at our 10:30am brunch was not the move. That made me look weird as hell.

Discussing my love of celebrity gossip with the president of the local Bar Association was also not the move. That lady did not invite me over to talk about the Kardashians.

I've since learned that there's only a few special people who can get on that level with me and comfortably sit through the range of what goes through my mind. It's best for me to just modify my conversation topics and learn my audience.

Attend Events Because You Actually Enjoy It: I developed genuine hobbies and interests. A while back, I was reading about a woman who was complaining of the surge of people who had recently joined her hobby group. The hobby was trendy on TikTok at the time, for being something that the oLd MoNeY, wEaLtHy, eLiTe, HiGh VaLuE, hIgH sOcIeTy people partake in. Of course, many people just had to go join these activities so that they can take pictures and be seen doing privileged activities. Prove that they weren't like the rest of us peasants.

The woman who was complaining was not unhappy with new people joining, she was unhappy with people posing and pretending to enjoy the activity. People who have a genuine interest in things can easily spot the people who are present just for clout and they don't want to engage with them. Would you go out of your way to have a conversation with someone who is only speaking to you because it makes them look cool?

When I go to events it's because I have a real interest in whatever is happening. I don't go places just to meet people for the sake of meeting people. Sometimes I go places and don't leave with any connections, but I'm still satisfied at the end of the night because I participated in something I truly enjoyed.

Plus, having a genuine interest in things gives you a reason to start a conversation with strangers. You are both there for the same reason, so start off by talking about that. I don't understand how so many people can clout chase and join new groups every other week but can't seem to figure out why none of their relationships stick.

Take the Power Away: I stopped giving others the power to control the quality of my future. I used to attend events solely because I told myself that if I didn't meet the right type of people, my life wouldn't have the outcome I wanted. The quality of my future was dependent upon the types of people I knew. Because of that, I eventually found myself in community with people who I did not enjoy being around but I stayed because I knew what benefits they could give me socially.

This made networking and going out feel like a chore. Like a part-time job. Going out wasn't fun anymore, it was something that I needed to do or else I wasn't going to have a good life. It took me years to grow out of this type of mindset. That way of thinking is exhausting.

I recently went to an event where the keynote speaker was a high profile politician. He has been in the news quite a bit in recent years. That morning didn't go as planned, I was moody and I didn't eat at all that day, so by the time I arrived for the event in the evening, my energy was drained. I didn't feel like talking to people. I just wanted to sit and listen to the speaker. I found a nice spot to sit and enjoyed my own company.

A colleague noticed that I was sitting alone and invited me to sit at his table with the politicians team. It was great because I had opted out of spending the extra money just to sit at these tables and now I was being offered the chance to sit at one for free. Old me would have jumped on this opportunity because I have to rub shoulders with such an influential person right? That's the right thing to do. That's the whole point of me showing up to the event right? That's what I would have told myself. But the evolved me politely declined the invitation and continued to sit by myself.

I listened to my body and emotions. I was tired from the prior events of the day. I knew that my social battery didn't have enough juice to get me through a conversation. I was going to pass up the opportunity to be introduced to an important person....and that was okay. My future wasn't going to be destroyed.

I’ve been reading like crazy lately, and these are things I think are highly beneficial for the future in these topics. There are PDFs for a lot of the books! I’ve also linked Youtube channels, products to buy if need be, blogs, websites, etc. There are far more resources I have but I don’t wanna share my good secrets lol. This is also enough in one post. I wanna put y’all on. 💞

Manifesting/Goddess Energy:

Jambalaya: The Natural Woman’s Book of Personal Charms and Practical Rituals

Powerful and Feminine: How to Increase Your Magnetic Presence and Attract the Attention You Want

Miss Pravala

Luck Manifestation Video

How to Change Your Frequency to Change Your Reality

Nine Steps to Mastermind Your Life

Road Opener

Five Laws of Feminine Power

Evoke Your Power Course

Dating/Marrying Rich:

The Manhattan Madam’s Secrets to Great Sex

Uncensored Sales Strategies: A Radical New Approach to Selling Your Customers What They Really Want - No Matter What Business You’re In

Lucrative Love: The Insider’s Secrets to Marrying Millions!

The Seduction Mystique

Trophy Man: The Surprising Secrets of Black Women Who Marry Well

Being a Woman: Fulfilling Your Femininity and Finding Love

Simply Irresistible: Unleash Your Inner Siren and Mesmerize Any Man, with Help from the Most Famous-and Infamous-Women in History

The Social Tigress: Dating Advice for Women to Attract Men and Get a Boyfriend!

Shanghai Girls: Uncensored & Unsentimental

Etiquette & Upgrading Yourself:

Finishing Touches: A Guide to Being Poised, Polished, and Beautifully Prepared for Life

Emily Post’s Etiquette, 18th Edition

Debrett’s A-Z of Modern Manners

Debrett’s Guide to Entertaining Etiquette

Bellemocha

Art History Classes 

The New Elegant Black Woman

Tonya Leigh

Toastmasters

How to Get the Raise You Deserve

The Happiness Planner

Finances & Business: 

Margin of Safety: Risk-Averse Value Investing Strategies for the Thoughtful Investor (don’t sweat about the price, it’s $13 for the Kindle version)

Never Eat Alone, Expanded and Updated: And Other Secrets to Success, One Relationship at a Time

Learn Foreign Exchange

Fundrise

Five Year Plan to Upgrade Your Life

Hair always done

Nails always done

Nice, tailored, modest clothing

Smell good

Earrings

Rings

A nice bag

Skin treatments

Body treatments

Fitness

Women who you can just tell pour heavily into themselves 💕

You will always be a scapegoat no matter who is on the offensive.

Thats why emotional intelligence/control is one of your greatest arsenal as a woman

When I saw Ezra olubi stories and all that were involved

I know it was going to be a Matter of

Time and the narrative will shift and it did.

When you advocate for something, make sure you aren’t and will never be under the mercy of that same thing

Like make sure you won’t end up needing it

Imagine having to condemn traditional values then still turn around to seek help and Justice from that same system you thrashed .

One of the things liberal/modern women seems to forget is that male nature is constant

Thats why as liberal as I am, I am not very accepting of gay men and i don’t hide It.

Normally they are supposed to feel comfortable in my space as they are with lots of women who preach similar to what I do but energy doesn’t lie and men are energy vampires so they know.

That I have a gay best friend and I am a big fan of bl movies doesn’t mean i am an ally

As long as you are a man, there’s a boundary.

You don’t get to feel comfortable or free in biological

Women spaces like mine

Create yours.

Advocacy is Almost the same as religious fanaticism or mental issues like psychosis

It blinds people from the obvious, like from the reality of things and build some sort of delusional cult-like belief system based solely on fantasy or idealism like it Doesn’t exists

Lots of female advocates don’t want to acknowledge the fact that this is a misogynistic society where a male even a deaf disabled male is considered more valuable, innocent or pure than the most accomplished female simply because she had a baby out of wedlock or her nudes got leaked .

So it simply means that females do not win or get by with accomplishments or “justice” because the game is rigged already

But when you are so angry and all you want is for the world is feel your pain etc

You focus so much on the pain and attacks anyone who tries to take you beyond your pain so you can be logical

When you understand the game is rigged, you are supposed to be extra ruthless in your dealings with representation of your “enemy” no matter what it appears to be so it means that you will accomodate any reasoning that makes its easier to deal with them

Eg despite not being religious myself, I still embraced other aspects of religion and will never support a total atheist society because the advantages of religion outweighs the disadvantages .

The reason why some people especially men haven’t unleash hell on others is becuse they believe in hell/heaven and a God somewhere

To give a glimpse of how vile human nature is, despite this fear of God and fear of punishment, a lot of religious societies still commit the wildest atrocities known to human kind

Religious men one of the worst kind of men ever

Imagine now telling these kind of men that there’s no God or heaven/ hell is all a lie? Lolzz

When you remove your hegdes(covering) , don’t get mad when the snake bites

Ezra Olubi is a man, it Doesn’t matter what he identifies as, that’s still a man

His pedo animal sax disgusting self will always be considered more valuable than a virgin teenage girl who lost her virginity with her bf for free out of love.

Like we are yet to understand exactly the kind of society we live in

There’s no concrete evidence to nab him, everything is allegations, he can claim those tweets is cruise

Paystack simply disassociated themselves from him becuse of the BRAND name not that they are condemning him

If he’s able to clear his name, you will be surprised that he may get more deals in future

But the ladies involved? Dragged to filt

The focus will subtly change from this disgusting man to the fact that “feminists” is the cause etc

Your actions always make It easier for women to be blamed !

You see why I be like alot of these advocacies dont benefit women in the long run.

Now we see ladies trying to shame feminity coaches like us that teach women who to rig the game, manipulate the system and get what you want

They be like gold diggers are patriarchy princesses that rely on men etc lolz

You can still have a traditional provider support you and have the babies in marriage and stil travel The world .

You don’t have to be like Nara smith that cooks from scratch or ballerina farm that gives birth indiscriminately because they are the poster Child of trad wives

No! You can pick what serves and leave the rest for others but don’t throw it all away.

I am a trad wife too! I ain’t cooking or cleaning shit!

Eg, why on earth will I be borrowing money from a billionaire I am sleeping with ? Da fuxk?!

That’s suposed to be a gift!

Imagine borrowing such money to pay your BROTHERs fees, not even to flex! Still enabling the patriarchy like a work horse !

And still sleeping with the man for free , sharing him with other women and men too!

I am not here to condemn anyone’s sexual orientation or preferences

But these people especially the women act like they are more enlightened than us who decide to be transactional with our sexual favors and presence and be like we are weak women who rely on a man or we like easy money too much.

We don’t want to work

But these people and hyprocrisy

So you also like men with money???

So y’all truly admire spoiled pampered women ???

But me that is very open and honest about it, I must be some type of weak minded woman that panders to men

What is the difference between what Regina did and what these ladies are doing

Regina likes women and is married to a polygamous billionaire who is seriously fighting hard to get her back

Regina will receive more respect and support

Regina has money and is entitled to her husbands wealth.

Now even if you didn’t want to go the route of marriage but still be polyamorous

If you are very transactional and have understood male Naturr, this won’t be an issue.

The lady is pained about paying back that loan because she felt like she gave something to him and he’s supposed to let it go for old times sake and he is a multi millionaire, that should be chicken change to him but is shocked that men even bisexual men are still men.

So she felt exposing his sick perversion and toxic behavior to the world will derail the matter and get back at him

Only to now realize it doesn’t work that way

The men you are trying to get justice/pity from are even worse than this Ezra

Who told you that men don’t fantasize or do what Ezra tweeted? The difference is that he tweeted it!

I mean men literally fuxk corpses! Turkeys etc!

We have rich men doing crazy things , sax trafnking rings of kids! Shooting parties for fun where they actually hunt down humans as entertainment

Ladies don’t be naive!

Now the narrative is shifting to other things that don’t even concern the matter at hand, bringing up old gists of ladies gossiping about each other and trying to shift it to women against women as a distraction from the real issue at hand, a pervert on the loose

I am predicting that instead of mounting pressure for Ezra to investigated for those tweets

Influencers especially female influencers will start attacking feminists and trying to paint a narrative of being good women that will not pull down another one blah blah or maybe trying to defend themselves

Like it will soon turn to pick me vs feminist battle

Or feminist start attacking traditional women etc

and slowly, this guy wyll be left off the hook!

The ladies involved still hurt, reputation damaged and yeah broke now because you will pay the debt!

Other men will mount pressure on the women to pay and even mock them for wanting money.

It is better to be mocked and accused thst you are a gold digger , you sleep with men for money and you actually have gold

Than be accused of it and shishi you no get.

Ps: there’s a reason why when people from a certain community elevates especially if that community has been known as victims of oppression or unfair discrimination etc

they don’t like to be boxed up with that community

Eg, Tyla knew that she would need the whole world support to be able to climb up and stay there not only South Africans or mixed or black people

If she starts to paint herself as a representation for colored or black or whatever identity they want to place on her, it will greatly affect her reach

Same as when I see people in competitive games and their people try to be like “ade from Egbaland representing and then ade will try to distance himself abit becuse ade needs idoma, Igbo, bibi, ebira etc support to win not just his community!

Maybe after he wins, he can decide to associate

Use this wisdom to correlate with what I wrote earlier on the Ezra case

This is the compilation of my teachings of animal magnetism in my former account

Animal magnetism (AM) Series by Pearl

Compilation by Rasheeda Light

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Animal magnetism (AM)

rule 1: Never offer to help men even though you can.. you will help but not now.. I'm teaching you to create that energy to pull in the kind of men who want to spoil women...

what is a magnet? it's an object that pulls in polarizing object with the same features to it.. so developing magnetism means attracting someone usually a male that is in polarizing/complementary qualities to what you are..just like bread and butter, beans and rice, etc..they are not the same, they are NOT OPPOSITES but they are complementary.. a woman who believes In spoiling men will only attract men that want to be spoiled. when dealing with men ..you don't give back the same energy...you MIRROR him

so when you START practicing STOPPING helping men..you are building an energy that makes you repel men that need help and only call in men that want to help you instead... remember everything is energy. ..

practical tips you can start from:don't lend or give any man money even a male beggar even if it's 5naira. don't carry anything for any man, don't baby sit your male friends kids, stop being an advisor or caregiver to any man. don't help your male colleagues in school to copy notes or do assignments, don't cover up for your male colleague at work..or give any excuse for any man. practice this consistently at least for a month. I hope you know these doesn't apply to your sons and male relatives? I believe by now..its only smart ladies that are here... if you are just joining.. read my previous write ups to know what type of person I am..

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Animal magnetism (AM)

rule 2: pioritize self care ESPECIALLY when no one is watching.. these things are energy and these rules I'm dishing out is to help you build up the kind of energy that pulls in.. your energy is what attracts certain things to you..not how you look..I keep telling you that physical looks only matter AFTER and it's just Like 3percent.. so if you think you look like an ape..it's true..you do... (anything you believe about yourself is your truth)but I am telling you that as you think you look like an ape, even at that, you are still entitled to a 'high value romantic relationships" dear..

when you take your time to take care of your skin, hair, nails etc..it sends off an energy that your body is precious and to be handled with care.. you don't have to be too expensive.. START with what you have now..

practical very simple tips that even a broke student can adapt too: don't manage soap or water for bathing..if your soap is finishing and remains so small.. throw it away.donr bend or squeeze it to just manage for day.. replace it immediately.. it doesn't matter if it's a cheap soap..start with what you can afford.. always use enough water to bath ..be selfish..even if thats the last water in your hostel..use it well to your fill

don't manage your pads ..always change it as soon as you get uncomfortable.

don't cut toothpaste when it finishes, throw it away .. replace it. instead get small ones that only you uses..

if you are uncomfortable with a shoe no matter how fine it is..stop wearing it .wear slippers instead

always wear clean undies... yes wash your black bras even though you are the only one seeing it that it's dirty. shave, trim etc.even it's just you And no one is touching your body, smell nice for yourself..wash your hairnets..wash your night gowns.. wash your pillowcase and bedsheets..even though no one visits you or sleeps with you.. TRUST me.. we can perceive the energy of a dirty careless person sometimes by just the vibe or pictures.. and men are energy vampires..

so get so Invested in taking care of yourself in the most meticulous way that you literally become so self absorbed without knowing...that shit makes a woman very attractive to the kind of men that want to take care of a woman and that's who you want to attract right? ... "good* men love selfish women..

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on dating/hanging out with men...

high standards will prevent you from having bad experiences with men. when I was dating, .I have personal rules that I only broke once and there was consequences.

the rules:

I don't do last minutes dates..there must be at least 24 hour notice.

keeping to time is so important. I only pardon 30 minutes late.. outside that either a huge compensation within 24 hours or blocked

I only hang out with men who have cars. I don't do Uber or taxi on dates.. the man MUST pick me up and drop me off.. except on rare occasions where the location is not familiar to me..i don't play with my safety and I ALWAYS have vex money just in case. ( I broke this rule and I was stood up at Sheraton. it was so embarrassing. never did it ever again, though that ninja sent me a very beautiful set of jewelry, Arabian musk and flowers as apology)

I don't entertain men ever in my house as a single lady... our interactions end at the gate.

I don't discuss certain topics with men I date..I keep it strictly on FUN.. nothing like politics or societal issues or marriage or so..so no room for 50/50 discussions or misogynistic stuffs..

I don't talk about my family or sexual history or preferences..if the friendship ever got to sex level, it was something totally under my control.. the time, space and ambience..

I never ever ever have sex without protection..never.. if I ever did..I took that ninja to get tested right in my presence first

. sometimes due to my rules and how rigorous it was to get in-between my legs.. these men would prefer hanging out with me on dates 😂. I went out more on dates with men than I ever had sexual contacts...there was a year I went out every single weekend and that same year was the most celibate I have ever been! i think I had sex only 3 times! for a full year 😂.. and men don't take care of their health.. that's how one discovered he had a heart condition!

I don't go down on men, Personally I consider it an insult..I don't do any twisting uncomfortable style....I am very lazy on the bed..I don't try to please any man..I am very sensual but not sexy..and if I give any man the honor of sex with me and I don't orgasm, that ninja pays 😂.

I expect fidelity for the period I am dating you even if you are married 😂😂... when I am done..you can go back to your wife.. bhet if I am caught, the relationship is also over..

I am narcissistic and predatory with men.. so I never had any sub stories about dating.. ever.. I only have beautiful experiences and stories..

create your one unique rules before you date and STICK to it

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Animal magnetism

rule 4: self talk.. words are so powerful..so so powerful.. yes thoughts are more powerful but words bring thoughts to reality. your bible says even this world by created by speech.. words have caused and soothe wars.. how you talk to yourself is how others will talk to you..this is true..use words to create an energy in aura that pulls in exactly what you want..

practical tips: take a mirror facing yourself..and say all those words you wish a man you are in love with will say to you.. but say it to your self in THIRD person and in past tense as if it has already happened.. remember the brain doesn't know the difference between past or future..it only knows present..so if you trick your Brain to believe something has already happened...it will program itself over time like that.( read my notes on rewiring your nervous system) . eg " I love traveling the world with you" I enjoy spending money on you" "you are the most classiest lady I know" I love your home , you have a beautiful skin etc. look in the mirror and talk to yourself how you wish others would talk to you..do this consistently for 21 days. do.it secretly.. you are building an energy that will attract the kind of men/people that will say such words to you.. so say the kinds of words you want to hear..say it repeatedly.. always DO IT SECRETLY cus you will look ridiculous if people see you and they may mock you for and self doubt will slow down your growth.. remember to talk to yourself in THIRD person...not in the first person.. first person : I am , second person: they are, third person: you are

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Animal magnetism

rule 5: create Illusions. reality is messed up, it's.mudane and monotous etc ..we know.. so lots of people try to escape reality by ways of drugs, porn addictions, phone addictions, alcohol, sex, video games etc... people want to escape the normal especially men cus men are always seeking ways to run away from themselves..if you can create an illusion that you are all that...you have built an aura that makes you magnetic.. illusions means something that isn't real..like a fantasy ..it doesn't mean lying or faking what you are not..if you do that..it will backfire and you can't keep up.. don't pretend you have money when you are broke so you don't chase your helper away. don't form big girl or that you are used to certain things ..it's ok if you haven't been to an airport before..its ok if you haven't used an iphone before..it's alright if you don't know how to drive..it's ok if you haven't used a microwave before..it's really ok.. infact your honesty and "weaponized" ignorance actually makes you more attractive ..men have yeye behavior of wanting to teach a woman something new or be the first person to introduce her to certain things..that's why they are so obsessed with virgins. so use your"ignorance" to your advantage.. but in this case.. illusions is the reason we have entertainment cus people esp men want to escape reality.. if you can successfully create illusions about your self..you become very seductive

practical tips: slow down your movements.. do as if you have all the time In the world.... remember this is just for a short time..and use it with sense..not when you have an appointment or something you need to be in a hurry for..when you eat your food..pretend as if you are eating in a fine dining..even if it's garri.. savor it..wear your dress as if it's an expensive dinner gown...you are building up an energetic aura of something entertaining or luxurious even if it's not real.it's all illusions.. the few ladies have talked to me said I have a fine voice..and a man has sent me 400k before just to hear me talk..he said I should just say anything that my voice is so soothing..the truth is that its all illusions. I practiced these so much that it became a part of me.. so no need to fake anything .. just create illusions around that thing

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ANIMAL MAGNETISM

Rule 6: Authenticity: Do you know why loving yourself makes you so magnetic , sensual and that delicious energy 🤣? it's because you give other people space to love themselves too and be authentic.. your Bible says love your neighbor like yourself. but how can you love your neighbor when you don't even love yourself? and do you know what love is? love is accepting someone or something the way IT is not the way you think it should be..and you cannot love without knowledge.. there's nothing like love at first sight. that's a lie..it's just chemistry which is also good thing too..but the kind of love you seek from others..you will never get it. it's your responsibility to give it to yourself.. I love money, I hate stress..I don't pretend or fake it..my husband doesn't have to second guess or walk on egg shells to please me, he just knows cus I show up authentic.. this gives him the liberty to also be himself n pursue his own joy and people want to be free..no one likes being controlled or always be told what to do or to be talked down on.. every one yearns for some dignity and basic human respect no matter what level they are.. people need a chance to express their inner most longings without fear of ridicule or condemnations. people want to connect..its a primal need..when you operate from your heart space..ie authentic.. its so easy to allow others to also be authentic in your own space..you automatically hold space for them and that makes you so so so magnetic and great to be around.

practical tips: for the next 21 days..don't criticize yourself for any mistakes you make, 2) do your chores or daily activities Exactly how you wanted to do it..grow from there..

for those joining..I started a series on how to be attractive on a subconscious level especially for ladies who desire male attention.. ( I am for all kinds of women including the boy crazy ones) I call it animal magnetism. you can read my previous updates on it..

I feel it's hypocrisy telling a lady that hasn't been spoiled by men before that it doesn't matter.. someone like me can say that cus I'm even tired. so it's ok if you want to experience such . that's part of being authentic..it doesn't make you less of a feminist

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Animal magnetism

Rule 7: Be seen...

due to the humble good image programing in women, we tend to hide ourselves so as not to upset that image..you know, the need to be seen as a wife material or good woman. such inhibits the expressiveness of a woman ..but a woman who makes herself be seen brightens her aura and makes her attractive on a subconscious level.

practical tips: you went to shop and the cashier decides to by pass you and serve the man at your back.. SPEAK up.. express your displeasure in a calm but FIRM manner.

2) you went to a restaurant and they got your order wrong and that's not what you want... don't manage it. kindly insist on your correct order.. be bold.

3) a man starts a conversation with you that you are not comfortable with and you are in a safe place.. shut it down immediately.. don't sugar coat it...dont be laughing and recording it. just say " thank you sir but I don't want to have this conversation again..please let me be". if he insists.. curse him out.. only walk away if you are afraid or feel threatened..if it's in an open space.. nne dey your dey..let him be the one to leave.

this character build up an unfuxkable energy in you which in turn makes you attractive

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Animal magnetism

Rule8: Treat yourself well

this is one of the keys to everything you ever want in life.. you can't expect others to treat you better than you treat yourself.

you need to believe you deserve certain things and try to get them yourself instead of waiting .

Treating yourself well builds up an aura that you are important and it automatically sends a signal.to others esp men that you are so used to being prioritized that you won't settle.

this makes you very attractive as no one truly respects a self sacrificing woman.

practical tips: imagine if the president was to visit you in your house so as to give you a billion dollars contract..how will you serve him food? how will your house look like?

won't you look for the best plate In your kitchen? give him the lion share and nice presentation? won't you keep your house clean and all?

so why can't you do that for yourself? why can't you use your best stuffs for you? why must you eat with the rubber plate and serve others the glass one?

I lived in a luxury apartment alone.. men don't visit me .yet that house was sparkling clean and smelled so nice! because I a Goddess dwells there! so that aura made men host me in nice places even without me telling them anything..my energy speaks for me..

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Animal magnetism

Rule 9: branding your image: in a superficial world, imagery is so important.. especially what you say about yourself..you have to learn how to package yourself as a man magnet even if no man is talking to you or even if men have never treated you well in the past.. It is what we say to ourselves that becomes our truth but it is what we say to others that becomes thier TRUTH about us..thats why i keep saying that even if you lie to others.. don't lie to yourself

the man that got me an apartment..I told him the apartment my ex got me was reclaimed by efcc.

listen. prior to meeting alhaji, I was squatting in kubwa. but I made him believe I have dated a man who has given me an apartment before...so he felt I was hot cake cus its only big men that could have cases with efcc.. so he decided to show me he can do better..he was in competition with a man that don't exist! this is male nature!

men are not generally intelligent.. they will treat you based on antecedents. im telling you the Truth. mind what you say about yourself to others especially men..

practical tips: use words like "I hate stress", "this could be bigger" " I had it better" "I have an allergy to...( make something up) , "I will feel more safe in..." "I love privacy " "vacations are more fun than dates " "I am tired of being spoiled" etc..try to include these words as often as you can in your everyday normal conversations..you will build up that aura in others that will in turn change their perception of you. this brands you on a subconsciously level n makes you attractive to certain classes of men

heal your traumas in private.. stop talking on your pages how men only take you out on akara dates..

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Animal magnetism

Rule 10: be in your body always ..

our bodies is very magical.. it's powerful..our nervous systems can generate emotions that no drug or external form can give. we have lots of errotic zones that haven't been explored cus we have been taught to be ashamed of so many aspects of us by morals..some of you don't even know what you vag*na looks like? you have never look at it before or too scared to touch it outside bathing..it's your own sis!

listen men are always trying to be inside our bodies! that's biological. they always want to enter inside of us..they use all manner of tricks and manipulation to make it easier.

now women are waking up to the game..these men now try to insert themselves in our spaces.. always trying to police us or tell us what to do. men need women.

now imagine a woman is always inside her body.. who knows what pleasures feels like without a man awakening it in her..a woman whose body pleasure her first! that's a a very seductive woman on an energetic level! I've gotten to level where sometimes I can orgasm just thru my mind! I don't even need to be touched.

this is so attractive and draws men to you like ants to sugar..men are energy vampires.. so they want to be part of that delicious yumminess.

practical tips: ladies practice self pleasure.. touch your body. it's yours! masturbation is bad for men not women .. they lied to you.. yes too much of everything is bad. that I know. now the trick is to practice self pleasure without having any body in mind! this shit is so powerful. it charges your aura up n demystify men..it removes any man from the pedestal n places you there!

2) dance naked on a mirror as often as you can., make sure to swing your waist.say nice things about your stretch marks, sagging skin etc..love it so much..if you don't like your body. why should someone else like it?

3) be present. trust your instincts.if you want to rest..rest..if you don't feel like doing anything. don't do..just practice being present..you can meditate maybe 30 mins daily to help you

Animal magnetism

please skip if this won't sit well with you.

rule 11: adopt "wuked" characteristics.

every lady around you is auditioning to be the perfect lady for a man, shes the one with the good heart, the matured one, the peace maker, the burden bearer, the very domesticated lady and the peace of mind..

then there's that other lady who is a gaslighter, manipulative ,extremely selfish, stubborn, snobbish, bad tempered , chaotic etc..and you wonder why your man or men seems to have interest in such a woman and treat her so well...the answer is male nature! men love dangerous stuffs cus they are not comfortable in this feminine planet .their nervous system is programmed to be on fight or flight mode..that's why they are always looking for the next exciting thing and can't stay one place.. they always go for extreme sports n crazy adventures.. men are more prone to addictions and stuffs that make them escape their harsh realities..what addictions do is that it keeps you on fight or flight mode , gives a false sense of instant relief that keeps you hooked etc and a woman who is battling with addictions is in her wounded feminine phase.

this is another reason men keep affairs.. just for the thrill of it! that's why they cheat on that perfect sexy good wife.

. masculine energy is a moving energy.. feminine energy is a STILL energy...so when a woman embodies characteristics that doesn't make a man's nerves relax..he falls in love with her and she in turn energetically pulls in men. but that woman that always seems to be the one who gives him peace and so good tends to be dogged out the most and keep attracting narcissists or men hardly look her way for romance.. they friend zone her or make her a friend with benefits or one of guys . lolz

the colder, meaner and manipulative I was..the more the male attention

even on FB here..the moment my messages changed to become more darker..I noticed I started getting weird requests from men.

tips: only do this when you want to punish men who has wronged you.. don't easily forgive.. and be very subtle about it.. let them not ever see you coming and do something that "I am sorry "can fix..don't go overboard,if not you have crossed the line to crazy and crazy women are so unappealing no one likes a crazy person. so punish then forgive later. this builds a very dark dangerous aura about you that is so alluring to that sicko gender.

If you're a pretty girl you have to behave either like you know YOU ARE one - if you're wealthy ish. Or like you have completely no idea whatsoever and its an added bonus- if you're poor. And even then you have to be a god just a shy one.

What does that even mean? Pretty girls in poor environments will level up by dating rich and hypergamy anything else will be punished af by society. Pretty girls from the upper class should keep dating as bay as much as possible and level up by by being socialites and building brands.

What does it mean to act like you don't know you're pretty while carrying it like a god? It means doing skincare and eating clean so you can do no make up and clean girl aesthetic because you don't want to look like you're even trying. And dressing in that Old Money way thats lowkey and picking some religion (mostly Christianity) to give you the protection money would've and then proceeding to NOT be a people's person. Pretty girls are the most powerful social currency so everyone male and female alike want your time and you just need to make it home to help mom and study and bible class and whatever- then dating as far away from baseline as physically possible, and going for rich older men 48+ that had their fuckboy phase and have no interest in those games and know already they're supposed to take care of you- and then proceeding to uh no my religion does not allow me to sleep with you sorry. can I get my fees paid this semester? To be a god is to dress well, keep away from drama and not let people use you for social currency. Poor ladies have to play the nice girl game because they do not have money or daddy's reputation to protect them and all the boys are angry at her for being out of their league and the girls are bitter for not being the highest in the room so you have to placate and make up for that by being soft and sweet but not nice. Say more no's than yes' and run for office and try get a job at the highest office around with a social advantage. It means to always smell clean and look clean and sit upright but laugh at jokes and congratulate people on their birthdays and smile but not let anyone think you're actually friends. Aquaintance at best.Like a statue of Athena. You can look at it. You know its there. But you know its not yours or accesibe. You have to be nice so you make up for the burning resentment and sweet but do not overcompensate, don't offer to help, don't always text first matter of fact learn to reply in emojis or my stye- symbols.

Hi

Hey :)

Wyd?

Studying :)

Wanna come over?

don't text back ever then next morning text some hey gm do you have that assignment book? :)

Do NOT indulge people do NOT listen to or take part in gossip be busy join clubs take up extra classes but do NOT do anything to show you're trying. Do your workouts in your room and skincare in secret etc. But be a god so that no one can really put a finger on you. Smile. Be kind. NEVER nice. Sweet when you need to. Earphones and being an introvert will save you. Then go on Tinder or something and learn to fish.

if anyone asks maybe its the cheap moisturizer that you use (DO NOT PLS) and idk maybe puberty just likes you. Are you dating? Haha should I?

This was an ask and you know what? If I want to be mother I have to start mothering. And also because I remember being a teen buying 20 bras but only wearing one that actually fit and never using the rest because it just felt right. This has been HARD to put in words so everyone say THANK YOU MOTHER.

Bra's, like clothes in general, exist for two main reason

Comfort

Functionality

Presentation.

Since this blog is especially for a non- expensive way to level up on a No-job-no-money-no-assets point of interaction; everything is based on a thrifting- once a year shopping on second hand - DIY mentality. Zero cash to work with. So this is a capsule bra type post.

SO ON BRAS. There are three parts of a bra that matters the most. Keeping in mind English is NOT my language-

(i) FUNCTIONALITY

a) the (bottom?) part that you (hook?) over your back. Chat GPT says its called a BAND. The one with the Underwires at the front that give support to the girls (breasts) and the band that hooks on your back to complete the (circle?). You know what I mean (I hope).

b) The cups themselves, that offer coverage over the girls, most importantly nipples.

c) Straps. The ones that go over your shoulder and join the cups to the lower back band for stability and shaping (?)

SO. (this is harder than I thought it would btw. i bet there's some video on YT on this so supplement). Staring with

(ii) COMFORT

(a) the straps have to be both adjustable and detachable. You should be able to replace them and adjust their (length?). repeat after me they should NOT be elastic or spandex. You want longevity you want to keep it for 6+ years it needs to be non stretch. Nothing will show you hell the way elastic and spandex will. There's a voice in your mind telling you the prettier it is the better. It's lying those 'decorations' will eat into your skin in ways you did not know were possible. Simple minimalistic, stitches in the INSIDE so seamless. Trust. The wider the better, especially for heavy chested girlies. Straps are 60% of support.

(b). The cups. Which are meant to cover as much of your (boob?) as possible. There are severap ways people get this wrong, especially heavy chested girls-

First, it has to cover 100% of the side (?). If any is hanging out nope go home and stitch one for yourself or commission a tailor it will look terrible, TERRIBLE under whatever you wear. It will look shapeless and deformed. If can NOT spill from the sides. It has to cover the weight of your girls. WEIGHT. So from say, one cm under your underarm. All the way to the under.

The top. How high can it go? Some are V shaped (?) and others m shaped so whats the law? I suggest a V shaped one {Its more \(/ than V ut you get it} over the m shaped because it allows for a wider (variety?) of tops and dresses. It HAS to cover your nipples 100? Can NOT be peeking out. That wider (?) outer (?) nipple cicrle thing. I suggest it covers 75% of the weight (?) too but thats up to you.

Padded or no? NO. Seems like a personal choice and is but just no. Padded cups break easier and faster you'll be back to buy sooner. I PERSONALLY think they look bad but this is about comfort and I can tell you they're hella uncomfortable and will look weird under tight and stretched tops/ dresses. just, trust.

(c) the band.

THIS IS WHEREEEEEEEEEe all goes wrong from experience.

That voice telling you the more elastic and stretchable it is the better it is is a liar and an enemy. Study, people.

Underwire or no? Your choice but for heavy chested girls you might need to choose this one. For the support.

Also as seamless as can get pls if the (Hemming?) is visible it will cut into your skin noticeable. I know this isn't what I want to say but its as close as I can get to it, hopefully you get what I mean.

The more hook options (?) the better tbh. You know what I mean no? Some have one tiny hook only some have 3 rows with say, 4 column's, choose this one. Just in case your weight fluctuates.

How tight does it have to be? For size 0 girls you have to literally fell it on your ribs. This is the part of a bra that wears out first usually. Above size zero this is why we go for the multi hook, the deal being when you hook it tightest (with the hook farthest inward ? Bruh this language sucks) it has to practically eat into your skin. That is for just in case your weight changes then you can adjust accordingly. If it feels loose on that hook for anyone outside size zero put it downnnnn.

(iii) PRESENTABLILITY

Colors closest to your skin so they can go with pretty much any cloth

Seamless. This again should go without saying

A white one (for whites and lightskins) and a black (for us darksin girlies) one MUST be included.

Goes without saying

Cotton & other breathable fabrics in hot areas you can go synthetic in cold ones since its cold you can use the heat retention and they do last longer.

If you touch up the cup and feel those sweat absorbers you THROW IT OUT do not flirt with cancer yes? Sweating is natural and useful and necessary.

Elastic spandex are the enemy.

You realistically need only three.

Most women can not do something as simple as change a tyre change a bulb mend their torn dress without uglyfying it decorate your room do your finances and budgeting file your taxes literally SIT DOWN AND STUDY drive swim sew cook clean properly cant use 4/5 of the functions in your computer and only use Youtube don't even know the fundamentals of how things work so you have 4 serums that do the same thing or (and this mostly lmao) object each other so you get a sumtotal of zero benefits from things that cost a pretty coin and it is so annoying so annoying so annoying because Jesus Holy Christ its 2025 you have The Great University Of YouTube at your disposal but God Forbid. "I'm JuSt A GiRL" please get out of my face.

I saw an ask about this on reddit and the comments were women crying ThE PatRiAcHy like the Big Bad All Powerful Patriarchy snuck into your room and caught you attempting to change your bulb and hurt you? How devastating :/ . How utterly devastating Lord Of Mine How DEVASTATING I-. Guys.

When I was younger (I'm 25 lmao) I was obsessed with being more confident because every single thing in my environment was supposed to make me feel useless and underserving and I felt the need to prove to myself I can do everything and I remember getting what I can only describe as backlash from my environment at that time. Because I'm not only a woman you're by all measures a small one (height weight etc) and for some reason this was supposed to mean something significant enough that it was supposed to be shameful to me to sign up for a plumbing course after classes and you know what I did. Went to the damn classes and learned to fix my pipes so I don't feel so fucking useless in my own skin. And I've never in my entire life owned a car or Bike but I have my licenses in both and I befriended the car and biker boys so they can teach me how to work both and how to fix both and which is what where and I couldn't pay for the pottery classes near me as that point so I glue + Starch + YouTube and fucking learned because I wanted to not suffer the extreme shame of being useless to myself. And then my roof leaked and landlord quoted me demonic numbers so you know what I did? LEARNED to fix it. And I could go all day about all the things I learned that are not conventional while my friends were looking at me like ew girl thats so manly you're acting like a man you're sooooooooooooooooo masculine for knowing how to change your own oil and repaint your apartment just quote an interior designer money you need rn because you're by all accounts poor just somehow in a rich neighborhood I could NEVER. So I find the excuses so funny like the Gender Norms and Big Bad Patriachy didn't stop you from having a bank account and voting and having a phone and going out unchaperoned and shouting your opinions but it stopped you from knowing how to file your taxes and skate and bike and train for a marathon and work out and plan your finances and go for your check ups and NOT eat that much sugar and sit to study for your exams in the classes YOU YOURSELF signed up for assemble a table that came with a literal manual? NO OnE TaUgHt yOu? How convenient. sad sad girl.

A lot of women are practically useless to themselves and you have let FemiNiNiTy content make you think this is some kind of flex like some man will come save you from your credit card debt that you racked up by being literally stupid and this is just what it means to be feminine :). Fucking useless and stunted and I don't even mean to the community I don't like women that serve the community lmao I mean to YOURSELF. And its so funny to me because y'all are poor and insecure. When the As Old As Time formula to being confident is to be competent. And its even funnier to me when y'all whine About it. No One Taught Me To there's 100000000000% someone on YouTube with a tutorial and I'm willing to bet a 50% chance if you walked up to a finance bro and asked hey can you give me a rundown on the whole taxes thing in exchange of a coffee? Unless you're massively unkempt and undergroomed or lack social skills the answer will be yes. You have time for 11 hours screentime for pop culture but God Forbid-.

Being JusT a GiRL and a GiLs GiRL and FeMiNiNiTy has created this enabling culture where girls get to be useless to themselves and make shitty choices and I'm supposed to clap because I'm a GiRLs GiRL and act like you're not actually massively annoying for whining about something 1000% in your power to change. Oh YoU fAiLed YouR ClassEs? The ones you didn't evn study for? GGGGGGGGGGOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH girlie that's saaaaaaaaaaauuuuuuuuuuuuuuurrrrrrrrrrrrr sad maybe next time? No its okay you're just a girl. Your heater isn't working? And you don't even have money for a proffesional? Have you considered LEARNING? TO? FIX? THE? THINGS? YOU? WILL? USE? FOR? THE ? REST? OF? YOUR? LIFE? No? Oh Youre feminine sorry go into debt queen :). You can't make rent? But you made that new Dior Lip Gloss? OH YASSSSSSS QUEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEN actual comedy to me.

Grow the Fuck Up and take responsibility for your life. Yes you can complain. Yes I think its stupid yes I think YOU are stupid too. Ew.

How to Stop Playing Small & Start Moving Like a Winner

There’s a difference between people who are just seen and people who are felt. The latter don’t beg for attention, they just walk into a room and shift the atmosphere. That’s the glow-up no one talks about—the kind that starts inside and radiates outward.

I thought a glow-up was about changing my hair, my wardrobe, my face. But what actually changed my life? My energy.

Here’s how I stopped playing small and started moving like the winner I was always meant to be.

Step 1: The Identity Shift – Becoming "That Person"

If you’re waiting for something external to confirm you’re important (money, attention, approval), you’ll always feel like something is missing. The glow-up happens when you wake up one day and decide:

I am interesting, valuable, magnetic—before anyone else says it.

I deserve to take up space and be seen.

I no longer play down my personality to make others comfortable.

Ask yourself: If I were already the most powerful, glowing version of me—how would I think? How would I move? What would I tolerate?

Then start acting like that.

Immediately.

Step 2: Unlearning Self-Sabotage & Small Energy

A lot of us were conditioned to be “humble,” to be “likable,” to dim ourselves down. But let’s be real—playing small has never helped anyone win.

Speaking softly so you don’t sound “too much”? Stop it.

Sitting back when you know you have something to say? Stop it.

Not going after what you want because “what if I fail”? Stop it.

Winners aren’t afraid to be seen trying. And trust me, people can feel when you doubt yourself. The second you start believing you belong in the spotlight, the world will reflect it back to you.

Step 3: The Energy Glow-Up – Embodying Unapologetic Presence

Confidence isn’t just posture or outfits (though, yes, those help). It’s the subtle way you exist that makes people remember you.

Speak slower. Move with certainty. Rushed energy screams insecurity.

Make eye contact. Like you expect people to listen when you talk.

Stop over-explaining. Say what you mean, then stop talking.

Carry yourself like you have somewhere important to be. Even if it’s just a coffee run.

People should feel something different when they’re around you. Like they just met someone important. Because they did.

Step 4: Raising Your Standards in Every Area

Here’s the truth: when you glow up internally, you’ll stop tolerating things that don’t align with your highest self.

Low-effort friendships? No, thanks.

Situationships with people who don’t see your worth? Not my vibe.

Doubting yourself before you even try? That’s embarrassing.

Once you start seeing yourself as the prize, the whole world starts treating you that way too.

Step 5: Moving Like a Winner (Before the World Recognizes It)

You don’t become magnetic, successful, iconic by waiting for permission. You do it by deciding:

“I’m already her.”

“I already have what it takes.”

“It’s just a matter of time before the world catches up.”

And then you start walking, talking, living like that’s the truth. Because it is.

The glow-up isn’t about becoming someone new. It’s about uncovering who you were always meant to be.

So stop playing