FALCON WITCH !

You sit patiently, expecting a private message at any moment. There’s a knock at your door. It’s me, dressed in a surprisingly well made wizard robe, arms full of books and dice.

some nerd: source????

me: 

me: ??????

me:

(ﾉ◕ヮ◕)ﾉ*:･ﾟ✧ boys  (ﾉ◕ヮ◕)ﾉ*:･ﾟ✧

and other times I’m like

(ﾉ◕ヮ◕)ﾉ*:･ﾟ✧ girls  (ﾉ◕ヮ◕)ﾉ*:･ﾟ✧

and other times I’m like

(ﾉ◕ヮ◕)ﾉ*:･ﾟ✧ non-binary people (ﾉ◕ヮ◕)ﾉ*:･ﾟ✧

but most of the time I’m like

Hello,

so, homophobia is the hatred against gay and lesbian people which presents itself in many different (often institutionalised) ways. Biphobia is the hatred against bisexual people which has a lot of unique and bi-specific aspects. It can come from straight people, gay people and bi people themselves (we call that “internalised biphobia”).

Those are the main things that come to my mind right now:

not believing that bisexuality is “real” and therefore invalidating people who identify as bi

for example saying they are actually gay but too shy/scared/cowardly to “fully” come out of the closet

or saying that they are actually straight and just “doing it for attention”

the false believe that you can only truly be attracted to one (and only one!) gender (”I can’t imagine being attracted to more than one gender, so how could anyone else?”)

thinking it’s “just a phase” (often said about and towards bi kids/teenagers) and that they will eventually “pick a side”

stereotyping bi people as “greedy” or “confused”

“they just need to make their mind up”

“they have threesomes all the time”

“don’t date a bi person, they are all unfaithfull cheaters.”

“they can only be happy if they date a man and a woman at the same time.”

thinking of bisexuality as half gay/half straight instead of it’s own unique sexual identity

“how many percent gay are you?”

“are you like 50/50?”

“what gender do you prefer?”

repeatedly speaking over bi people when they want to define bisexuality for themselves

“bi means ‘two’ so you can only be attracted to men and women”, but the bi community keeps saying that the term has evolved to mean “two or more genders” which means it is inclusive of non-binary people as well (and you can identify as bi if you are for example only attracted to women and nb-people but not to men)

bisexual erasure

for example assuming someone in a same-gender relationship has to be gay and in a different-gender relationship has to be straight (this ask was a perfect example)

in media when TV shows refuse to say the word “bisexual” about a character who clearly showed interest in or was intimate with people of more than one gender.

using “gay” as an umbrella term to mean LGBTQIA+ (”gay rights”, “gay marriage”, “gay pride”) which is not just bisexual erasure but actually erases every other letter in the acronym except the G

labelling openly bi celebrities as “allies” (e.g. Lady Gaga, Drew Barrymore, Billy Joe Armstrong)

mislabelling bi celebrities as gay - ever wondered why Freddie Mercury is known to be “the most famous gay celebrity”? Well, he identified as bisexual.

also saying that biphobia is just “misdirected homophobia” denies the fact that there are a lot of bi-specific issues.

bi people are less likely to be out to their intimate partner, their families/friends, their doctors

they are more likely to suffer from mental health issues and experience intimate partner violence

What all of this is showing us is that bi people have specific needs and face unique problems that won’t vanish just by fighting homophobia. There is no trickle down effect for bi people because as said above: we are not half gay so resources for gay people don’t apply to us. We need our own resources and representation because biphobia is not the same as homophobia.

If you call a bisexual person “bihet”, say that bisexuals have “straight passing privilege”, or in general biphobic,  you owe me and every other bisexual person 15 dollars.