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Trans men are not your body guards or your knights in shining armor. (Cis) women have thrown more than one hissy fit anytime we try to ask for the bare fucking minimum of language inclusivity in spaces where we need medical care, why the fuck would I have any interest in ‘saving’ them when they won’t even do the work in helping us and our sisters/siblings?

Yeah no fuck off with that shit.

But basically I was talking about how weird it was that my urethra was practically inside my vagina and they brought up something called Hypospadias.

I can’t find anything online that isn’t penile. I can’t find ANYTHING That matches my anatomy. Normal diagrams don’t match my anatomy, and I just. I’m angry and confused because I know there’s something not normal about it but I can’t fucking find anything. And it’s frustrating. I don’t know what the fuck is happening with my anatomy. When I had periods, my ovaries were constantly having cysts that exploded. I don’t want to say I’m intersex because- I simply don’t know if I’m allowed to. I don’t know if I am or am not. I’m frustrated, I want answers, but I’m too goddamn terrified to see a gynocologist because I live in Texas. Even though if I wanna get a hysto I may have to.

I’m either this or Subtotal. Maybe somewhere in between.

Like. Before my mom had her character development, I would legit get into screaming matches with her and my step dad about cutting my hair. I wanted it short, they didn’t. So, I would self sabatoge and purposefully fuck up my own hair so they would be forced to take me to a hair stylist to chop it off.

I also see an uptick of liberal cis women also always expecting trans men to be these like. Meat shields. They don’t give us a place in topics of reproductive rights even though many of us have uteruses and can get pregnant, but we’re supposed to be the ones to fix cis men.

Many feminist now also forgot that a key tennant of feminism, is you hold EVERYONE to the same moral standard. It’s about gender EQUALITY, not female supremacy. Equality cannot exist in a society that caters to explicitly one gender.

Many people I know (including myself) have been harrassed or assaulted by Cis women. Especially mothers and female friends and partners.

Abigail Shreir bullshit aside, cis women genuinely act like it’s a slight against them to want top surgery or to want to be a man. Part of it is because they view men and masculinity as this inherit threat, an enemy. It’s the same reason they hate trans women, to cis women, trans women are these evil things coming in to hurt them.

Cis women (especially white cis women) tend to think they are the ultimate end-all-be-all oppressed victims, if you are a man you can’t be oppressed. Which obviously is bullshit.

Trans men and Trans women (including enbies) are all under the same umbrella, the only way a trans man could have systemic power over a trans women would be if he’s white and she isn’t. Or vice versa. Liberal Cis woman ‘allies’ are also getting farrrr too comfortable here. Like. They expect labor from trans men and punch down on us because they claim we are ‘the oppressor class’ when no, Stephanie, you are just transphobic and using your privilege against me. They act buddy-buddy with trans women, but the moment trans women speak up and are like ‘hey. This is kinda fucked.’ They show their whole ass and viciously turn on them.

Cis women and Cis men are both allies when it comes to transgender oppression and niether of them should be immediately trusted. It’s not our job to fix our cis male counterparts, that’s THEIR responsibility. Trans men can be an example of healthy masculinity, sure, but you shouldn’t expect us to fix your shitty boyfriends.

Honestly.

Like. Before my mom had her character development, I would legit get into screaming matches with her and my step dad about cutting my hair. I wanted it short, they didn’t. So, I would self sabatoge and purposefully fuck up my own hair so they would be forced to take me to a hair stylist to chop it off.

I also see an uptick of liberal cis women also always expecting trans men to be these like. Meat shields. They don’t give us a place in topics of reproductive rights even though many of us have uteruses and can get pregnant, but we’re supposed to be the ones to fix cis men.

Many feminist now also forgot that a key tennant of feminism, is you hold EVERYONE to the same moral standard. It’s about gender EQUALITY, not female supremacy. Equality cannot exist in a society that caters to explicitly one gender.

Many people I know (including myself) have been harrassed or assaulted by Cis women. Especially mothers and female friends and partners.

Abigail Shreir bullshit aside, cis women genuinely act like it’s a slight against them to want top surgery or to want to be a man. Part of it is because they view men and masculinity as this inherit threat, an enemy. It’s the same reason they hate trans women, to cis women, trans women are these evil things coming in to hurt them.

Cis women (especially white cis women) tend to think they are the ultimate end-all-be-all oppressed victims, if you are a man you can’t be oppressed. Which obviously is bullshit.

Trans men and Trans women (including enbies) are all under the same umbrella, the only way a trans man could have systemic power over a trans women would be if he’s white and she isn’t. Or vice versa. Liberal Cis woman ‘allies’ are also getting farrrr too comfortable here. Like. They expect labor from trans men and punch down on us because they claim we are ‘the oppressor class’ when no, Stephanie, you are just transphobic and using your privilege against me. They act buddy-buddy with trans women, but the moment trans women speak up and are like ‘hey. This is kinda fucked.’ They show their whole ass and viciously turn on them.

Cis women and Cis men are both allies when it comes to transgender oppression and niether of them should be immediately trusted. It’s not our job to fix our cis male counterparts, that’s THEIR responsibility. Trans men can be an example of healthy masculinity, sure, but you shouldn’t expect us to fix your shitty boyfriends.

Honestly.

Like. Okay, the first few times, it was funny. I was even making those jokes among myself and several other trans guys and it was mostly because all of us read omegaverse fics at one point and that was the context of the joke. But now it’s just like.

“I wish men could get pregnant.”

We do. You kill and ridicule us though.

I saw a video on YouTube that basically was like “men should stop doing the wolf and lion thing. Be a seahorse and get pregnant.”

Seahorse dads do exist, and most of them die because they cannot get access to fucking medical care. I am TERRIFIED of going to a gynocologist because I live in Texas and have been on T for almost three years now, and there is a non zero chance I’ll probably end up being misgendered, harrassed, etc. just for needing fucking medical care for my goddamn vagina.

Every story of a trans guy I see now is always “man who understands what it’s like to be a womanly woman victim so he protects the precious woman womanly victims by being a homicidal meat shield.”

My aunt the other day said “you should infiltrate the men’s spaces and fix them”.

“Do you REALLY want trans men in your bathrooms?? Checkmate republicans!!”

I’m gonna fucking scream. I hate cis people. I hate cis people so fucking much.

I don’t hate cis people, actually. I just want to be seen as a fucking person. I’m either a walking uterus, or a fucking meat shield, or therapist to ‘fix’ cis men.

Cis men are not my fucking responsibility. My safety matters more than your precious ‘feelings’ about me being at a fucking gynocologist’s office. Cis women are exactly like cis men and I’m fucking tired of pretending they aren’t, BOTH OF YOU are fucking AWFUL. You are cruel to my sisters and my siblings, you are cruel to my brothers, and then you project your shitty ass binary oppression systems onto us and fuck our community up.

No one is innately or inherently evil. Thats what makes this even more painful for me, because there really is no excuse for cis people to be this fucking cruel. To us and to each other.

Figure your own shit out, cis men aren’t our fucking problem. We can be examples of positive masculinity, but that’s it.

I will never forgive cis allies for their failures to protect us when we asked for the bare fucking minimum of ‘pregnant person’ ‘those who can get pregnant’ and ‘those who menstruate/have uteruses’ and instead chose to fucking abandon and ridicule us. Fuck you.

Tbf they don’t even actually care about trans women either, you’ve seen how they treat trans women that are butch, pre E, or don’t pass. They just say they do for social credit ‘woke’ points. The only ppl I’ve seen support trans men are trans women, intersex folks, and nonbinary people. Thats it. Dead fucking silence from cis ‘allies’.

Then when a small group of mean girls of the gender swap variety start bullying trans men suddenly fucking cis people immediately froth at the mouth and take that as permission to harass us and deny our oppression.

Alas, one cannot expect bots, especially porn bots, to tag correctly unfortunately.

If you're the type of person who automatically assumes men are bad people, then I have news for you. That assumption isn't going to wait until I tell you I'm trans. You're going to—whether subconsciously or consciously—assume I am just a man, and even after I tell you I am a trans woman your perception of me will still be permanently altered.

Discriminatatory beliefs aren't going to wait for me to tell you my pronouns.

I grew up in Florida, where at the age of twelve I was a victim of terror campaigns telling adults that I was going to sexually assault their children in the bathrooms, specifically because of the reason that 'men are all evil.'

I went through way too much at the hands of those people to see practically every ""leftist"" online continuing to push that ideology. Unlearn it. Please. It directly affects us trans women, too.

I still, to this day, have internalized this ideology, and I cannot look at myself in the fucking mirror because I think to myself people see me as a threat, no one feels safe around me. As a direct result of 'all men are evil.'