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*dusts off cobwebs* A life update!

So I abandoned my poor blog and channeled my fangirling energies into graduating with honors. (Woohoo!)

Now that I have my BA in Religion-Philosophy (feel free to read it as "Badass in Religion-Philosophy because I do) I am MOVING

to SAN FRANCISCO.

Okay, so I'll be in the greater Bay area near Berkeley to do dual Masters' degrees before moving on to either get a jahb or a PhD.

At any rate, I really miss you all and wanted to keep you apprised of Things In My Life That I Am Happy About. This is one of those Things.

If any of you in the DRA-fam/Avett fam/etc live in the area and want to hang out, please let me know! We'll be neighbors for about 4 years.

And everyone else, big hugs and kisses! Missed you all. Thanks for being such amazing friends. I keep a warm place in my heart for each one of you.

xoxo

Brookie

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Repeat: I will not let it get to me.

I will not let it get to me. I will not let it get to me. I will not let it get to me.

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50 Shades of Abuse Flyer - Canada

Use, redistribute, print.

Click image and magnify for large version.

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Okay. I understood all the flack Twilight got for being an abusive relationship. Because it was and it was being read by a very young and impressionable audience. But ffs, 50 Shades is an ADULT NOVEL. Iit is about a BDSM couple. Which - newsflash - do exist. It is a completely consensual form of dominate/submissive sex play. The whole concept of domestic violence and abuse is that one side exerts control over an unwilling victim. I don’t recall Anastasia, or whatever she’s called, protesting to Christian’s form of sex. If I remember correctly, she quite enjoyed it! So before you condemn a work of romanticized fiction, actually consider it’s audience and remember that they are mature and capable enough to know the difference between reality and fiction.

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so i guess you didn’t read the parts where he coerces her and the part where he continues after she has used her safeword and acts like a fucking creep whenever they aren’t having sex

it is the worst possible introduction to BDSM i could imagine

i know my shit okay

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im hoping the people defending this book are 1. never getting into BDSM 2. not currently into BDSM 3. havent read the book bc i dont want to believe anyone is that fucking stupid

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Let me

just

fucking

drop

some fucking

knowledge on you right now.

Wanna know the BDSM mantra? Safe, sane, consensual.

So let me explain why this book was devoid of all three of these things.

Safe - In the first few chapters of the novel, Christian Grey tracks Ana’s cell phone to find her at a club. Takes her home when she’s drunk, changes her when she’s so intoxicated she doesn’t remember him doing so,and informs her he will be keeping tabs on her for her own benefit. This is not the behaviour of a respectable Dominant. This is the behaviour of a power hungry, abusive asshole who really can’t take no for an answer.

Sane - One of the most important parts of BDSM is aftercare. Scenes can be extremely traumatizing and intense for the submissive. Aftercare is anything from petting to cuddling to holding to sweet talking, whatever degree of gentleness a bottom would need to pull them out of “subspace”. How does Christian provide aftercare? He submits Ana to a traumatizing first time spanking experience AND THEN FUCKING LEAVES. AND GETS MAD THAT SHE DIDN’T TELL HIM SHE WAS UPSET. He’s the one who should fucking know better! That, again, is not the act of a responsible Dominant. It’s the act of a selfish abuser.

Consensual - Did I mention he undressed her when she was belligerently drunk? Tracked her phone to locate her? He also buys her a new car despite her saying no countless times. Now, consent is important for any kind of sexual activity at all. Consent means informed, consent means enthusiastic. Informed, enthusiastic consent. This is crucial in a BDSM setting. Scenes can be extremely intense, especially for the bottom. What is Christian’s form of obtaining consent? Handing Ana a fucking contract highlighting all the things he wants to do her asshole and asking her to sign it. She was a virgin (Don’t even get me fucking started.) who had never before been exposed to BDSM. Entering in that kind of relationship takes a gargantuan amount of trust and knowledge so you know exactly what you’re getting into. Not reading a list of kinks on a piece of paper and signing your rights to say no away. Christian didn’t offer her resources, he didn’t offer her information. He gave her an ultimatum. That is not the sort of consent a responsible Dom/me would seek from their submissive.

Fuck. This. book. It’s written in a shitty way, it’s a terrible example of a BDSM relationship (ask anybody already involved in the lifestyle and watch them go blue in the face just thinking about it), which is already faced with enough prejudice and misunderstand, and it romanticizes and glorifies abuse.

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For someone to consent to BDSM, they have to give consent to begin with. Christian pretends to talk and discuss with her what the limits will be, but when you are having the discussion about what everyone is okay with, you cannot do that as dominant and submissive- she wasn’t given the chance to consent, she was told ‘this is what you, as my sub, will consent to.’

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This is why I always have a blank face when people are praising this book.

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my hatred for this series is deep and pure. I want to print this off and put it up in Coles.

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Okay, these are pretty funny.

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The only enjoyable thing I have seen on tumblr all night.

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The next time someone defends their patronage of Ayn Rand’s economic theory with their Christian faith, I reserve the right to hit them over the head with a leatherbound copy of the Sermon on the Mount.

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(I am Brookie and I approve this message!)

Stop complaining college kids!!!

I'm sitting in my bed trying to not be sick all over myself because of a chronic illness flare-up combined with some fucking ugly medication side effects. I did not choose to be sick but I'm putting up with it and not complaining because this is my life and I will make the best of it.

When I see students complaining about having to take three midterms, I ask myself, what did they expect? You registered for college, moved into a dorm, signed up for these classes and have had the syllabi for months and now you see fit to complain? If you are so adverse to tests and learning, stop going to school! Take responsibility for your life and your choices. Change those things that bother you. Some of us don't have that ability.

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Johnny Galecki, regarding rumors about him being gay.

This is one of the best statements given by an actor.

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I will always reblog this. Smartest answer EVER.

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Waiting for the day when I can steal this line.

Chilltime

It is officially chill time for Brooklynns.

No homework that I plan on doing

one class tomorrow

work week got me all wound up and exhausted

plus that whole ladytimeofthemonth thing

I'm going to sit in my recliner and read fanfiction all evening

Haters gonna hate.

Oh well hey there tumblr world

Good to be back. Even if I'm only back to terrorize Sam... ;)

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Might I suggest that before you come to tech support for help forwarding your email, you should have memorized your passwords!!!!!

It's the third week of school, folks. How do you get this long without it?

Was told something I just said sounded "110% like you were on NPR"

by one of my roomies.

Best thing you could ever say to me!

#I FUCKING LOVE PUBLIC RADIO OKAY

When I say, "I'm not working", what I meant was:

I am not being paid to work this week

The request you are asking me to fulfill is considered "work" and I'm not doing it, unpaid, for you

If you think it fits under my job description, wait until the fiscal year rolls over and I'm back on payroll andthenask me to do what you want and I'll bill you the hours.

#cue z-snap

Person: what's your biggest fear?

Me: season finales

#mmm yep

I am so humbled and grateful

by the kindness of my friends and perfect strangers to the harsh and unkind comments I have received lately on my facebook. I am feeling so very loved right now, and I thank you all from the bottom of my heart!

Nothing heals the heart quite as well as the kindness of a friend :)

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I just read the comments on your fb, and all I can say is *hugs*. I can't believe the way that these "adults" are conducting themselves for all of the Internet to see. Hopefully, Caroline Birchmore will understand that love is love, equality is love, and God is love. And that oppressing an entire fraction of His children in His name is wrong. I love you, and ANYbody would be thrilled to have you as a spiritual example. <3

Thank you so much <3 it really means so much to me!

I don't think I have cried this hard or been this heartbroken since I officiated my grandfather's funeral.

People can be so cruel.

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