This is a very old message. But thanks, it cheered me up many years later

Most definitely. Idt that was the initial reason the relationship started out anything but I definitely feel like I was just their live in housekeeper for 6 months. Also it's crazy the way people really fought tooth and nail to defend them, when they spoke so openly in front of me about how they could and would use other people.

This is probably like years old but I'll answer it. I usually lament over the fact that I put way more effort into a lot of my friendships than I feel is reciprocated, most of the time. I agonize over it actually. But I don't usually do anything about it because I know at the end of the day my friends and I are all adults, with adult lives and adult problems. And growing up means sometimes you have to realize that relationship dynamics can change and that's okay.