Pro-Recovery//Pro-Wallowing

i deserve to be heard

i deserve to take up space

i deserve to have my needs met

i exist for myself, my life is mine to live

i do not have to put everyone else's needs before my own

i deserve to be safe

i am worthy of gentle, supportive, understanding, and compassionate love

it was not my fault, i was a child, it was not my job to be the parent

it is my responsibility to learn how to care for myself and break the cycle

i can do the work, i am smart, i am capable, and i have resources to help myself

i am allowed to ask for help, i do not need to shoulder this burden alone

i am allowed to talk about my experiences and it is ok to tell others about the way i was treated

my trauma doesn't have to exceed a threshold of bad to be real, my trauma is real because it impacts me

although i feel shame and guilt, i accept myself as i am

We tend to have alexithymia, meaning we have difficulty identifying and describing own feelings. 

You can’t say how you feel if you legit don’t know.

Self monitoring is an executive function; our self awareness about how we are doing presently .. which is hampered in ADHDers. 

learning to be a good friend/partner

healing from depression, failures or heartbreak

becoming amazing at an art or skill

overcoming anxiety, insecurities and low body image

overcoming the need to isolate yourself

changing self-hating thoughts to kinder ones

making a real connection with someone

overcoming self-defeating and self-sabotaging thoughts

learning how to study effectively

finding a sense of stability and calmness at your core

quitting habits or addictions

leaving people and behaviours that turn you into the worst version of yourself

getting used to healthier coping mechanisms & mindsets that feel fake

treating yourself like you truly care about yourself