But she’s not wrong. How is it we have all that black male celebrities, especially the ones that quickly come to mind like Terrace Howard, Kevin Hart, Taye Diggs, etc that are dating light skinned, racially ambiguous black women or non black women? Half of these men came out their face at one point or another about black women, particularly dark skinned black women, like Kevin Hart. Others, like Taye Diggs decided that their kids weren’t black (until they got dragged for it). Music videos by black males artists, especially these days hardly feature obviously black women. Even back when we were kids, love interest in an R&B music video is most likely to be light skinned with 3c curls. Then you have examples like Harry Belafonte and Sidney Poitier that didn’t date black women because they felt black women would hold them back. Plenty of black male Pan-African leaders, particularly the ones that were tied to African nations dated/married white women. You think these ideas and images haven’t subconsciously trickled the fuck down? You think everyday black males don’t take all this in from black men they’re told to admire and don’t want to emulate that? I’ve been around black boys & men all my life. Most of the the guys I’ve grown up with now drool over & idolize black women that are racially ambiguous, which means light skin with “good” hair, which means a black girl that might be able to pass for “Spanish” or “foreign”. I see it from black males on Tumblr all the time too. And I’m sure plenty of other black women can say the same. Ya’ll quick to dismiss people’s lived experiences and go back to insulting dark skinned black women, but then wanna play confused and pass judgement when these girls grow up to be like Lil Kim & start renouncing their blackness. Do me a favor please @blckoutsticks, before you start claiming that people are citing bad examples, make sure that you’re not calling these men bad examples because YOU ( or your friends,as far as you know) personally don’t think that way about dark skinned women. The truth is, off bare observation alone I’ve seen more famous black men with light skinned racially ambiguous black women or nonblack women than I’ve seen it the other way around. And the dynamic definitely changes when the roles are reversed as well. When it’s a black man, the defense is “it’s just his preference”. When it’s a black woman, there is no defense. She’s a bed wench, white identified etc. From looking at what was said, you don’t sound like you came to discuss anything. You came off as more wanting to dismiss what was said, likely because you’re basing it off your own feelings. Please check that before you go any further.
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