my mom did many really really good parenting things that i didnât realize were unusual until i became an adult and heard about other peopleâs less positive experiences
i will pass on to Current Youths ⢠a perspective she gave me back when i was maybeâŚ. 12
which was hugely impactful for my mental health
while most of my friends had parents who treated college as a default & anything other than that as a failure, this was what my mom told me
broken down to Bullet Point Principles
college might not be the path you want to take
there are other ways to study the topics that interest you
if you go to college, make sure youâre going either for the love of learning or with a clear end goal (a degree, certification, breadth of knowledge, etc) in mind
you might end up wanting to go to a trade school to do something with your hands
you might not want any post-high-school education at all
your career wonât define you and neither will your career opportunities
you can stay true to yourself even if you arenât a high-powered career woman clawing your way up the ranks
in fact youâll PROBABLY feel better doing menial mindless jobs & focusing your life around your spare time creative pursuits
[kitkat note about this one: absolutely true for me, may not be true for you]
you donât have to find a dream job
you donât have to have a detailed life plan
you donât have to follow the expected path or do what people tell you to just because they think youâd be good at it
you donât have to change the world
you donât have to make your passions your career
i ended up dropping out of high school for a large number of different reasons. but pearl clutching is unnecessary, this ^^ life outlook was not one of them. iâd have dropped out whether or not she told me this
having all of this in mind meant that i knew my life WASNâT OVER after i dropped out. so i failed at traditional education. so i wasnât gonna meet the potential everyone said i had. so i wasnât gonna go to college. so i was gonna disappoint some people. so my life was gonna be harder.
so what? i still had everything else
i am so so SO grateful to my mom for this. it was such a healthy outlook on school and future expectations & it gave me total freedom to do and be who i want to be. & that is why iâm sharing it. because when youâre in high school, EVERYTHING is ABOUT high school. failures in high school feel like the end of the world
theyâre not. i promise. donât trick yourself into thinking they are