Blue Moon Desires

walk normally, strolling

hold her leash instead of her hand

always keep a collar on her

(maybe she can earn sleeping without it)

she has to wear a tag anytime the backdoor is open, even though she knows to stay in the yard

stop her at the front door and clip the leash on

buckle her into the car seat before unclipping her, and you clip her again before she can get out of the car

she’s not allowed to touch it, her collar or the leashes, touching them doesn’t occur to her as a possibility

let her have different collars, matching sets, bows; let her pick collars to match her outfits; let her style them, let her enjoy them

get waterproof collars so she can always go out for a potty break, whenever you need it; you can hose her down securely when you’re done

train her until she knows being collared and leashed keeps her safe, this is normal, this is just how life works, train her until she doesn’t even think about it

until she doesn’t question why she wears it and no one else they see does, until she doesn’t register what other people are noticing

train her until she feels naked without it, anxious, scared to be off-leash

get a long lead and a harness for hiking, so she can explore and you can just tug her back; get a stake and line for camping; get a tracking tag so you can know she’s still obeying while you do other things; get a bungee leash so you can take her running

get her velvet collars for special occasions; get her leather collars for country houses and ski lodges; get her sherpa lined collars and fur collars to keep her warm in winter

get her martingale collars when she needs a firm hand

you train her well, you take care of her

A true d/s relationship requires high prioritization. A submissive is trusting you to care for their emotions while you are wielding power of them. This isn’t a dynamic for someone who just wants kinky sex. You need to learn your submissive’s triggers, their trauma, their blindspots, and their nonverbal cues that they are past the point of being able to safe word. It’s not just about pleasure and getting off. You need to be prepared to reassure your submissive that they’re valuable to you as a person. Sometimes you’ll need to know that they need this when they might not know themself. Because to be a dominant is a power role. That power can easily become unbalanced and easily become abusive if you’re not constantly communicating and being conscious of the impact of your words and actions.