Ace of Pups

There’s a difference between someone who books sessions and someone who tries to avoid paying for them by dressing it up as ‘connection.’

If your entire goal is still access, attention, intimacy, physical interaction, or emotional closeness, but your strategy is trying to bypass paying for someone’s time, labor, energy, and experience by insisting you’re ‘different,’ that’s not authenticity. That’s entitlement wearing a friendship costume.

Rebranding it doesn’t make it different.

You are not morally above sessions because you renamed the motive behind them. Which is especially ironic considering I don’t even do sessions in the first place. In fact, some of the loudest ‘I’m not a session guy’ people spend the most time trying to angle for exactly the same access, just without respecting the work behind it.

Access is not automatically earned because you call it chemistry. And someone’s boundaries, labor, or professional role do not suddenly disappear because you insist your intentions are more meaningful than everyone else’s.

Make sure to take some self care for yourself. Thank you again for sharing all of this with us all to see.

Translation: let’s make people feel guilty for expressing that they felt excluded, isolated, disappointed, uncomfortable, or misled.

No, people are not “owed” chemistry or play. Nobody said they were. But let’s stop pretending these events are some organic little social mixer where everyone walks in on equal footing. They’re not.

A huge amount of the social hierarchy, networking, flirting, vetting, clique-building, and private play arrangements happen long before the event even starts. Discords, side chats, private groups, insider circles. People literally treat it like kink Tinder for weeks beforehand.

So when newer attendees show up expecting a welcoming community experience and instead discover half the event dynamics were already decided behind digital velvet ropes, their disappointment is understandable. That isn’t entitlement. That’s reality colliding with marketing.

And honestly? Posts like this feel less like insight and more like community conditioning:

“If you had a bad experience, the problem is your mindset.”

No. Sometimes the culture deserves criticism too.

Maybe instead of psychoanalyzing disappointed attendees, organizers and longtime clique members should examine the environments they actively help create. Because from the outside looking in, a lot of these spaces feel less like “community” and more like tiny private kingdoms with hotel keycards.

Translation: let’s make people feel guilty for expressing that they felt excluded, isolated, disappointed, uncomfortable, or misled.

No, people are not “owed” chemistry or play. Nobody said they were. But let’s stop pretending these events are some organic little social mixer where everyone walks in on equal footing. They’re not.

A huge amount of the social hierarchy, networking, flirting, vetting, clique-building, and private play arrangements happen long before the event even starts. Discords, side chats, private groups, insider circles. People literally treat it like kink Tinder for weeks beforehand.

So when newer attendees show up expecting a welcoming community experience and instead discover half the event dynamics were already decided behind digital velvet ropes, their disappointment is understandable. That isn’t entitlement. That’s reality colliding with marketing.

And honestly? Posts like this feel less like insight and more like community conditioning:

“If you had a bad experience, the problem is your mindset.”

No. Sometimes the culture deserves criticism too.

Maybe instead of psychoanalyzing disappointed attendees, organizers and longtime clique members should examine the environments they actively help create. Because from the outside looking in, a lot of these spaces feel less like “community” and more like tiny private kingdoms with hotel keycards.

You keep acting like you “never called me out” or “never involved yourself,” when you were one of the very first people publicly engaging with posts about me and supporting narratives about a situation you did not fully know.

And let’s stop pretending there was confusion about who those posts were about.

Daisy admitted in writing that the original posts were about me and others involved. I have that. You knew exactly what was being discussed, and you still chose to engage publicly instead of stepping back or taking your own posts down.

So please stop with the “I didn’t know” and “I never said her name” defense, especially when you very recently made a post using my name repeatedly yourself.

At the time, I stayed quiet.

I tried to handle things privately. I was not trying to create community discourse, “cancel” anyone, or start public fights. I repeatedly asked for respect, for boundaries to be acknowledged, and for harmful posts to be taken down.

Instead, I got publicly dissected for finally speaking up about someone hurting me and ignoring my boundaries.

And after all of that?

I’m the one who ended up banned from events across the country while the people involved continue attending freely.

So explain that logic to me.

Do you genuinely think it was acceptable for someone’s partner to publicly and falsely accuse me of sexual assault online and refuse to remove it?

That is not “education.”

That is not “accountability.”

That is an extremely serious accusation to weaponize against someone because you are angry at them for speaking up.

Sexual assault is not fandom discourse. It is not a Tumblr clapback. It is not a social strategy.

I know exactly how serious it is because I survived it myself when I was younger, and later became a date rape counselor in college. I have always taken these issues seriously, and I will continue protecting people and speaking about boundaries regardless of how many people try to twist that into something ugly.

Let’s get back to the core issue:

I was hurt.

My boundaries were ignored.

And I spoke about it.

Stop pretending that me acknowledging what happened to me is somehow worse than the actual behavior itself.

And honestly, I’m getting real tired of the constant bringing up of this shit through vague-posts, commentary, “not about anyone 👀” posts, and indirect jabs.

You’re unblocked.

If you genuinely think you’re taking the high road here, then act like an adult and approach me privately instead of constantly feeding public discourse while pretending you’re above it.

I never came after you personally.

I never did anything to you.

So enough already.

And since people keep conveniently leaving this part out:

I did take this situation to court.

The judge explicitly stated that the evidence favored me, not them, and even suggested that I could pursue defamation claims in court over what was said publicly about me.

Have I done that?

No.

But I am also not opposed to protecting my rights, my privacy, and my reputation if people insist on continuing this behavior.

You don’t actually know me.

You’ve never met me.

You’ve never spoken to me privately.

You’ve never asked me for my side of anything.

And honestly, that’s the unfortunate part in all of this.

Because outside of defending myself when I feel intentionally wronged, I have always been one of the most inclusive, supportive, and approachable people in this community. That’s why SEVENTEEN people asked to session with me at Bella Bash. How many asked you?

You cannot spend months indirectly commenting on people, fueling discourse, and feeding narratives, then suddenly clutch your pearls when someone finally answers back.

The rules do not magically change depending on whose clique is speaking.

And the part none of you seem willing to actually address is this:

When exactly are any of you going to address the actual injury?

The scar on my foot?

The boundary crossing?

The fact that I repeatedly said I was hurt?

Because all I keep seeing is people trying to discredit the person speaking instead of confronting the behavior being spoken about.

I’m done talking about this after this post.

I said what I needed to say. I defended myself. I clarified the facts. I stood up for myself after staying quiet far longer than I should have.

And the part that continues to be wild to me is that I’m actually the one with evidence.

Screenshots.

Messages.

Documentation.

Court records.

Funny how that keeps getting ignored because it’s inconvenient.

Everybody knows there is actual evidence behind what I’m saying, which is exactly why the response has mostly turned into vague-posting, narrative-spinning, and clique behavior instead of directly addressing the facts.

So if people continue dragging this out, taking shots, or trying to reignite discourse after this, that is on them, not me.

At that point, you are choosing to continue this.

The support I’ve received speaks for itself, and most people outside the same small little grooming clique can clearly see what this has turned into.

So seriously:

DROP IT ALREADY

Because I’ve tried very hard to handle this calmly and reasonably, and I would strongly recommend not pushing me into full bitch mode over people who never should’ve involved themselves in the first place.

#the tickle mafia hates losing control of the narrative

#you do not get to publicly involve yourself and then pretend you were neutral later

#consent and boundaries should still matter when the popular people are involved

#stop calling it education when it’s just socially acceptable dogpiling

#being hurt by someone is not the same thing as “starting drama”

#the clique always tells on itself eventually

#if your version of accountability only goes one direction people notice

I totally get it, there isn't a list as far as I know😭 although I know there's a big part of the community on Twitter, but I don't use Twitter so I wouldn't know at all about that 🙄 I learn about offenders just by following "big names" in the community on here and seeing them spreading info about incidents.

usually "known offenders" are only known because the callout posts go "viral" within the community. I'm certainly not privy to the entire list of "known" people because I am not fully engrained into that side of the community.

Ive been around in the community since 2015, but my memory isn't the greatest and I tend to hang around the sidelines anyway. the only incident I feel fully confident mentioning is what happened involving Harmony and Rez recently. I'd suggest heading to @/tickleharmony for info on that!! she's been very vocal with receipts about her expirience!!

in terms of others...it's hard. callout posts come and go, and people don't tend to enjoy talking about past incidents because "cancelation" doesn't really happen in this community. by the time others are standing around going "wait wtf happened? Who did what?" people have already stopped caring and started letting offenders reintegrate again, so no one wants to name names. plus, not everyone is up for the mental challenge of talking about trauma whenever they're asked, so it's a rock and a hard place. I would name names if I had a better memory/access to my old accounts and such 😭 the only name I can give rn is Rez. I'm a rough person to ask cuz I'm so third party about alot of this. I see, I believe, I block, I forget. none of these people are in my inner circle, so Im not inclined to remember them past that 😭