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As we move deep into September, most universities have finished freshers week (at least in the UK) and are starting to teach.

This is both really exciting, but can lead to some problems - especially for my fellow migraine spoonies.

Because, it is a truth that is universally acknowledged, that a migraine will hit at the worst time possible.

Every time.

I have never had one yet that would come on when it was convenient.

And while some things can be put on hold - other deadlines just can't. As a recent uni student, I know that very painful feeling.

So today I wanted to share a few personal tips I found that let me at least get a little work done when a migraine hit.

But a quick reminder before we get to the list - these are only from personal experience (and they certainly won't make the pain go away when a migraine hits). These tips don't treat migraines, and I'm not recommending working through one either. These tips are not a substitute for taking a proper break, medication, and resting.

Let's get started:

Change fonts to those that are easier on the eyes – such as comic sans or other dyslexia friendly fonts - I personally like to use Comic sans as I find it very easy to read – especially with a headache. But play around and find which fonts work best for you.

Change the background colour in Word to something other than white, or activate night mode (if your device has this available) - I personally have found that changing the background to a soft grey in Word really helps me when I am working. But again, try out different colours and find what works best for you.

 Take regular screen breaks - These do not have to be long. It is commonly recommended that every 20 mins you should look at something that is 20 feet away from you for 20 seconds. Alternative breakdowns could be working for 30 mins, and then looking away from the screens for 5 mins. When I am experiencing a migraine attack, the screen time is dramatically reduced, and the rest time increases.

What tips do you have that allow you to finish time-sensitive work when experiencing a migraine? Let me know in the comments below!

Sending spoonie hugs!

Putting cleaning wipes, deodorant and lotion in reach of your bed

putting baby wipes in reach of the toilet

Breaking up tasks and doing them with breaks in between and as much in bed/sitting down as you can. For example i can brush my teeth more often if i wash my face not in the sink but in bed

Baby wipes, makeup wipes, disposable wash cloths, disposable toothbrushes, etc. exist to help. Use them if you can and don't be afraid to create trash

Make sure to lay, lean, and sit as much as possible. It’s ok to take time, it’s ok to take breaks.

Sitting down at the table, I remembered the scars on my arm. The universal signifier of "This Kid Needs Help." Maybe his kindness was only out of pity. He saw those and assumed there was some great misery and wanted to offer me some relief. It's generally good to be kind to people who are hurting. But I wasn't hurting that bad.

The thing is, there is some great misery. People generally aren't doing that great. There is a great misery within me and within him and within everyone, and some people notice the pain, some people express it, others don't. But we all suffer from something.

It doesn't matter if someone seems to deserve some relief. Everyone needs it. Everyone is suffering constantly. Some more than others, but still. This Kid Needs Help applies to everyone.

Thirty minutes later, I went to get a second pastry, intending to pay and leave a tip this time. It was the same cashier. As he reached to grab it for me, I saw scars on his arm.

Could only add one link here, but both are free PDFs on kofi.

a neophallus can get erect with an implant (this will either be a bendable rod or a device that inflates with saline at the press of a button, usually in the testicles)

both can feel sexual pleasure and experience orgasm

most neovaginas will be able to tolerate larger insertions with enough dilating/training

the nerves in neophalluses take a while to regrow but it is incredibly rare to experience no sexual nerve growth

both can look and feel "normal" if that's what you want, just take good care of your scars and look at your surgeons' results portfolio (and don't be afraid to be picky! its your genitals, you get to decide!)

in fact it's possible for many people to stealth and for their sexual partners to never know. even for phallo, some people with natal penises have erectile implants too, ED is common. neocaginas are often indistinguishable from natal vaginas

many surgeons are starting to offer preservation options for patients who want a more mixed look/don't want to lose what they have