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tbh, its not gay to want a lil dick in your ass as a cis man.

not all men have large penises [trans, intersex, disabled/castrated men might have small penises or lost their penis all together or had bottom surgery for body dysphoria treatment] and the restrictive top v. bottom cultural expectations have forced many people into undesirable positions in service to patriarchal values rather than sexual pleasure.

The reality is it is only gay when you actively seek to have sex with a man.

Gay sex is when you want to have sex with another man, it is bioessentialist to assume every man has a penis longer than 4 inches[10.172cm] and 2 testes in a scrotum[aka; the package]. I dont necessarily enjoy getting this medically specific but these are the things people are referring to when they say "normal" when they're enforcing binary sex [only] characteristics. the "grower" v. "show-er" phenomenon directly challenges that ideology[pseudoscience/eugenics] but most biological research is targeted on producing higher sperm counts and larger penises.

This is happening parallel to accountability for mens mental health/loneliness epidemic is being tossed like a hot potato between groups and feminists being blamed whenever they bring up the rise in violence that is a consequence of this widely going unaddressed.

Its clear where cisheteromen's priorities are; and yes it is most definitely a consequence of capitalist yt supremacist eugenics. it is absolutely a consequence of abrahamic religion[ '"god" told you that rape was ok and that you need to circumcise your baby.' there are public officials and major tech executives still in office after it was revealed that they assault and consume poor peoples children for sport. & people are still participating in this fucked up society]

it is absolutely in correlation with youth obsession with guns and high rates teenage black and indigenous women and girls being kidnapped and assaulted. it is definitely leading to apathy and sometimes even encouragement of the assault of trans and gender expansive individuals.

it definitely enables harmful stereotypes that objectify["dehumanise"] black women & men, asian women & men, many transwomen and many lesbians["your love is not real because your sex doesn't centre penetration or a "real" penis].

they mean real in the imaginations of cis white men. anything else is relic or freak of nature, or just simply capital for exploitation.

so, if you think you're heterosexual as a man, and you want to have sex with someone who identifies as a woman; it doesnt matter how they're fucking you.

also no one has to know if you feel like you're feminine for receiving vs giving; all of it is subjective and yours to experience rather than for others to analyse and categorise.

it shouldn't have to be explained or defended; nor should people's gender/attraction, preference in the context of consenting adults in a mutualist agreement.

its cishetero people that make up and enforce these rules and expectations on sex and genitalia that people in general break and disprove simply by existing within their own body and living their life.

binaries are imaginary cages