A perfect love

For the most part, her rules are based on what she asked me to hold her accountable for so, she doesn’t have too many she doesn’t like.  According to her, these are the worst: 

-Bed time @ 10:00 Sunday thru Thursday.

-No Caffeine after 4:00pm.  

-Spending limit of $10 before she needs to ask.  

The spending limit is the one that makes her the craziest.  She may have had a wee bit of a shopping problem before she met me.

The definition of demisexuality: not experiencing sexual attraction without a strong emotional bond.

The world: That’s what regular people do.

Reality: What regular people do is find someone sexually attractive and get to know the person, most likely via dating for a relative amount of time, to determine if they’re worth a relationship and/or having sex with. Thus, the results determine the action, not the attraction, which was already there.

For a demisexual, the results of interactions with a potential partner determine the attraction, which was not there already. So things like flirting aren’t really going to get our attention because we haven’t established a sexual attraction for the flirter.

There’s a “but” coming:

Even if a demisexual happens to develop strong enough of a bond with another person, it doesn’t necessarily mean they will become sexually attracted to them, but they might be more open to intimacy with them.