Obsidian Musings

Vocabulary

01. Word hippo

02. One look

03. Power thesaurus

04. Visual thesaurus

Dialogue tags

01. 300 words to use instead of said

02. 550+ alternative words for said

03. 200+ other words for said

(These pictures are not mine. Let me know if you know OP!)

TheLadyInTweed

Art Nouveau Snake Ring

French Circa 1900

Gold, Enamel, Emerald and Diamond

happy valentine's day ♥︎ 

AGAIN, VERY LARGE MIGHTY NEIN SPOILERS FOR EPISODE 26/30

I'm doing the unthinkable and actually finishing off the wips in my 'finish this at some point' folder. This comic was about 90% done for almost 6 years, I just needed to finish colouring it when I burnt out majorly. I've been meeting more and more comic artists lately and it kind of lit a fire under my butt to actually finish the thing. I'd struggled with the colours of it back then until someone told me to just...not colour it? I was like wait I can do that? Turns out that works pretty well and it got finished.

And then when the promised day actually came and he put his plans into motion, everything just radially collapsed from there. And it wasn't due to the maneuvering of some other party who heroically foiled his plans, but because he fundamentally misunderstood the nature of the power he wielded. Half his orders just didn't get followed! For all the legal authority he had, for all his high school buddies he'd installed in positions of power, if the boots on the ground didn't have the heart to do what he said then none of it mattered. He had the entrances to the National Assembly blocked to keep the lawmakers from cancelling the martial law order and they just broke in in full view of the soldiers.

Working on a new set of stamp designs and these are the first two illustrations, this one will be themed around snakes and berries 🐍

in my case it definitely helps that I teach kids martial arts classes at a boxing gym with a lot of women. so little boys just factually cannot tell me that girls can't fight or aren't strong or something, because they're constantly surrounded by proof that isn't true. also rules are very different in a boxing gym so if a kid is being a little shit I'm allowed to pick them up and put them in upside down air jail. you probably can't do this in most contexts.

I think the biggest thing is that they need to see men and other boys listening to women. they're following the example that's been set for that. at home maybe their dad never listens to their mom, but when they show up at my class all the other boys are following my instructions. peer pressure is real and you can use it to your advantage. I make a point to tell the biggest buffest manliest dudes what to do in front of the little boys. now this works because those dudes already listen to me, but getting any dudes to follow your instructions could probably work.

the best punishment is the natural consequences of your behavior. if a kid isn't going to listen to me, he doesn't get to do class. this works because class is fun and he wants to kick stuff and hit people with noodles. kids want to have fun more than they want to misbehave. as long as listening to me is more fun than misbehaving, they'll listen.

because these boys are learning this behavior from their dads, the dads also tend to be the kind of tough strict emotionally distant parents that would yell at "girly" behavior or crying. even when I'm strict with the kids, I never yell, I obviously never hurt them, and I always listen. they want to yap at me about pokemon or youtubers. it can be tough when they're really sexist at the beginning but eventually they will show you something that their dad wouldn't approve of, whether they want a pink noodle or quietly mention they like a girly show. this is the part where you simultaneously act like it's no big deal while encouraging it. you need show it's completely normal for a boy to want or like that. if you can, bring up another boy or man they know who likes the same thing. I always show off my nails to the kids and bring over the guy who also paints his nails. you'll probably get "boys can do that?" comments and I usually just go "well he's a boy and he did it, so unless his hand falls off right now I think it's okay"

for me, it's always eventually gotten to a point where the boys realize that everyone else thinks it's normal to listen to women, and that if they want to have fun they need to listen too. they also realize that these people and these women are nicer and listen to them more than their dad does. they notice how all these nice people that make them happy talk to women very differently than their dad does. when those boys yelled at their dads for being rude to me, I made a point to thank them and say that they were right and their dads were rude.